His Grace is Sufficient | themodestmomblog.com

The holidays are normally a time when the calendar is booked full. There are special worship services, family gatherings, dinners with friends, musical concerts, and many opportunities for acts of service. To some, even the hustle bustle of shopping for loved ones is an enjoyable aspect of the season. I love this time of year.

This year is different for me though. This year I have chosen simplicity (or rather, it appears to have chosen me). Time at home to just breathe.

A few weeks ago I crashed (as I call it) as my Thyroid and Adrenal problems started coming back. I realized I’ve recently been living life like I never had any problems. I thank God that I’ve been feeling so good of late, so good in fact that I’ve neglected to care for myself as I ought. I’m now paying the cost of this neglect; but I’ve been here before and with God’s help, I will climb my way up out of this low point once again.

In the meantime, I’m giving myself grace. Time to be quiet. I’m not cramming my days full of every “needful” thing, because the list of “needful” things never ends. Several days I’ve gone to bed for the afternoon to rest.

The frustrating thing is that I look fine. And I act fine when I’m out and about. Nobody can guess that I’m having thyroid and adrenal issues and that I need quiet. And that is true of so many of us.

We can’t see the hurt, the pain, and the despair that exists inside of people. We all need grace, and we all need love and tenderness from other people. It is common to put on the brave face and tell everyone you are fine, when inside you are crying.

I learned long ago how hurtful people can be when others don’t feel well. I grew up with a mother who had seizures, and later became ill with Lupus. I was around sick beds and in hospitals with my mother many times. Well meaning people either spoke encouraging words that uplifted our souls for days to come, or they would say hurtful things – “it’s all your fault that you are sick, you just need more faith!” Such words brought nothing but more hurt to my mother.

We need to be tender with each other and show grace and mercy when one is weak. We should extend the hand of friendship during the good and the bad times – but especially the bad times. When I broke my foot a few months ago, I was surrounded with friends who brought us meals, and even friends online that I have never met sent us gift cards and gift baskets! My husband and I were amazed and humbled by the kindness that was shown to our family during this time. That is the body of Christ working together. And it is a beautiful thing.

Practically speaking, life must still go on. I can’t stop homeschooling, or drop my duties as a homemaker. Our business must continue. My husband still keeps crazy hours of staying up until 4 AM doing homework. I have just realized that I must make a better effort to rest more, to spend some time in the afternoon laying down if possible, to let all the business of the season go on around me while I merely live life.

We took a break from our regular social studies books last week and the boys read lots of history books on pilgrims. I did some of the unit study I put together for my girls, but I didn’t stress that we didn’t make it all the way through. Textbooks are a blessing to our family right now.

Life is simple but busy. Chaos still abounds, but my strength is in the Lord. He set my feet on this path, and He will see me through!

Take courage if you are overwhelmed and discouraged by events in your life. Stop to breathe, to give yourself grace as the Lord molds you through your weaknesses. In reality, you are probably doing a fabulous job of mothering your children, even though you feel like a failure. The day to day trenches are deep, and the road out of those trenches looks long. Just remember that the Lord walks in those trenches with you – you are not alone!

“And the Lord, he it is that doth go before thee; he will be with thee, he will not fail thee, neither forsake thee: fear not, neither be dismayed.” Deuteronomy 31:8

14 Comments on His Grace is Sufficient

  1. What a wonderful post! This hit close to home for me as I have dealt with lyme disease for over 3years now and only by God’s GRACE have I been able to take care of my family, homeschool my kiddos and enjoy God’s many blessings. I will pray for you to feel better. Thank you very much for your encouragement! May God bless you!

  2. Thank you for writing these encouraging words. I am a mama to five and battle a chronic illness…it is so easy to beat myself up for being unable to do everything I want to, but the Lord has shown me that He fills in the gaps. My children are amazing and He gets the credit for it. Your story brings me hope..because your mother, in spite of her health struggles has raised a kind, compassionate, loving woman who recognizes where her strength comes from. I will be praying for you.

  3. Your story brought tears to my eyes. Thank you for being so transparent, Caroline. His grace is indeed sufficient. Cyberhugs!

  4. Thank you for this, Caroline. I needed to hear it today. I’ll be praying for you during this time of rest. I very much understand where you are. Isn’t Christ good to give us what we need and the peace to go with it? Happy Thanksgiving to you and your precious family!

  5. Wonderful article, Caroline! It is almost as though you were listening to my prayers today. Thank you also for sharing the Deuteronomy 31:8 passage. I think I’ve seen “…fear not, neither be dismayed” half a dozen times in the last 24 hours. He wants to make sure I don’t forget.

  6. Thank you so very much for this post today. It is exactly what I needed to hear. I also have Adrenal fatigue. In the last couple of weeks I was feeling so much better, but yet again, I over did it. For the last two days I am paying the price. I am struggling to learn balance, to pace myself, so I don`t have to spend so much time resting. I desperately want to take care of my family. I am so thankful for Gods grace and the continuing lessons He is teaching me. Sending many prayers and hugs.

  7. Thank you for this great post, Caroline! I too am struggling in this season of being uncharacteristically weak and sore with this tenth pregnancy, following a couple surgeries which required me to rest more and not stay in the shape I have been in in the past. When people ask how I am doing, I have felt like the right thing to do is to be honest, which is humbling, but being “real” actually seems to encourage my friends. I tend to plan ahead, so I worry when I realize that I have 13 weeks more to go, and will likely grow quite a bit larger, more tired, and more sore! But I trust God for grace and strength for this day, and lean on the promise that He will work all things out for my good (Romans 8:28)

  8. Dear Caroline,

    It is good to be honest with yourself and with others but I do not always practice what I preach! Last week I finally gave in as you did, and crashed. I battle a chronic illness as well which comes and goes in episodes, and we mothers tend to push ourselves and our bodies. How wonderful, though, that people around you are being helpful and encouraging and that you rely on your faith to strengthen you. I have been praying for you ever since you broke your foot and will continue to do so. Blessings and a hug from Australia.

    Cate N.

  9. God knew I needed this tonight! It has been the oddest 3 days and my heart was very ill tempered and short with my children. Not the joyful mama I want to be. I definitely am not setting a good example. It’s amazing to me how quickly things can change and my heart can quickly be a pity party. Or that I don’t give myself grace, nor my children. Thank you for this beautiful post. I definitely need to have a talk with the Lord tonight and seek his direction.

  10. I really needed this reminder- though I’m not a mother, I have my own “day to day in the trenches” situation where I am learning to really Trust in the Lord…and it is so good to know He is there, that I am not alone. And He constantly reminds me that although I tend to quickly forget. That verse is one of the many promises from Scripture that i have. Thank you for this post!

  11. I can so relate to your post since I also have thyroid issues now for about 17 years. Most of the time I feel good but here lately I’ve had days of tiredness. Your post is a good reminder to extend grace to others. I know I often don’t want to extend grace to those I’m closest too because I’m tired or sluggish and that is not right of me. As a side note, I did find out I was Vit D low and so with taking those and working on the Super B Complex vitamins I feel much, much better. Thanks for sharing!

  12. I just found your blog, and I love it. Your posts are an encouragement to me. I have 3 daughters under the age of 5 and one was diagnosed with advanced stage cancer at age 2. She was in grueling treatment for 17 months and they Lord carried us through it. Our community rallied around us and thousands prayed. After a routine bone marrow biopsy toward the end of treatment, the oncologist told us she had relapsed and would most likely not make it to see age four. Today my daughter is just over four years old and getting better everyday. We are so thankful. Soon after we were told she had relapsed the doctor repeated tests and found nothing. She continues to have clear scans and is in remission. I know that God may have other plans for her, but as His word says, all things work together for good for those that love Him! He has used her to melt hardened hearts and taught me so many valuable lessons, to God be all the glory!

    God Bless you and your sweet family.

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