How to Be A Work At Home Mom And Do It All

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At the beginning of the new year I sent out a questionnaire for you all to fill out. I was surprised how many of you  wanted me to write some posts on working at home as a homeschooling mom. The year is halfway over and I’m just now getting my first post written on it!

I wanted to talk about the basic concept of a mom and wife working at home, while also being a homeschool mom!

How To Be A Work At Home Mom And Do It All!!

When people find out that I’m a work at home mom I either receive encouraging words or dead silence and blank stares. The concept of a mom trying to be a blogger, business owner, and a consultant for a fantastic company sounds overwhelming. Many people don’t feel like a mom should be working like that.

Honestly…I always tell people that I don’t go around thinking everyone should be a work at home mom. It’s really not what every mom is called to do, or even should do. Your worth as a mom is not measured by if you bring in an income. Your first calling is to be a wife and mother. Everything else comes second.

However just because you are a wife and mom does not mean you are not allowed to bring in an income. Having been raised in the conservative homeschool lifestyle since I was little, I know there are teachings that consider it wrong for a woman to work at all. It’s the man’s job to bring in the income and a woman is to fulfill Titus 2, where she is told to love her husband and children and be a keeper at home.

I’d like to share with you why our family has chosen this path and how we make it work.

Why Be Self Employed?

We have pretty much always been self employed. We have had our lean days of eating beans and rice in the winter months, and even lived with family shortly while we were getting a cabinet shop off the ground. I don’t look back and miss any of those days. They were really rough! However we had our vision for being self employed tested many times, and we always seem to stick with it.

Sean’s parents were a little more creative about jobs than mine. I was raised in a family who was not entrepreneurially minded. I’m still not totally sure how I got this entrepreneur spirit in me, but I definitely have it!

We both like working with a business we believe in. We don’t have to compromise our standards. We try to let our faith shine through our business, and we like the freedom that being self employed brings. If we need to take a Monday off and work on a Saturday instead, that’s what we do.

Make It A Family Joint Effort 

There is no way I can do this on my own. If my husband had a normal job in corporate America, I would need to pick one thing and do it. I really doubt I could keep up three different business ventures and keep up my home and family. However Sean has always been self employed, and even when he went back to college he was still home during the day in-between classes.

I get up early and work a few hours while the house is quiet. Many mornings Sean will be up and getting the children going on their chores while I’m still working. He then leaves to go work on his own business (currently he is not working from our house as it just didn’t work well with such a small house). He is only a few minutes away, so he comes home from lunch and we can chat about business concerns if needed. Or more often than not, homeschooling or child training concerns. :)

You can't be a work at home mom and do it all!

KISS =Keep It Super Simple

Here is the secret. You can’t be a work at home mom and do it all! I’ve written before that I keep meals simple. We use a lot of paper plates. Outside of church the only commitments we have are music lessons one afternoon a week. I don’t have time to devote to lots of extra activities. Thankfully I was raised in a home where we kept it simple and were not involved in lots of extra activities. That helps me survive the mommy guilt that comes at times. Even if I didn’t have the business I just don’t have the personality that wants to be on the go all week long.

Plan Your Homeschool Around Your Business

This might sound bad, but if you were going to be a work at home mom you can’t spend two hours everyday reading out loud, plus doing one on one schooling with several children. Right now my goal is to read together for 30 minutes a day, plus have devotions in the morning. As my children get older I transition them to more independent work that still fits my homeschooling vision. Since I experienced a Charlotte Mason education all through high school I just haven’t been able to bring myself to use Abeka, but we use Apologia, Notgrass history, Teaching Textbooks, etc. It’s a good blend of interesting materials that are still fairly independent for my older elementary children. Of course you have to spend a lot of time helping your younger children, and working on the subjects the older children are weaker in.

Just Do It

Sometimes you don’t have options. You just have to bring in an income whether you like it or not. When we decided that Sean should go back to college I knew that I would primarily be responsible for keeping our business going. Sean didn’t force me into this. Honestly, if anything it was the other way around! : ) Right now we are in a transition period where Sean is trying to build a business, so I’m still the primary breadwinner (with his help of course!). I don’t have the option to stop, but we both have agreed on this. I will say we are not trying to promote this idea as being ideal. I love working online. I love coming up with new business ideas, but I don’t like the stress of being the main income provider. Sean is working hard on changing that so I can be more relaxed and be the assistant when it comes to income.

Keeping it Biblical - A look at Proverbs 31 for the work at home mom

Keeping It Biblical

As far as the concerns that a wife should not be bringing in income, one scripture we have looked to is Proverbs 31. The remarkable woman spoken of in those verses is a very busy lady indeed. She considers a field and buys it. She makes fine linens and sells them, and delivers girdles unto the merchants. Of course all of that is mixed in with taking care of her household. Somehow this amazing woman is able to manage it all for the good of her household and they rise up and call her blessed for it.

When I’m tempted to take on massively huge business projects, I have something that helps keeps me in check. If I get so busy that I decide not to homeschool, it’s not worth it. I will drop every business venture so fast your head will spin. Homeschooling my children is far from easy, but it’s a big priority for me and I don’t want to allow business to come before that.

As far as the wife bringing in the main income and the husband being in college or being the helper behind the business, it can get tricky at times. I believe in submission, but I don’t believe in being a doormat. If you have a marriage that you feel like you can’t purchase one single thing without asking your husband, then you probably shouldn’t try to juggle owning a business.

However if you feel your marriage is a partnership, you can probably make it work. I run big purchases of new inventory through Sean. I ask his advice before a big marketing decision and we’re constantly discussing the status of our business. However, I don’t talk to him before ordering more inventory that we currently sell. He’s very comfortable with me making many of the day to day decisions regarding the business and we have a pretty good understanding of what my role is and when I need to come to him. In short, we’re in this together and we have a healthy respect for one another’s talents and strengths.

That’s just a brief look on how we make this work at home, homeschooling mom thing work. It’s not always pretty, some days there are tears involved, other days there is laughter. But that sums up motherhood, right? 

One of the businesses I really enjoy is being a Lilla Rose consultant! It’s a fun, easy job because I love the hair clips and I don’t have to stock inventory to sell online. :) I’m really excited to be hosting a mystery hostess party over on my Lilla Rose Facebook page! It starts Wednesday and goes through Friday. You won’t want to miss it, I’ll be sharing tips and ideas for three days. You can RSVP here!

Beat the Summer Heat with Lilla Rose!




Giveaway Winners!

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We had such a long list of winners from the Facebook Party Giveaway that I decided to just share the list of winners here!

The winner of the Bosch Mixer – Tammy Cordery
The Winner of the Kindle Fire – Sarah
The Winner of the L’BRI cleanser– Melody Carpenter
The Winer of the Beauty Redeemed $60 gift certificate- Robin Kuhl
(You can save 10% through May 30th at Beauty Redeemed with the code deborahandco)

Enter to win a Beauty Redeemed doll!

The winner of the $50 gift certificate to Thirty One – Emily

Just released! Homemaking 201 DVD for encouragement to the wife, mother and homemaker!

The winner of the Homemaking 101 and 201 DVD’s– Jennifer Freeman
The Winner of the Young Living giveaway – Erin Slocum

Congratulations everyone! I have emailed each person notifying them they won.



Easy Haircare Products For The Busy Mom!

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Easy Haircare Products for the Busy Mom! #Beautybyme #ad

This post was sponsored by Suave Professionals®, however, the text and opinions are all my own.

As a mom just finishing up a very long pregnancy, I know how precious time is. The last thing I want to worry about is haircare products when I’m trying to keep food on the table and keep my house in order.

I’ve written before about how I like using natural shampoos. I have two different brands that I tend to go back and forth using. But when life gets crazy busy and I need a good standby shampoo and conditioner to fall back on, I use the products I used all through high school.

Good old Suave Professionals.

Yes, the super affordable haircare line that has been around for years. Except I’ve seen a lot of good change in their products since I used them 12+ years ago.

I think Suave has picked up on the fact that a lot of people are wanting more natural products, low sulfate, or even no sulfate haircare products, and they have responded to that demand! I keep a natural, sulfate free Suave shampoo in my shower to use, and honestly, it works just as good as the more expensive shampoo I normally use.

Suave® Professionals Sea Mineral Infusion products

Suave recently came out with a new product line, and it couldn’t have come in the mail at a better time. I was literally out of shampoo and conditioner, but I knew that I was getting a package from Suave so I didn’t panic and run to the store. : )

The new Suave Professionals Sea Mineral Infusion Hair and Body products have been a standby for this busy mom. I like that the Suave Professionals® Sea Mineral Infusion Moisturizing Buoyant Body Shampoo and Conditioner are low in sulfates, as my hair looks the best using low sulfate products.

They’re infused with a carefully chosen blend of rich minerals from the sea, which makes for a totally different hair product line than I’ve ever tried before.

The smell of the shampoo and conditioner is really nice – luxurious even! I’m sensitive to strong smells but didn’t have any trouble with the “sea inspired” fragrance they use.

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Right now if I get a shower in I’m doing great. Taking a shower every day? That isn’t happening around here! I’m doing good to grab a shower every third day. :)

I definitely need some products that will make my hair stay clean for several days, and also keep some volume and moisture in my hair. The new Suave Professionals® Sea Mineral Infusion Moisturizing Buoyant Body Shampoo provides hair with 24-hour body and moisture that makes it really easy to style.

After I started using this shampoo I noticed a difference in how my hair responded to going three days without being washed. It really didn’t even look dirty or greasy! Styling my hair on the first day, or even the third was easy. Sometimes my hair is so slippery on the first day of washing it that I don’t even try to do anything. I didn’t have this problem using the Suave Professionals® Sea Mineral Infusion Moisturizing Buoyant Body Shampoo.

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An easy, everyday hairstyle I’ve been doing often! I can easily pull my bangs back, and use a flexi clip to pull my hair back.

Flexi Clip for easy ponytail look!

The Suave Professionals® Sea Mineral Infusion Moisturizing Buoyant Body Shampoo and Conditioner does not contain heavy silicones and helps remove build up from hair. These are all things I look for in a shampoo, so I’m pleased that Suave Professionals is putting out these products!

The Suave® Professionals Sea Mineral Infusion Body Lotion is infused with dead sea minerals, and I really enjoyed using this at the end of my pregnancy to rub on my legs and feet. They would get so swollen and sore, and it was a soothing lotion to use.

Suave Body Lotion

Overall I am really pleased with the products I tried, and I’m sure I will be purchasing more Suave Professionals products in the future! You can use the Suave Product Locator to find a store that is close to you, or you can purchase the products on Amazon , Walmart, Walgreens, or at Target!

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This is a sponsored conversation written by me on behalf of Suave Professionals ®. The opinions and text are all mine.

Pregnancy Update: Week 21!

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The weeks are going by quickly! Part of me is enjoying this pregnancy, but another part is starting to feel achy, tired, and like I’m in my third trimester instead of my second. I think being in bed during the first trimester  contributed to me being so achy now – I’m just out of shape and overall weaker than I should be. I’ve done a few Leslie Sansone walking videos, but like many other moms, it’s hard to find the time to fit that in!

I’m slowing down a little bit and taking time for a few more naps than normal. My husband is so sweet and never complains when I lay down in the afternoon and he is left to keep the other children under control while he works from home. Love that guy!

Week 21 of pregnancy! My girls keep telling me how big my tummy is, and they can’t believe it when I say it will get a lot bigger! I normally carry my babies like a basketball – it’s all in front. :) I have never noticed a difference in how I carry between it being a girl or boy.

My skin gets interesting when I’m pregnant. I always have more trouble with acne from the hormones. This time has been better than some others, which I feel is because I’m using the L’BRI skincare line which has Aloe Vera as the first ingredient in most of the products. I normally use the combination trio set, but when I became pregnant I felt like I needed to change things up a bit.

L'BRI Skincare Set has the first ingredient of Aloe Leaf, and is so healing and nourishing for your face! | themodestmomblog.comLately I’ve been using the Deep Pore Cleanser (LOVE it! It’s my favorite cleanser ever) along with the Aloe Vera Barbadensis Jelly from L’BRI. Then I put just a little bit of the Gentle Moisture Lotion, or the Intense Moisturizing Cream on my face and it has been working out great! I actually posted a picture yesterday for Modest Monday where I didn’t have any makeup on but some lip gloss.

Aloe Vera Jelly from L'BRI Pure and Natural. This stuff works great for cuts, scrapes, and acne prone faces!


The Aloe Vera Jelly actually comes in the blemished set from L’BRI. It is so good for acne prone skin!

Today only you can get the Intense Moisturizing Cream on sale for 25% off! I use this mainly in the winter months and have used it on my feet, dry legs, and especially dry face.

Intense Moisturizing Cream from L'BRI!

Back to the baby though…it is now the size of a carrot! :) It is 10 ½” long, and weighs around 12 ounces. It’s hard to believe that I can be feeling so many movements from something so little! This is a very active baby. Today I was reading a book to the children while laying on the couch and I actually jumped when the baby kicked me! Of course, once I have the children put their hand on my tummy, the baby stops kicking. How does it seem to know when I’m doing this? We’ll keep trying. :)

Pregnant Mama’s – I’d love to hear an update on how you are doing!