Do Not Bow To The Gender Idol

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Somewhere along the way it has become a crime to say there are inherent differences between a man and a woman.

And it has happened in my lifetime.

Another evidence of this just recently cropped up in the news. A senior engineer from Google wrote a company memo suggesting, among other things, “that men and women biologically differ in many ways.” He went on to suggest that these biological differences, though small, contribute to different strengths and weaknesses in men and women.

He said that “women on average, have more openness directed towards feelings and aesthetics rather than ideas. Women generally also have a stronger interest in people rather than things…These two differences in part explain why women relatively prefer jobs in social or artistic areas.”

This man ended up being fired by Google for “perpetuating gender stereotypes.”

What a sad world we live in.

For centuries it was a given that there are clear differences between men and women that contribute to clear differences in their strengths and weaknesses. Now it’s considered shameful to acknowledge this. Now everyone must bow before the altar of gender equality. This man refused (or forgot?) to and it cost him his job, maybe his career.

So there are real and present consequences for asserting that there are substantive differences between men and women. Does that mean we have to go along with it? Absolutely not.

To be sure, there’s a fiery furnace of sorts that awaits those who openly maintain a clear distinction between sexes (and the furnace grows hotter when you say that this distinction was purposefully designed by God). The good news is that just as this same God supported Shadrach, Mishach, and Abednego for not bowing before the idol of their day, so he is willing to support those who refuse to bow before the idol of gender equality. This is not to say that we will not endure ridicule, or the loss of our job, or worse, but as long as we remain faithful, especially in the midst of the fire, God will be faithful to help us in all our troubles.

What’s the alternative? Should we begin to pretend that, generally speaking, men and women don’t look, act, or think different than one another? Should I treat everyone I meet like a man? Or a women? Actually, if gender distinctions don’t exist, what are we all supposed to be? Have the powers that be decided that yet?

I really don’t care if they have or if they ever do. I am a woman and I feel privileged to be so. I will raise my daughters to cultivate the virtues of womanhood. I will raise my sons to cultivate the virtues of manhood; and I will raise both of them to embrace the differences between men and women and to rejoice in the God that made them. It should not be a shameful thing to acknowledge the peculiar strengths and weaknesses which men or a women possess respectively; God ordained it so and we should not try to pretend otherwise.

What if we acknowledged that men generally (please, I beg of you, don’t forget I just said generally) are stronger than women, and there are certain jobs they just are better suited for. When you drive by construction jobs, why on average do you see more men out there working then women?

Why can’t we accept that women can be (on average, generally speaking!), much more relationship minded, which makes them more suited for certain jobs? We women love connecting with people, and we are good at talking through what we feel.

These are not signs of weaknesses. They are not something to hide away and feel ashamed of.

When the world begins to lose site of who created them, which is God, the perspective of what God created men and women to be gradually disappears.

Stand strong, Christian families. Look to the godly examples we have been given and teach your children to strive after those godly traits. Encourage your boys to be men, teaching them about Moses, David, Joshua, and Noah, how these men stood strong at times, and how they gave into temptations and what happened. Teach your girls about Eve, Ruth, Mary the mother of Jesus, the Proverbs 31 woman, and help them learn from the lives of these women.

Each of these men and women had very important, but very different, roles to play in the kingdom of God. Notice also that these roles were not interchangeable. Moses clearly could not have filled the role of Mary, nor could Mary have filled the role of Moses. They each had unique calling that were suited to their unique abilities as men and women.

The world is quickly changing, but that doesn’t mean the ways of God are changing. His truths are unchangeable, unshakeable, and they endure to the end.









My Top 5 Baby Essentials

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Sophia is now 2 years old and even though we still call her baby she is officially a toddler. Life with her has been a crazy wild ride! She is still our most difficult toddler yet, she also has turned into being really sweet and funny as well.

I thought it would be fun to share what my top 5 baby essential items have been the past few years. After six children my list has been tested and tried, and I don’t have a lot of extra items included in the list.

Baby Carrier

Outside of diapers and wipes and clothes, this is my most essential item. I use my carrier a lot, and still use it with Sophia!

I’ve thought about getting a Toddler carrier now that she is 2, but for now we make the regular Tula carrier work. I’ve also used the Ergo baby carrier. I’m honestly not the best at using a baby wrap where I tie, but I’ve tried a few like the Happy Baby wrap before.

A Pack N Play

We haven’t used a crib for a few years because of the small house we live in. With 4 girls in one bedroom, having the baby sleep in a pack n play is essential. It’s actually worked out really well! It’s nice that they offer sheets for pack n play beds now!

A Teething Necklace

I’ll be the first to admit, I don’t know if a teething necklace helps or not. Ha! But it’s the one thing I don’t mind trying that is “extra” and it honestly looks so cute on babies! We used one with the last two babies, and I’ll keep using a teething necklace if we have more babies.

Aden & Anais Swaddle Blankets

I’ve put off buying these swaddle blankets with my first 5 babies. I finally kept hearing everyone talk so highly of them that I purchased a set, and I can’t believe what I was missing! I absolutely love how soft and snuggly these blankets are. They are lightweight, yet extremely good quality. We actually used these blankets for a full two years, and I think one is still not packed up. I bought a cheaper swaddle blanket at a children’s consignment sale and it wasn’t soft at all so we never used it.

Car Seats

Car seats are another essential item, and after using them quite a few times I have my favorites! With an infant I love using the Chicco Infant seat. The ratings on it are excellent, the quality is great, and I love the classic, clean lines.

Once they outgrow the infant seat we buy the Diono Radian Car Seat. These are one of the smallest seats on the market so they worked well when we had our mini van. The ratings are also extremely high on these seats, and they last forever! We currently have two of these that we are using with our 5 and 2 year old.

While there are other items I use with a baby, these are the top items that stand out to me! I recently found a new baby company to shop from online, and since I love supporting smaller companies I wanted to share it with you!

The Baby Cubby offers some of the well known items that I shared about in this post, as well as hundreds of other items! The store is made up of parents who have first hand experience with what is needed. What really stood out to me is that they price match, even with Amazon! So if you find something cheaper elsewhere, you can email them and they will match that price!

While we are slowly packing away baby gear, I look forward to using it all again at some point, if the Lord blesses us! If you are expecting, drop a comment and let me know! I’d love to know how many readers are going to be having a baby soon!

*This post was sponsored by The Baby Cubby. All thoughts are strictly my own.



Why I Don’t Try To Save Money On Disposable Diapers

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This is a sponsored conversation written by me on behalf of Pampers at Sam’s Club. The opinions and text are all mine.

One of the most basic essentials that every baby (and toddler!) needs is diapers. If you cloth diaper, then you are set. Unless you just get behind on laundry (the story of my life!), then you won’t run out of diapers.

I’ve given up trying to cloth diaper. I just never can stay on top of laundry enough to add the cloth diapers on top of all my regular laundry!

Stocking up on diapers at Sam's Club!

Keeping disposable diapers and wipes in the house can be challenging. I’ve run out more than once, only to scramble to get the store quickly.

Recently I ran out of diapers yet again, and I decided to vary from the brand I normally get and grab a cheaper store brand pack of diapers. These things were super cheap, and I was so hoping they would work.

Of course it wouldn’t happen.

Within 24 hours of trying these new diapers on her, Sophia broke out in a really bad rash. I instantly knew it was because of the cheap diapers, and so I ended up wasting money because we used 2 diapers out of the package! It took several days to get her over that rash, and it wasn’t worth it.

Back to the name brand diapers I went! When I spend the money on the good diapers, it’s truly worth it. Each diaper lasts longer, because they don’t get soggy as fast.

Yes, I realize that is kind of gross…but hey, moms understand!

My biggest tip for staying stocked up on diapers is to buy the largest boxes you can find. That way you normally only have to buy a box once a month…or somewhere around there.

I always buy my diapers at a large wholesale type store, like Sam’s Club.

I can’t recommend this enough! I just grab my diapers and wipes when I go out to get groceries and then I don’t have to think about it until another month rolls around.

Right now Sam’s Club (in store or online)has a great deal on diapers. If you buy 2 items from Pampers diaper or wipe items, you instantly save $10, or buy 3 items and save $18! I would totally use this to stock up on diapers for the next few months.

I absolutely love the concept of Club Pickup at Sam’s Club! You can order online, and select Club Pickup and then you don’t have to even get out of the car! Just drive through and pick up your order.

Or you can use the Sam’s Club Scan & Go app, which sounds pretty neat. You can skip the checkout line and use your phone to scan items as you shop. Check out with the app, and the receipt will appear on your phone! This app is available on Apple or Android.

Right now with us working on our new house, keeping diapers in stock is a must! I actually have a big box of diapers and wipes just sitting in the formal dining room floor right now. I brought half of the box over to the new house, and kept some at our current house and some for my sister who is watching Sophia a lot for us!

I’d love to hear if you stock up on diapers for the month, or just grab small packages as you need them?

Are You Parenting From Fear Or Faith?

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Parenting is tough in today’s world. We have so many things we want to protect our children from, and the desire to shield them from the evil of the world is truly a noble and worthwhile endeavor. Indeed we are called to do this.

“Be ye in the world but not of it.”

I’ve found myself pondering why I parent lately. The same question keeps coming back to me over and over again.

Am I parenting from fear or from faith?

Do I shelter my children because I’m walking with God and know what my child can handle at this point, or do I shelter them because I can’t handle to ever expose them to any of the evils, and it’s just easier to hide them?

Don’t get me wrong, I’m all for sheltering my children. I homeschool my children because I don’t want to expose them to public school and all it teaches (I know other Christian families make it through, it’s just our decision!). However I’ve seen so much fear in the homeschool world that I’ve grown up in.

Parents fear if they give their child an inch of knowledge, they will run with it and go the way of the world.

It’s not always the case.

We need to protect our children because we want to make them stronger for the Lord’s army, not to simply hide them away until they turn 18. The knowledge needs to be slowly given to them over time, and they need a chance to turn away from sin while you are still with them.

I learned that hiding the sins of the world does not mean it won’t come into your household. My parents never talked to us about homosexuality. Believe it or not, I was 16 when I really found out what it was and it was through a very painful way.

I’ve seen so many tragic incidents where parents sheltered their children so much that they never truly grew up. They seemed to live in a sheltered life even once they reached adulthood, and never grasped the concept of what being an adult was all about.

How can you figure out what type of parenting you are walking in?

Ask yourself these questions:

Are you fearful of your child ever hearing a song you don’t approve of, learning about something bad that happened in the world, or of them hearing of a teenage pregnancy, in case they start to think about such things?

Or do you prayerfully sit down and discuss these heavier topics with your children when the situations arises, and pray that they understand and choose to follow the right path?

Do you recognize that your child will grow up to have their own agency, and they must decide what path they will continue to walk on?

Or do you try to micro-manage every situation, even when they are teenagers so you can control what they know?

Our oldest is only 13, but so far we have had to have lots of talks with all our children about adultery (ouch, that one was hard and handled delicately), homosexuality (again, handled on a child’s level, but very honestly), pornography (we really never used that word, we just talked about how there are bad pictures out there that you have to instantly look away from), and the list goes on.

Children need to know that sin abounds, because they need to know of their greet need of a Savior. Again, I’m not saying to go overboard and make them aware of things on an adult level. Not at all! Our children can find Sean and I talking behind closed doors many times, because the topic is not for their ears. But you can’t hide all the evil in the world, and instead of parenting through fearfulness, choose to walk in faith, knowing that God is gently calling your child to Him. Pray that your child will respond to that call and choose the right path to walk on.

Let go of the ungodly fear that comes knocking on your heart as you parent. Keep the godly fear in your heart, the fear of sin, and teach your child to reject evil. Without any knowledge of evil, how will they know what to reject?



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