What’s so wrong with the “S” Word?

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What is so wrong with the S Word? As parents, we need to take a firm stand on this and being willing to shelter our children!

As a second generation homeschooler I’ve heard the “s” word my whole life.

“Those poor children are going to be so sheltered they won’t be able to adjust to normal life.”

The other big “s” word? Socialization. These two words have a way of following each other around. “Oh my, their children are so sheltered they won’t know the first thing about socialization. I mean, how will they cope when they get out into the real world?”

I can attest that there is at least one person on the planet who was sheltered as a youth and who, now in her 30’s, makes her way in the world quite well. That person is me. Actually, believe it or not, there are others like me. Many others. You might not know it though because, well, we’re just so adept at socializing. 😉

Sarcasm aside, I’m sincerely not the least bit resentful that I didn’t experience more of the world as I was growing up. My parents carefully controlled the environment in my home and I’m grateful for it. That’s not to say we lived in a cave. My mother was very wise in the way she sheltered me yet made sure I was equipped and prepared to enter the world.

As a sheltered homeschooled child I grew into an adult that was married at 19 and became a mother at 20 (gasp, yes I was one of those young brides who went through courtship). I am currently a pastor’s wife, a business owner, a blogger, and I hope a “normal” human being that tries to conduct her life in a way that would please God.

What did my sheltered life consist of? (Cue the melancholy music.)

1. I wasn’t familiar with many of the popular movie stars, as I didn’t watch many of the popular movies. If an actress was in a Jane Austen movie then I knew about them. :) It’s still that way today. Watching PG-13 and R rated movies just didn’t happen (I think I’ve seen two PG-13 movies. Or maybe I should say I’ve seen about a ⅓ of two historical PG-13 movies. We fast forwarded through most of them).

2. We listened to classical and some Christian music growing up. Actually I listened to more Contemporary Christian music when I was younger than I do now. I was a teenager when my brother introduced me to the famous Bye-Bye Ms. American Pie song (and don’t ask me the band responsible for the song, lol). I knew what songs were popular from being out shopping. I suppose you could say I grew up listening to the Wal-Mart top 40. : )

3. Cursing was absolutely not allowed in our home. Slang words were considered just as bad as curse words. Some of you might be shocked, but I was well into my 20’s before I even knew what most bad words were and I still don’t think I know all of them. If I had been around situations where curse words were commonly used, my parents would have educated me more. I just didn’t need to know!

4. The TV was never background noise. It was only on if we were all watching something together, and many years we never even had TV reception.

5. My parents never taught us to believe in the Easter Bunny or Santa Clause. Actually my Grandpa was the town’s Santa Clause one time (it was a big deal; he rode in a float with the mayor, picture in the paper and everything). We went to see him with our younger cousin who did believe in Santa Clause and we were given strict instructions to not say a word about it being our Grandpa! We celebrated holidays for the religious reasons behind them, not the secular.

6. I’ve never been to a lock-in at a church or school and I only went to one big overnight birthday party when I was little.

7. I never went on a date until I was courting the man I married. Please know I don’t believe that just because you are in a courtship means you will automatically marry that person, but I do not believe in dating around for fun. We had our first kiss on our wedding day.

My parents came from rough upbringings, and they regretted a lot of things they went through. They didn’t want their children making the same mistakes so they sheltered them from influences that they didn’t consider godly.

However, don’t let this list fool you. I’m not a naive 30 year old mama. I’ve had my fair share of real life, hard, and very unsheltered situations.

As soon as we were old enough to drive we were added to our parents checking accounts. My mom had Lupus since I was 11 and we were responsible for grocery shopping and running errands when she was sick.

I was one of the primary caregivers of my great-grandfather when I was 16. He was living in our home on hospice for a month or so before he passed away of cancer. My older sister was in charge of all the financial/legal paperwork and I worked with the hospice nurses on how to take care of him.

I’ve learned far more about homosexuality and it’s lifestyle than I ever dreamed I would have, because of family members who have chosen to walk in that path. I’ve been in many counseling situations, churches of all different faiths, and opened our home to many different types of people.

I’ve walked through family member’s divorces, separations, terminal illness, heartaches, victory and failures.

Being sheltered does not mean you don’t experience real life and all that it brings. It simply means you limit your understanding concerning the ungodly things as much as you can. Why? So you can deal with real life.

The only time I’m super aware of my limited knowledge of movies or movie stars, popular people (like famous people in sports), etc. is when my husband makes a joke or tries to tell me some passing tidbit of news, and I have no clue what he is talking about. :) We come from different backgrounds, but he always tells me it’s better not to know!

Do I think you can shelter your children too much? Absolutely. But that’s a topic for another post. For the purposes of this post I just want to say that this lady who is married to a real husband and who went through 6 real labors which brought 6 real children into the world, and who has seen her share of real sorrow and suffering among those she loves most, is truly grateful for being sheltered when she was young so she could joyfully weather this bittersweet thing people call socialization.

Baby Sophia is here!!

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We are so thrilled to be able to finally announce that Sophia Diane is here! She was born Friday morning at 5:45 AM.

Introducing Sophia Diane!

She was 10 lbs, 1 oz and 22″ long. Born 10 days after her due date, we were more than ready for her to arrive! Her birth was the hardest I have ever experienced, with lots of strange twists and turns to the story. I’m still processing it all, but am so thankful I was still able to have a home birth.

My midwife was amazing and helped me through and knew just what needed to be done to help her arrive.

I have never come close to having a 10 pound baby, so this was an all new experience for me, one I hope to not repeat. 😉

Caroline and Sophia

We are snuggling and resting a lot. So thankful for all the prayers from friends and family for her save arrival! She is so precious, and well worth all the nine months of hardship to get her here!

Waiting on Baby to Arrive

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Whether it is your first or sixth baby, waiting on a baby to arrive can be rough!

It doesn’t matter whether it’s your first or sixth baby, the last days of waiting for a baby to come can be hard. The clock ticks by ever so slowly. Every night you go to bed thinking “this might be the night!” only to wake up and realize you have a new day to conquer again.

Since this is a pregnancy that was sustained through lots of prayer and progesterone I realize now I sort of expected the baby to come early. I should know by now never to have expectations when it comes to a baby making it’s arrival!

We wait. And we watch. I stop and try to feel the baby kick, but the kicks slow down at the end of pregnancy. Right when I might get worried, the baby gets hiccups (this baby has lots of those!) and I rejoice in the movement. I feel baby squirming, moving it’s head down low like it wants to come out.

I’ve felt that for weeks now though. :)

Last night we had a family movie night in our bedroom. All of us piled in our small room and watched an old classic movie together. One more evening down. One more memory made of waiting on baby as a family. The children frequently ask if the baby will come, as they feel the day is never going to come.

My boys want the baby to come so they can have a spring break from school. I just laugh and say that’s the last reason I want the baby to come!

I have special pile of books set aside from the library for my boys to read…after the baby comes. They look longingly at the pile, and I realize the due date to return those books is approaching. Oops.

So we wait together and try to keep life going, though it has slowed down.

I take a lot of naps these days.

Sleeping during the last month of pregnancy

By 11 AM I am worn out and can’t stay awake as I don’t sleep well (I’m writing this post at 4 AM!). I have learned the best way to get a nap in during this time of day is to make sure my older boys have schoolwork they can do on their own and sleep in the living room. If I go to my bed, chaos seems to erupt.

Playing legos to stay busy

The children play lots of legos. We spread a queen size sheet on the living room floor and they can build for hours.

In Freedom's Cause Story

We spent an afternoon listening to this brand new G.A.Henty story together, while the legos were being built and I sat on the couch working on school. If you need a new family audio story, this is an excellent one!

Working on school

I’m tearing apart the new reading cards needed for Book 2 of All About Reading while we listen to the story. My contacts don’t always get in these days, and my hair and makeup  barely happens. Somehow my husband still tells me I look beautiful, and I just laugh and say thank you. I have a pretty special husband. :)

Schoolbooks for the little girls

I homeschool the little girls from the couch, and try to stay on top of business work with my laptop.

Dishes piled up

The dishes get piled up. With a small kitchen it’s impossible to not have happen (that is literally about all the counter space I have). Our oldest does a great job of doing dishes, but somehow the dirty dishes always seem to win over the clean ones. :)

Through it all, we look forward to one thing. A new life coming. It makes all the messes and fatigue and loss of sleep worth it. This special time only comes once or twice for some families, and I am well aware that for some families it never arrives and their heart aches. I realize that I don’t know the future and this could be our last time, as I don’t know the plans God has for us.

My husband was telling me yesterday that I must have learned a lot of patience through this pregnancy.  I told him that instead of patience, I feel like I’ve had to grow in faith and relying on the Lord. I can only do so much to sustain this pregnancy, and ultimately I have to have faith in Him to help this baby grow, and to help me through labor.

I’m hoping baby snuggles happen soon, but until then…

We wait. And hope. And trust in God that He has the perfect birth day picked out!

Pregnancy Update: Eight Months! {and a giveaway!}

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Eight months and counting…I’ll be honest and say I’m so ready to be done. It’s really hit me this past week, the days are starting to slow down, I’m not getting much sleep because I can’t get comfortable and I keep getting sick with a cold! It’s all worth it, this has just been a really rough pregnancy and I’m ready to hold my baby in my arms!

My midwife has other ideas though, and said no way am I having this baby anytime soon. :) I know deep down I want to go full term, I’m just tired and emotional! My husband is being so sweet and patient with me, and trying to encourage me all he can.

Eight Months Pregnant!

I was thankful that we discovered last week why I’ve been so fatigued lately. My iron levels are low, they are actually below the safe levels my midwife requires to have a home birth. So I’m working hard on getting the levels up. I’ve tried taking Floradix before several times and never seen very positive results with it. So this time I’m trying Garden of Life Iron, Chlorophyll mixed in orange juice, and Ferrochel Iron Chelate.

I am doing something new this pregnancy and recently started wearing a maternity splint. It is the best thing ever! I wear it all day long, and it really helps me not feel as uncomfortable. I also feel like my back posture is better when I wear it. I found mine used on Ebay. I didn’t realize that I should have ordered the same size as pre-pregnancy, so I have to wrap mine around in the back. It works, but if anyone is going to look for one make sure you order the size shirt you wore before you got pregnant!

Tummy Rub Butter, the ultimate butter cream for pregnant tummies!

Another new thing I’m using this pregnancy is tummy oil and tummy butter. Mama Mio sent me this to try and it is such a treat! I don’t normally go for tummy creams in pregnancy, but I read that The Tummy Team recommended these creams and I trust their suggestions.

Tummy Rub Oil for Pregnant Tummies!

Before I started using these products I was having such trouble with dry, stretched out skin on my tummy. It even got to the point that it would start bleeding in spots. Ouch! I was using some other essential oils and lotions, but it just wasn’t working the best. Once I started using the Tummy Oil and the Tummy Butter, it’s like night and day. Yes, my skin is still tight and stretched because I’m 8 months pregnant, but it is no longer dry and itchy. I can’t recommend these products enough! You can use them for four months after giving birth, to help tone your skin. I will be using it for sure!

I’m super excited to be able to giveaway a bottle of the Tummy Oil and Tummy Butter to a reader! This is a giveaway for USA only, thanks to Mama Mio. Enter through the Rafflecopter post below.
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