Have you made the choice? Are you committed to the task? The end of week one is over and I hope you all have stuck it out with me!!
I’ve read some interesting comments floating around Facebook regarding this series. It has gotten me thinking of difference seasons of life that you might be in, and I want to address two of those situations.
The Young Mother
You have a baby who spits up 10 times a day, not only all over you but the house. You are frazzled from dealing with your first child, the laundry, and trying to at least keep some sort of relationship together with your husband. Getting dressed? Who has time for that? You just are going to get spit up on anyway, what is the point? Sweat pants work just fine.
Or how about this one? You have a toddler and a baby. Between trying to juggle the baby and keeping the toddler from darting out the door, you have totally given up on the concept of getting dressed. Most days your husband comes home to see you in the clothes you had on when he left (your pajamas). The only time you get dressed is when you have to actually leave the house, and then it feels like such a huge deal!
I’ve been there, in both of those situations. Add to that a huge adrenal fatigue issue, which left me exhausted, emotional, and wanting nothing more than to stay in bed for the day.
I have bittersweet memories of this picture. My hair was a mess, and I needed a shower desperately. I was exhausted, but hey, we have to put on the happy mommy look for the camera, right? While some days I was happy, this was the hardest time in my married life. My second son was born exactly two years apart from our oldest child. He spit up horribly. I was too exhausted to even get all the furniture wiped up. I remember staring at spit up on the bottom of our dresser for a year. I was in such a daze I couldn’t even get a rag to wipe it up. When I finally cleaned it up, it was almost emotional for me. I had arrived. Things were getting better.
Still to this day, though, I remember that when I would take a few extra minutes to actually get dressed at the start of the day, I felt better about myself and my days. When I could greet my husband at the door with a smile on my face, and a presentable appearance, it made a world of difference in our marriage. This may sound harsh, but we need to think about others besides just ourself during this time! Our husband did not bargain to be married to a slob simply because a child was born.
However, with that being said there is a period where grace needs to be given. I always give myself three months after a baby is born to simply survive. Half the day it seems I’m sitting on the couch nursing, and the other part of the day is just trying to get school done and food on the table. The house is usually not nearly as clean as I like, but we are enjoying the newborn stage, and after five children I understand how fast it flies. After a few weeks of having a baby, I’m normally dressed for the day, but there are no special touches yet. Just getting dressed is a huge accomplishment with a newborn! And that is ok.
In sharp contrast to the picture above, this was taken a few weeks after our youngest daughter was born.
I was dressed, my hair was pulled back in a flexi clip and I had some earrings on. There are two huge differences between the time of our second and our fifth. My health had finally improved quite a bit, and I had truly learned how much better I felt about myself and my days when I took 10 minutes to stop and get dressed from head to toe.
The Farm Girl Mom:
Another common excuse I read for not paying any attention to your appearance comes from ladies who live on farms. They have to get up super early in the morning and do chores, carry buckets of grain around, scoop out poop, and overall just do some dirty jobs. Who wants to get all nice looking before doing that? I certainly wouldn’t!
While I’ve lived in the country a lot, I’ve never had to get up early and do chores. So I’m speaking hypothetically here of what I would do if I did live on a farm. I would get up and throw on some old jeans or a jean skirt. While the 100% skirt wearing ladies might not like this, I personally don’t have a problem wearing jeans to do chores on a farm in the early morning!. You can do chores in skirts also, it’s whatever you feel comfortable with! A faded t-shirt, mud boots, and out the door I go to do my chores. I’m not trying to be a Mary Jane in a lovely calico apron and lace skirt on when I have to go feed the pigs. 🙂 There is a time for practical, and a time for femininity.
However its what I do when I come inside that is important! I don’t stay in those old clothes all day long! I run in my room, grab my everyday clothes that match, are ironed and tidy, (for me it would be a skirt and shirt) and put on whatever accessory I want to wear for the day that coordinates with the outfit. Since my flexi clip was in my hair to keep it pulled out of my face while I feed the pigs, I don’t have to worry about fixing my hair again. In 10 minutes time I look like a completely different woman!
Can any of you moms relate to either of these scenarios? How do you think a mom should respond to the new mom syndrome, or the farm girl dilemma?
I promised everyone I would offer a link up on each Friday this month. If you have blogged at all about the Frumps to Pumps challenge please share the link below. This is strictly for ladies who are doing this challenge, and our regular link up will be live on Monday again.
As a special “Hurray!” for reaching the end of the week, I am doing a giveaway each Friday! Today I’m giving away a Flexi Clip in the choice of your size! Go to this post to enter.
Challenge For Today:
1. Get dressed!
2. Think about what is holding you back from committing to change?
3. As, your husband if he prefers you spending 10 extra minutes a day to look a little more presentable. Tell him you want an honest answer! 🙂
4. Read “Frumps to Pumps” Chapter five.