To the Mom With a Baby Who Cries All Day…

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To the Mom with a Baby Who cries All Day. I get it. I've been there before. I'm there again.

I get it. I’ve been there before. I’m there again. You waited 9 months for this miracle. You might have fought hard battles to get pregnant, or to just stay pregnant. Your birth might have been difficult, but it was all worth it to have this beautiful baby lying in your arms.

Life was bliss. A baby to snuggle and love on.

Until the crying started. It might be from an allergy, colic, teething, reflux, or just a fussy baby that can’t be diagnosed. Whatever the cause, the crying causes distress to the entire family. But for mom, it can cause a lot of mommy guilt.

You might be a first time mom. Or you might be an experienced mom of 4. It really doesn’t matter. Mommy guilt can come because you can’t fix the problem. The crying continues. Some babies cry even when you hold them, others cry all day long unless you hold them.

I’m currently a mom of six children, homeschooling, running a business and this blog, and I’ve been given a baby who often cries if I am not holding her. Her siblings are seldom good enough, and sometimes daddy isn’t either.

The exersaucer sits in the corner of the room, mocking me because I know it doesn’t amuse her. Rocking her is a joke, the only thing that works is standing up and holding her, so I thank the Lord for my Tula baby carrier, and the fact that she does actually nap in her crib. Being out in public seems to distract her more, so people seldom see what she really is like here at home.
The Tula Baby Carrier is my favorite baby carrier ever! I love how comfortable it is to hold my baby in it!

I worked extra hard to get this baby here. She is the sweetest thing, giving me lots of smiles and giggles, but there are times I’m just so exhausted from being up half the night with her that I complain about how much work she is. Then the guilt comes on. Thick and hard. I can’t believe I complained about my precious baby.

You know what? A fussy baby IS a lot of work! It’s overwhelming and stressful when you have been given a not so calm baby. We moms worry about sharing the struggle, because we don’t want people to think we don’t want our baby. Especially in a society that does not value children like they should.

Do you have a fussy baby? Here are some tips to help you get through this season of life!

A fussy baby is not a bad baby. When people ask you if your baby is good, it’s not like that child is choosing to be that way. You love your fussy baby just as much as that baby who was practically perfect.

So how do you survive this season? Remember that it’s just that, a season of life that will pass. The teeth will eventually come in, the colic will go away. Here are some ways I survive though.

1. Sleep in later than normal. Take a nap if at all possible. Don’t feel guilty over this! You can only survive so long on a few hours of sleep each night. The other night I was up until 2:00 AM with my baby, and I just couldn’t get up at the normal time. I woke up several times after that to nurse, and finally slept in until 9:00 AM. I was finally dressed at 11:00 AM.

Is that normal life?


Should I feel guilty over days like that?

Not really.

It can be frustrating, but it’s totally out of my control.

I will say, I don’t sleep in every day. There are many days I get up even though I’m tired and get going on the day. However on days when I’m up so late with my baby, I do sleep in.

2. Cry a little. Cry a lot. Just release some stress though tears if needed. Hormones don’t go away just because the baby comes. If I’m super tired and getting stressed (normally around dinner time!), sometimes I do just cry for a few minutes and then pull myself out of it and go on my day. Again, it’s not every day, but there is no shame in a few tears.

3. Ask for help. This isn’t always possible, but see if your husband can hold the baby so you can have at least 10 minutes alone in your room. When he is home on the weekends, he should get an idea of how difficult your days really are. Call or text your husband, mom, or friend when you need a pick me up. Consider hiring someone to clean your house if you are extremely overwhelmed and behind on things.

4. Pray during the low moments in the day. This is not the time in your life to expect an amazing study time at a scheduled point in your day with the Lord. However cry to the Lord for help, put the scriptures on an App on your phone, and go to church! I skipped Wednesday evening church recently because I had been up until 2:00 AM with her for days in a row, and physically couldn’t keep going on. I normally am encouraged to press on by attending church, and you need the fellowship of others!
Fussy babies can be a lot of work, but oh what a sweet blessing they still are!

5. Realize that parenting your other children might look a little different. Some days I’m the mom that has it all together and we are on a great homeschool schedule. Other days…I’m just going to say it because I think every mom should understand. My children can get by with attitudes I don’t normally allow because I’m distracted by a crying baby, or else I’m so exhausted I can’t think to deal with it. Yes, it’s discouraging to know you aren’t doing the absolute best job as a mother, but God gives grace for these seasons!

6. Sing to your baby! Sometimes if my baby is crying a lot while I change her diaper, I’ll just start singing her hymns. Honestly it hasn’t seemed to calm her down so far, but it calms me down!

7. There are lots of natural things you could try, but I really hesitate to suggest very much here because we are talking about such a young child. If it’s a serious problem like reflux or allergy, find a good doctor to help! For teething, I really like this teething oil from Herbs for Kids (not to ingest, just to rub on their gums).
Every few weeks your baby might change. My little girl did not start out as a really fussy baby, and I don’t anticipate her staying this way forever. It’s a season of life that we are currently in.

 Finally, Step away from your baby if you feel out of control. I’ve never, ever had this happen to me, but I know that the shaken baby syndrome comes from frustrated, angry parents. If you ever feel like hurting your child through your frustration, leave your child crying in the crib and call someone immediately!

Don’t forget, take lots of pictures of you with your baby, even if you look exhausted! It’s what real life is like, and your baby will want pictures with you when he/she grows up!

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I’ve used cloth diapers on and off with most of my children. While there are many different reasons to use cloth diapers, my biggest reason in wanting to cloth diaper my babies is because of the chemicals found in disposable diapers. Plus, cloth diapers can be so adorable!

With our last baby I didn’t even try cloth. With Sean in college it was a stressful, busy time and we survived on paper plates and Costco pizzas more than I care to remember.

I knew I wanted to try cloth diapering our new baby, but I gave myself strict permission to have lots of freedom and no guilt involved in cloth diapering. I’m going into cloth diapering this baby already knowing that I’m not going to do it full time, but I’ll do it at home as often as I can.

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One reason I love to have cloth diapers at home are for those moments when you pull the last diaper out of the bag and realize it’s late at night, and there are no disposable diapers for when the baby wakes up in the morning!

I’m surely not the only mom who has had that happen!

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I have chosen to use AppleCheeks diapers, prefold diapers with Thirsties covers, and Fuzzibunz diapers. My favorite of those are the AppleCheeks. They are the deluxe version of cloth diapers, and if you have a husband who does not like to change cloth diapers, these are just like using disposables!

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I really like how this fits on the baby. There are size 1 and size 2 diapers available, so it’s not a one size fits all (which I really prefer).

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To My Newborn Baby, With Love From Mama

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To My Newborn Baby, With Love From Mama!

Dearest Baby Girl,

It took nine months for you to grow and become strong enough to come into this world.

If I’m being honest, those nine months were not pleasant ones.

I loved feeling you kick and move about, but many days were spent either at the toilet vomiting, lying on my couch or bed, so fatigued I felt I couldn’t even move, and being poked for blood work and progesterone shots multiple times.

Sleeping during the last month of pregnancy

All the while, your five older brothers and sisters were running around needing the attention and care of mama.

I was torn as to who to give attention to, but ultimately knew they would survive this time. Your life was feeble and depended on mama giving you as much care as I possibly could. That meant rest, taking the progesterone, and attempting to eat even when I knew I wasn’t going to be able to keep it down.

When you were born I was so exhausted I couldn’t even hold you. I didn’t cry with emotion – no laughs of joy were heard. Instead, I was physically spent and in an incredible amount of pain – more pain than I’ve ever been in before.

Giving birth can be a joyful thing, but also a very painful thing!

It was like I bottled up the nine months of work it took to get you here and put it into labor.

A week later, I gaze at your face and wonder what we would do without you. The pain of labor is still there, the need for lots of rest still persists, but slowly the agony of the nine months is fading away as I fall in love with you.

Weeping may endure for a night, but joy cometh in the morning. Psalm 30:5

You were born in the wee hours of the morning. It was pitch dark, and I was beginning to despair of you ever being born at home. And then suddenly, the Lord granted the prayers of my heart and you came.

Newborn Baby Girl Sleeping Peacefully

It reminds me of trials in life. We despair of ever being rid of them, and then the Lord gives us sweet relief. Even if those trials do not end, there are moments of rest, and sometimes of complete deliverance. It is far from easy, but he gives us the strength to endure.

What can take the place of your baby hiccups, your little grunts, your sweet yawns, and the frantic need you have for food and love that only mama can give right now. You were fashioned in a furnace of affliction, but you have come forward as a vessel of unspeakable worth.

I thank my God that you are here and that I was chosen to be your mother and whatever the future holds for you and I, be it joy or sorrow, I will always, ALWAYS love you.

Baby Sophia is here!!

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We are so thrilled to be able to finally announce that Sophia Diane is here! She was born Friday morning at 5:45 AM.

Introducing Sophia Diane!

She was 10 lbs, 1 oz and 22″ long. Born 10 days after her due date, we were more than ready for her to arrive! Her birth was the hardest I have ever experienced, with lots of strange twists and turns to the story. I’m still processing it all, but am so thankful I was still able to have a home birth.

My midwife was amazing and helped me through and knew just what needed to be done to help her arrive.

I have never come close to having a 10 pound baby, so this was an all new experience for me, one I hope to not repeat. 😉

Caroline and Sophia

We are snuggling and resting a lot. So thankful for all the prayers from friends and family for her save arrival! She is so precious, and well worth all the nine months of hardship to get her here!