My Beloved and My Friend by Hal and Melanie Young. An excellent book on marriage written by a homeschooling couple! |

I love reading good marriage books. The tips I find, whether big or small, are helpful and just reading about all the things I should be doing in a marriage are good reminders.

When I heard that Hal and Melanie Young were writing a marriage book, I really wanted to read it. I knew that they were a large homeschooling family and I’ve been very blessed by their book called “Raising Real Men“. Having heard them speak once, you could tell they had a good marriage by how they were able to bounce off of each others ideas and share a session together.

When I got the book in the mail, I was able to sit and read it during a two hour downtime I had at my children’s homeschool co-op. It is an easy read, written in a conversation style.

A few things that stood out to me from this book.

1. I appreciated that they talked a lot about illness in marriage and even included morning sickness. When you have a larger family and suffer with horrible morning sickness, it can take a toll on your marriage. Your husband is under so much strain trying to keep everything together, and you are an emotional mess trying to endure feeling sick all the time. Hal and Melanie shared some experiences of their trials through morning sickness, cancer, and a baby in the hospital and how to keep your marriage strong during those times.

2. They tackled the difficult topic of submission in marriage with insight and tact.

“Submission is not bondage, but rather freedom to Melanie. It means that she doesn’t have to worry and agonize that she’s making the wrong decision, but it doesn’t prevent her from making dozens of decisions every day about our family and our business.”

And another favorite quote.

“….wives are told to submit, but husbands are told to die. At least, that’s the measure of love Christ gave to us in the church. There’s no room for selfishness in any degree, if your calling is service to the point of death.”

They make it clear that they are not promoting some sort of egotistic submission, where whatever the man says goes, simply because he is the husband. There is a give and take in marriage, the husband and wife both mutually respect and love each other, and ultimately the husband is the head of the home, but he submits to God. I love good examples of submission done correctly in marriage.

3. They talked about leaving and cleaving. Of creating a strong bond after becoming married. I appreciated their thoughts and suggestions on how to do this.

4. Most of all I liked reading their thoughts on how to become best friends. Isn’t that what we are supposed to be? Married to our absolute best friend, the person we can tell our deepest secrets and our hearts desires? It doesn’t happen overnight. Having a marriage that strong takes time and work.

If you are needing a boost of marriage encouragement, you can pre-order your copy for just $12.00 at My Beloved and My Friend. 

1 Comment on My Beloved and My Friend Marriage Book Review!

  1. Hi Caroline,
    This is not a book on marriage that I’m recommending, but it is a book that I know will greatly benefit you and your other readers. A friend of mine recently had her first book published, “Delight-Full: 31 Days to a Happier Baby…and Wholehearted Motherhood”. Like the book on marriage that you are recommending, Kate Collins’ book is an easy read, written in conversational style, too. She is a mother to 8 littles (11 and under, the last 2 being fraternal twin daughters and is expecting another blessings) and her husband just returned from Napal on a Hazardous Journey trip where he and other brave men climbed Mt. Everest. Needless to say, this mom/wife has a lot of great wisdom and is gifted in the department of encouragement. I know her personally and the way she wrote her book is EXACTLY the way she is. She is the real deal. Vision Forum published her book and if you go to their website and search for her book, they provide a trailer of her explaining why she wrote this book. Amazon also carries her book and I was so thrilled after reading it that I also left a review there (not that I’m biased or anything, but I am truthful!)

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