My older sister and I grew up longing for the same things, a husband and children. I was married at 19, Jennifer waited until she was 30. We both believed in waiting for the one God had for us, and didn’t want to date around. So she waited, sometimes with tears in her eyes, other times with a steadfast faith.
She was blessed to marry my brother in law, who is five years younger then Jennifer. The waiting became clear after they became married, she needed her husband to become old enough to get married! 🙂
After they were married they were remodeling their house and adjusting to married life. Children would come in a few months, or so they thought. Soon after that, my Mom became critically ill with her Lupus. It went into her brain (something that is extremely unusual) and she ended up needing to move in with Jennifer and her husband, and was put on Hospice. She died in their home, and Jennifer was a faithful, tender caregiver. During that time, the thought of children was put away as she just focused on tending to our Mom.
We cried and grieved and tried to move on in life. Jennifer moved her house around and made preparations for a baby to come. The only problem was, the baby just wasn’t coming.
After giving it time, and then some more time, they started visiting different Doctors. Fertility doctors pressured them to do expensive treatments that have low statistics of working. While they pursued different treatments that were non invasive, they started considering adoption.
Going into marriage Jennifer and her husband had always talked about wanting to adopt – after they had their own biological children. Maybe God was telling them they needed to consider it sooner though?
Jennifer went back to work full time to start saving up money to adopt a baby. They also started taking foster classes through the state, hoping to possibly adopt a child that way. We did a large adoption fundraiser for them on the blog, which was a great blessing. They had their names on a list with a local Christian adoption agency.
But no child came along. The state did not call, and their home study was not chosen for a baby. My sister had her low moments of being discouraged, but she had learned lessons in waiting for a husband, and she now applied those lessons towards waiting for a baby. I was amazed, and continue to be amazed over how joyful and happy she was for other women that were having babies. I had to tell her two times after she was married that I was expecting another baby, and she responded in such a sweet, joyful manner.
Finally she received a phone call from the state after not hearing a word from them for a whole year. I was with her when they called, and we both screamed for joy when she hung up the phone. There were twin boys who were 4 that were in a foster to adopt situation, and they wanted to know if they were interested! They submitted their names along with other families, and amazingly they were chosen. The social worker later told them that as soon as she read their home study she felt they were the family for the boys.
Last year the boys came to live with them as foster children. It was an adjustment for sure, they are quiet around other people and it took them awhile to start trusting their new home and parents. But before long they called them Mom and Dad, and started clinging to them.
It took 9 months and 10 days (the time of an overdue pregnancy!), but on Valentine’s Day this year they adopted their boys! It was such an exciting day, and I cried when they called and said it was official. I’m so ecstatic for my sister, after five years of marriage she finally is a mommy!
They have not given up on having biological children, nor have they given up on adopting a baby. Their names are going back on the list soon at the Christian agency, and they hope to add more children to their home, Lord willing!
Adoption is such a precious gift, and I’m so thankful that more and more Christians are opening up their home and their love to children who truly need good homes. A homeschooling family we know recently opened up their home to fostering children, and she wrote a wonderful blog post explaining the reasons why.
Jennifer has written about infertility and adoption in the Pursuit of Motherhood eBook. Along with many other chapters, those are a great blessing for women struggling through infertility, or hoping to adopt a baby.
You can read more about this book and view the other chapters here.