There are quite a few mothering myths out there. Actually, mothering might be one of the least understood, under appreciated jobs around; but today I want to talk to you about three misconceptions many people have about motherhood and why they’re just flat wrong.
1. All moms are supermoms and can do it all.
After spending the weekend at the Great Homeschool Convention, I know why so many people out there say moms are supermoms. I watched these moms bring babies and toddlers with them to the convention, trying to soak up all the information in the sessions, make it through the giant vendor hall, and somehow keep a smile on their face.
We have to juggle so many responsibilities; it’s really mind boggling to even stop and think about how many different jobs we have. Some moms pride themselves on being a supermom, and trying to be the go-to person for everyone.
Moms shouldn’t be excepted to shoulder all the burdens of the home. There are some things they can’t do, or certain things they cannot do as well without help. They need breaks. They need help. They need connection with other people.
While we do have a responsibility to do many things, we also need to give ourselves the grace to take a step back, say no to an outside activity, take a day off of homeschooling to just play for the day, give yourself permission to workout each day, or make sure you get your quiet time in God’s word. Learn a new hairstyle. Take the time to figure out what types of clothes look the best on you. These things should not all be done each day, otherwise we would never get anything done! But scheduling out 15-30 minutes each day to work on learning a new skill, working out, reading a good book…this isn’t a bad thing! It can help you through this long mothering journey.
The Ultimate Homemaking Bundle has a really awesome Self Care section, which includes a makeup video course that I love, my Seven Day Hair Challenge course to teach you new hairstyles, and the Stay at Home Mom’s Year Round Outfit Guide!
2. Mothering as an occupation is not equal to other occupations.
This might be the most common mothering myth out there. Motherhood is looked down upon, laughed upon, sneered upon, and seldom respected as being an actual job.
Truthfully though, it’s as important as any other job out there.
Sure, you’re not performing brain surgeries and saving people’s lives every day. However you are raising up people who might become those brain surgeons, or the next judge to make an important political decision, or, well…the list goes on and on.
Your job is vital to the well being of our future. When you are in the middle of wiping noses and folding the ten thousandth load of laundry I know it’s easy to lose sight of that. However, please don’t let anyone make you feel like you are doing something less important than anyone in the work world is doing.
3. Motherhood is picture perfect.
Motherhood can look picture perfect if you are on Instagram. However Instagram is crazy deceiving. Everyone shares a snippet of their life – just a crack through the window. Sarah Mackenzie shared in a session at the Great Homeschool Convention that she posted a picture on Instagram with her sitting in a chair, cuddling her twin boys while she was reading them a book. She said it was the picture perfect look and everyone loved it. She then put up the same photo, but zoomed out to show the mess that was all around her in the house. She said both pictures were real life, it was a sweet moment in the middle of the mess. People on Instagram prefer seeing the beautiful photos though, and not always the real life mess.
Following homeschoolers on Instagram can sometimes be horribly discouraging. We are working towards having that beautiful homeschool area, but it’s been over a year since we lived at our house and we are still saving up money to finish out our large dining room, complete with the built in bookcases, the big farmhouse table, etc. Right now we homeschool more in the living room than anywhere else.
Don’t even get me started about all those beautifully dressed girls, with all the adorable boutique outfits and matching bows. I try hard, but my girls are not picture perfect every day! Real life happens here, and I’m guessing my children will look back and not wish they had been more picture perfect every day, rather enjoyed the fact that they played outside often, they were allowed to get muddy and splash in the puddles.
Don’t give up on your dreams of having that beautiful life (if that’s your dream!). However keep your dreams grounded in reality. Enjoy the beautiful messy moments. Treasure your children even when the laundry room is overflowing, and you serve frozen pizza on paper plates.
I have a few suggestions for you if you need a boost of encouragement.
First of all, grab the Ultimate Homemaking Bundle! It’s only available for 5 days, and you will be blown away with al the amazing resources and bonus offers!
Second of all, enter this amazing giveaway below! I teamed up with some other bloggers to offer some awesome gift card prizes, and I’d love for you to win one of them!
We hope to bless three moms this year (although we wish we could bless many more) with a mini spending spree to one of their favorite places.
There will be THREE winners in this Mother’s Day giveaway – each winner getting to choose a gift card to the place of their choice. The choices are –
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