Before we keep going with more practical tips in this series on ‘Building a Modest Wardrobe‘, I want to ask you one question –
Why do you dress modestly?
Seriously, do you have a solid answer?
Are you doing it because your best friend does it? Is it because your church promotes it and you want to fit in? Is it because of reading Deuteronomy 22:5 and feeling like it was telling you not to wear pants? Or are you wearing skirts because your husband/father prefers them?
If you are committed to modesty, you need to have your own answer. If you are still under your father’s authority (I know there are some teens that read this blog) then you need to submit to his leading. But it would be good to search out what you think and have an answer for yourself.
I’ve shared before that I don’t wear dresses and skirts because of Deuteronomy 22:5. I’ve also shared that I have worn some jeans more recently with longer tunic shirts. What I’ve never shared is the raw, emotional story behind what keeps me pressing on my journey to be not only modest, but feminine.
I don’t just strive to be modest. It’s very important to me, but also at the forefront of my mind is “does this look feminine”? You can look modest in a feed sack but you might not look very feminine. I have a deep desire to look feminine for the sake of my children, my husband, and the world around me.
When I was 16, someone that I loved very dearly announced that they were gay. Even though I wasn’t very familiar with what homosexuality was at the time, I knew enough for it to be a total shock. My parents raised me to save myself for my husband, to stay pure both emotionally and physically, etc. but the concept of homosexuality wasn’t addressed very much. So not only was I dealing with the grief of this person walking away from the Godly teachings of their youth, but I was also having my eyes opened to the nature of the sin they had yielded to.
I walked away from that situation with a deep desire to be a true woman of God. That desire has never left me. I want to raise children who can rest in the fact that God has created them as a man or a woman and designed them that they might grow and mature and perhaps be married to someone of the opposite sex. It’s amazing to say, but this belief is quickly becoming taboo. It is, however, a scriptural truth and as unchangeable as the Being who ordained it so.
I have a personal story of what drives me forward in this journey of not only modesty, but also femininity. I feel like the two can go hand in hand and you can find such a joy in dressing modestly when you try to be feminine as well. There can be a difference. I rejoice in feminine things. That doesn’t mean you have to like everything pink. I recently saw a young lady I know wear a coral maxi skirt, and a solid color top with a cameo scarf, complete with cowboy boots! There was no doubt that she looked feminine, but she was expressing her unique femininity through her wardrobe.
Today I challenge you to dig down deep, and discover not only what your desire for modesty is, but how thankful you are for God creating you to be a woman!
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