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Encouragement For The Weary Mom

Another day has ended.

I’m tired.

I think back on the day and I don’t think it was very successful. I ponder on the bad attitudes, the lack of discipline (both in my life and my children’s). Amazement over the chores that were untouched because the children ran off to something else and I didn’t have the mental energy to call them back. The dishes are not all done, the laundry is only half put away, but I’m calling it quits and I’m in bed. My body aches like it does when my adrenals are flared up.

I’m not a perfect mother on days like this. I get stressed out and irritable. I wonder why on earth I’m not more organized, why everyone online seems to have their homeschool days together and my days can be so chaotic. Out of necessity I was gathering all our tax info from two businesses to send to our accountant today, shipping orders, and potty training a child, while trying to keep schoolwork going. At the end of the day I finally hit the send button on an email to our accountant, it was a super successful potty training day, and I got half the orders shipped that I wanted to.

So why do I still feel lousy about our day?

Because I wasn’t able to speak to my children in graciousness today. My tone was frustrated. I go to bed every single night and pray for strength for the next day, desperately praying that our homeschool day will go smooth, that there will not be bad attitudes or huge interruptions. Yet everyday something seems to come up, and I feel let down.

This isn’t how it’s supposed to be!

In reality, days like today keep me humble and at the foot of the cross. Broken, raw, ugly, tattered and weary. In my own strength I’m a failure as a mother. Trying to run a full time business with a husband in college full time, homeschool three children, with a toddler and a baby also, in the midst of days with low energy and an aching body is, quite frankly crazy!

Tired Mama and Children

Snuggling my three girls-two on the outside and one on the inside!

Yet I go on. Because I have a vision before me. A deep love for my husband that motivates me to continue to be a helpmeet that provides for our family while he is in college. The knowledge that God has richly blessed him with a talent for art and graphic design and I want to see him use it for the Lord’s work while supporting our family.

Work at home mom

Working online with Olivia in a baby sling

I go on as a mother because I see the sorrow in my children’s hearts when they witness me break down and cry in front of them. Tears of frustration over their bickering or foolishness brings a seriousness to the situation and I receive hugs and little “I’m sorry Mama” love notes. I rarely am brought to tears in front of them over a bad attitude, but sometimes the overwhelming feeling comes on so strong that I can’t stop the drops that come to my eyes.

I go on as a homeschooler because I’m passionate about teaching my children. I want a good education for them, but more then that I want to shield them from the worldly influences that are found in public (and most private) schools. As a parent I have one chance, and I’m not going to let them spend most of their waking hours being instructed by someone else. So even though there are better teachers out there, I press on. I pour myself into homeschool curriculum choices, and agonize over my child who can’t spell very well and press on. Because I don’t have a better choice then the path I’m on.

Homeschooling Mother

Reading together after Olivia was born

I go on as a blogger when I have writers block, and can’t think of a single thing to share with you all. My passion is modesty, homeschooling and raising a family that loves God, so I try and let those passions come through this blog to encourage you in any meager way I can. And when I feel withered up inside and think I surely can’t muster up another blog post, I whisper a prayer asking the Lord what I should share and he graciously answers me (which is how this post was birthed).

The Lord is good. Through the long weary times of life, the heartbreaks and the soul searching and the dry empty times when it feels like I have nothing left to give-the Lord continues to grant me vision and strength to go on. Day after day, even though I fail many times throughout the day, I go to bed with renewed hope for the next day.

If you are a weary, discouraged mother I pray the Lord grants you that same vision to keep pressing on. Dig in your heels a little bit harder, breath prayers all day long, and cry for vision. For the scripture is true when it says:

“Where there is no vision, the people perish; but he that keepeth the law, happy is he.” Proverbs 29:18. 

I firmly believe that as a mother it is critical to have a vision for raising our children.  If it is a godly vision, it will sustain us and lead us forward. We need to see beyond dirty diapers and poor spelling skills. The future lies before our children, a grand and glorious future of fighting the Lord’s battle and winning many victories for HIS glory.

May we press on, you and I together – leaving the false impressions of having it all together behind and being honest and true with each other. Encouraging each other when we are weak, being sisters and friends instead of hypocritical and prideful.

The Lord is on the side of those who humbly submit themselves to him. Take courage in His strength and march on to see your vision to maturity!

 

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39 Comments on Encouragement For The Weary Mom

  1. What a beautiful, encouraging post. I remember sometimes being just so weary and sometimes I’d be down on my knees in prayer in the bathroom (my refuge, lol!) praying for strength and for grace, and God always comes through, doesn’t He?

    Loved the pictures of your precious family and what a lovely dress you made for your daughter. She looks adorable in it. Thank you for hosting today! 🙂

  2. Dear Caroline, Thank you for this heartfelt post, my friend. As a pastor’s wife, blogger, and a homeschooling mama expecting Baby #5 in a matter of days, I surely relate with your struggles.

    Thank you for the reminder to keep a VISION. As a mother, I think that more than anything helps keep my days in perspective. I’m so thankful for the strength the Lord gives us to keep pressing on… and for kindred friends who encourage us along the way.

    Keep up the good work… you are a blessing, most especially to your sweet family, but to other mothers as well.

    Love, Kristy

  3. Beautiful!!! May God continue to richly bless you and your family!!! He is faithful, and can take even the little we have to offer and expand it so that we can’t even comprehend it anymore!!!

  4. What kind and honest words. Keep up the good work. The nicest pictures, of the most together mom’s houses MUST be fake – they have to be – either that or their children surely are. Your children are richly blessed with your love, worry, kindness, and ability to be a role model. Never mind those dishes, they will be waiting there for you tomorrow. <3 hugs and encouragement!

  5. Thank you for your honest and *brave* post! It is so hard to be vulnerable, and let our struggles and imperfections be known. Yet those are the things we all have, and it is good to see how other people handle them. I have been where you are, but am now in a different stage in my life, trying to encourage grandchildren the way I once did with my own children. I came across this verse in my devotions this morning, and it seems to me it should be every mother’s (and grandmother’s!) prayer: Psalm 143:8 “Cause me to hear thy lovingkindness in the morning; for in thee do I trust: Cause me to know the way wherein I should walk, for I lift up my soul unto thee.” Keep up the good work, the work of allowing the Lord to use you. 😀

  6. Thank you for this post! I needed it today. We’re visiting family for a couple of days and helping my grandmother move in with my mom, while my grandfather is in the hospital in the last stage of dementia. We have four Blessings and are 9 weeks along with our fifth. I’m tired, sick and not being at home is making it worse. My kids have had difficultly being joyful today and I wasn’t dealing biblically with it. This post was such an encouragement to me!!

  7. Thank you for your honesty. This is, in my opinion, one of the best (if not THE best) posts you have written. We all fall short of the Glory of God, and it is only by His grace that we can make it through each day. Continue to trust in Him, and He will direct thy paths and sustain thee.

  8. Thank you so much for sharing this…it’s just what I needed today! I had a very rough day yesterday with my 2 little ones and was feeling like a total failure as a mom by the end of the day. Thank you for helping me see that I need to keep things in perspective and not lose hope. There will be rough days but also many more days of blessings!

  9. Thank you for your kind encouraging words today. I needed to hear that we all struggle and God will help us to continue in our journey. Perfection is highly over rated.

  10. Thank you for your wonderfully encouraging words! It was just what I needed today! I had such a day yesterday, and then I read this post! Thank you!
    Do NOT grow weary while doing good, for in due season, we shall reap, if we don’t lose heart! This is something to remember and hide in our heart!

  11. Wow, thank you!! I have only a toddler and no home business, and still I feel tired, frantic, and unorganized. You can just smile every day knowing that you are wonder woman in my eyes!! My grandmother recently told me something I will never forget: raising six kids was hard every day, but living alone now that they’ve all grown is harder. Just enjoy the moment and be content with the life God has given you!:)

  12. Thank you so much for posting this. I realize that no one is perfect and will usually blog about the good while leaving out the bad, but it is so easy to believe that all these blogging moms have it all together (which is what I certainly thought about you too). I’m having a hard time getting it all done right now and keeping my joy. I love what you said about homeschooling. I have 4 children with the last 2 being born 11 months apart (youngest is now 4 months), and it is so hard to get in just the basics with the older kids’ schoolwork. I try to hang on to the vision God has given us as parents to keep our children safe and protected. We also just started a trucking business, so hubby is gone while I handle paperwork, online work, and faxing. I feel like I need 2 or 3 of me sometimes… well, most of the time. Thank you again for posting this. It’s encouraging to hear that other moms are going through the same issues.

  13. “God can strike a straight blow with a crooked stick.” Corrie Ten Boom. Praise the Lord His strength is made perfect in our weakness!

  14. Thank you for this beautiful transparent post. You are such a blessing to your readers and God uses you to challenge and grow me personally.

  15. May The Lord richly bless you for the work you are doing to further His kingdom. You may not be the perfect mom, wife and teacher all of the time, but you are loved by the Most High God more than you can ever imagine. I, for one, am so thankful for His new mercies every morning. You are doing better than you think you are, I am sure! Your children are blessed to have a mom who loves them and your husband is blessed to have such a supportive wife. Your readers are blessed by your honesty and your encouragement. Never forget! hugs to you on this weary day!

  16. love your honesty and I can soo totally relate. four kids and no home based business and I feel like I need another me.. always on behind with something…and whent he house is finally semi clean someone doesn’t have clean socks..etc. etc. feels like it never ends some days! ;D

  17. Thank you so much for sharing this. It really encouraged me today as this is how I feel some days with 6 children and homeschooling. We need to keep encouraging each other as moms and keep our eyes on Jesus!

    And let us not grow weary while doing good, for in due season we shall reap if we do not lose heart. Therefore, as we have opportunity, let us do good to all, especially to those who are of the household of faith. Galatians 6:9-10

  18. As a mom of five small children, I was SO BLESSED to read this today. I cried through it because I could totally relate. Thank you for your encouraging words.

  19. I can see from the comments so far that the Lord is using your post to encourage many women. Bless you for being obediently, courageously real. I still think you’re superwoman (in His strength), by the way. 🙂

  20. Thank you so much. I am so relieved that there are real mums out thee who admit that they don’t have it together everyday. I find it hard to find people who will admit that parenting is hard! Thank you. You truly have made my year. God is so gracious that He would bring me you to be encouraged on this day. You are an amazing woman with a beautiful family. I pray for strength, wisdom and many, many blessings to shower you each day. Bless you.

  21. Caroline,

    I have been following your blog for a few months now and have never commented before. I love your posts and while we are not exactly alike I respect you so very much.

    Thank you for this post. I am a single mother and my heart has been feeling so very worn, especially over the past month. I have cried every single day this week feeling alone and that I am failing my son as I am constantly frustrated. I admire your commitment to raising your children in a godly home and teaching them as well.

    You are an inspiration to me and many others! God bless you!

  22. Caroline,

    Thank you for being so humble. We all need to encourage one another on this journey. I am a SAHM to five children, and I also battle adrenal issues…so I really know where you are coming from. There is a book that has been helpful to me I thought to mention. It is called How to Live to be 101…and enjoy it, written by Dr. Raymond Knoll. This man has passed away now (at the age of 100 I may add!) and this book explains how to get your body to make what it needs for a healthy endocrine system. Supplementing with cortef gives temporary relief, but is not a cure. It is our Fathers will for us to prosper and be in good health! I am very impressed by this humble, brilliant doctor who practiced what he preached. You may want to check it out! (Amazon has used copies)
    Blessings to you and your family. Jesus loves you soooo much!

    Jessica

  23. Thanks for being honest about the not having it all together! It makes the rest of us feel encouraged, because we’re not doing it perfectly, either.=) I’m pretty weary with my husband out of town, potty training toddler, breastfeeding baby who doesn’t want to eat, and the big kids who need to get schoolwork done. Pressing on in His strength. And praying for more grace for tomorrow!

  24. I can see why this post was one of your top ones for 2013. I just read it (since I just found your blog through a giveaway) and really appreciate it. I am 35 and just had my first child and feel very overwhelmed sometimes; your words are very encouraging. We prayed for a baby for 5 years (we were married at ages 30 and 39) and I pray God will bless us with more arrows before we are too old, so I will continue to look forward to what you have to say. May God continue to bless your family in the many things He has asked of you!

  25. Love this because it’s me this morning and I am wanting to fight the depression that wants to set in from constantly dirty dishes and imperfections all over my house via the little ones. They fight as well; in fact, their bickering voices were my alarm clock this morning, and I’m still coming down from that frustration…which is what led me here. Thanks so much for sharing. It has greatly softened my heart and reset my perspective.

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