How to Be A Work At Home Mom And Do It All

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At the beginning of the new year I sent out a questionnaire for you all to fill out. I was surprised how many of you  wanted me to write some posts on working at home as a homeschooling mom. The year is halfway over and I’m just now getting my first post written on it!

I wanted to talk about the basic concept of a mom and wife working at home, while also being a homeschool mom!

How To Be A Work At Home Mom And Do It All!!

When people find out that I’m a work at home mom I either receive encouraging words or dead silence and blank stares. The concept of a mom trying to be a blogger, business owner, and a consultant for a fantastic company sounds overwhelming. Many people don’t feel like a mom should be working like that.

Honestly…I always tell people that I don’t go around thinking everyone should be a work at home mom. It’s really not what every mom is called to do, or even should do. Your worth as a mom is not measured by if you bring in an income. Your first calling is to be a wife and mother. Everything else comes second.

However just because you are a wife and mom does not mean you are not allowed to bring in an income. Having been raised in the conservative homeschool lifestyle since I was little, I know there are teachings that consider it wrong for a woman to work at all. It’s the man’s job to bring in the income and a woman is to fulfill Titus 2, where she is told to love her husband and children and be a keeper at home.

I’d like to share with you why our family has chosen this path and how we make it work.

Why Be Self Employed?

We have pretty much always been self employed. We have had our lean days of eating beans and rice in the winter months, and even lived with family shortly while we were getting a cabinet shop off the ground. I don’t look back and miss any of those days. They were really rough! However we had our vision for being self employed tested many times, and we always seem to stick with it.

Sean’s parents were a little more creative about jobs than mine. I was raised in a family who was not entrepreneurially minded. I’m still not totally sure how I got this entrepreneur spirit in me, but I definitely have it!

We both like working with a business we believe in. We don’t have to compromise our standards. We try to let our faith shine through our business, and we like the freedom that being self employed brings. If we need to take a Monday off and work on a Saturday instead, that’s what we do.

Make It A Family Joint Effort 

There is no way I can do this on my own. If my husband had a normal job in corporate America, I would need to pick one thing and do it. I really doubt I could keep up three different business ventures and keep up my home and family. However Sean has always been self employed, and even when he went back to college he was still home during the day in-between classes.

I get up early and work a few hours while the house is quiet. Many mornings Sean will be up and getting the children going on their chores while I’m still working. He then leaves to go work on his own business (currently he is not working from our house as it just didn’t work well with such a small house). He is only a few minutes away, so he comes home from lunch and we can chat about business concerns if needed. Or more often than not, homeschooling or child training concerns. :)

You can't be a work at home mom and do it all!

KISS =Keep It Super Simple

Here is the secret. You can’t be a work at home mom and do it all! I’ve written before that I keep meals simple. We use a lot of paper plates. Outside of church the only commitments we have are music lessons one afternoon a week. I don’t have time to devote to lots of extra activities. Thankfully I was raised in a home where we kept it simple and were not involved in lots of extra activities. That helps me survive the mommy guilt that comes at times. Even if I didn’t have the business I just don’t have the personality that wants to be on the go all week long.

Plan Your Homeschool Around Your Business

This might sound bad, but if you were going to be a work at home mom you can’t spend two hours everyday reading out loud, plus doing one on one schooling with several children. Right now my goal is to read together for 30 minutes a day, plus have devotions in the morning. As my children get older I transition them to more independent work that still fits my homeschooling vision. Since I experienced a Charlotte Mason education all through high school I just haven’t been able to bring myself to use Abeka, but we use Apologia, Notgrass history, Teaching Textbooks, etc. It’s a good blend of interesting materials that are still fairly independent for my older elementary children. Of course you have to spend a lot of time helping your younger children, and working on the subjects the older children are weaker in.

Just Do It

Sometimes you don’t have options. You just have to bring in an income whether you like it or not. When we decided that Sean should go back to college I knew that I would primarily be responsible for keeping our business going. Sean didn’t force me into this. Honestly, if anything it was the other way around! : ) Right now we are in a transition period where Sean is trying to build a business, so I’m still the primary breadwinner (with his help of course!). I don’t have the option to stop, but we both have agreed on this. I will say we are not trying to promote this idea as being ideal. I love working online. I love coming up with new business ideas, but I don’t like the stress of being the main income provider. Sean is working hard on changing that so I can be more relaxed and be the assistant when it comes to income.

Keeping it Biblical - A look at Proverbs 31 for the work at home mom

Keeping It Biblical

As far as the concerns that a wife should not be bringing in income, one scripture we have looked to is Proverbs 31. The remarkable woman spoken of in those verses is a very busy lady indeed. She considers a field and buys it. She makes fine linens and sells them, and delivers girdles unto the merchants. Of course all of that is mixed in with taking care of her household. Somehow this amazing woman is able to manage it all for the good of her household and they rise up and call her blessed for it.

When I’m tempted to take on massively huge business projects, I have something that helps keeps me in check. If I get so busy that I decide not to homeschool, it’s not worth it. I will drop every business venture so fast your head will spin. Homeschooling my children is far from easy, but it’s a big priority for me and I don’t want to allow business to come before that.

As far as the wife bringing in the main income and the husband being in college or being the helper behind the business, it can get tricky at times. I believe in submission, but I don’t believe in being a doormat. If you have a marriage that you feel like you can’t purchase one single thing without asking your husband, then you probably shouldn’t try to juggle owning a business.

However if you feel your marriage is a partnership, you can probably make it work. I run big purchases of new inventory through Sean. I ask his advice before a big marketing decision and we’re constantly discussing the status of our business. However, I don’t talk to him before ordering more inventory that we currently sell. He’s very comfortable with me making many of the day to day decisions regarding the business and we have a pretty good understanding of what my role is and when I need to come to him. In short, we’re in this together and we have a healthy respect for one another’s talents and strengths.

That’s just a brief look on how we make this work at home, homeschooling mom thing work. It’s not always pretty, some days there are tears involved, other days there is laughter. But that sums up motherhood, right? 

One of the businesses I really enjoy is being a Lilla Rose consultant! It’s a fun, easy job because I love the hair clips and I don’t have to stock inventory to sell online. :)

Beat the Summer Heat with Lilla Rose!

 

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Make Over Your Mornings Group Starts Monday!

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I was so impressed with Crystal Paine’s new Make Over Your Mornings course that I created a Facebook group for anyone that was going through it! We now have almost 800 members (wow!) and the good news is that we start going through the course together this Monday!

If you have not grabbed the new Make Over Your Mornings course yet, there is still time to get it and be prepared to start this Monday. I really enjoy accountability and feedback from others, so I’m excited to get started! I’d love to have you join us!

Once you get the course, just request to be added here and I’ll quickly get you approved! I’m looking forward to getting a better evening and morning routine before we start school back up again in July.

Make Over Your Mornings – A Boost For the Worn Out Mom

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Have you ever gone into the bathroom just to cry?

Has your day as a mother ever been so difficult that it’s hard to put a smile on your face?

Do you feel so burdened by your to do list, that you never get any of it done because you don’t know where to start?

I’m writing this because I’ve had those days. Actually, I just did the cry in the bathroom thing today. Life as a mother is immensely rewarding, but don’t let anyone try to tell you that it’s never hard!

I’m going to propose to you that how we start our mornings is crucial to the success of our entire day. We can start feeling encouraged as we wake up, having clear direction on what we are going to accomplish in our day. Or we can wake up and float throughout our day, trying to accomplish a great deal of things without purpose.

More often than not I float. I want clear direction. The thought of creating a plan that would actually work sounded so overwhelming until I came across the brand new Make Over Your Mornings course.

Mornings can be really rough here. As in I can be the ultimate grouchy mom yelling at my children to hurry up, get their chores done and the whole morning ends in disaster.

What a lovely way to start the day.

Turn your mornings into something beautiful with the Make Over Your Mornings Course!

We ended our school year a few weeks ago and are on Summer break until July. I stopped school determined to get a better grasp on our mornings, which we have been working on. The Make Over Your Mornings course couldn’t have come at a better time!

Crystal Paine from Money Saving Mom put this course together. I’ve been seeing hints of it on her blog for a few months now, and have been eagerly waiting to see it! I was able to get an early look at it, and I was not disappointed.

“This 14-day course is designed to help you revolutionize your productivity, streamline your routines, invest your time in things that truly matter, and find more joy and peace in the process.” 

-Crystal

Make Over Your Mornings Course will transform your whole life!

Have you yearned to get into a morning routine that begins with time to fill your soul before the rest of the household needs you?  This 14-day Make Over Your Mornings course walks you, step-by-step, through a process that creates a routine that will:

  • Prioritize nourishing your soul before launching your day
  • Streamline your mornings (and your whole day)
  • Create a to-do list that serves (not strangles)
  • Establish accountability
  • Set short- and long-term goals, and SO MUCH MORE!

In this course you will receive 14 videos to watch daily and a workbook to follow along with. These videos are high quality and give you a sneak peak into Crystal’s everyday life, how she interacts with her family and how she is able to keep up a hugely successful blog and homeschool! 

**Update** I just created a Facebook Group to go through this course together! You can join here. We will start this course on Monday, June 6th!

If you are not an early riser, don’t worry. This course doesn’t tell you what time you need to get up. Rather it helps you establish for that time when you do rise out of bed. Actually the routine starts the night before!

Make Over Your Mornings Course from Money Saving Mom

Watching the Make Over Your Mornings Course on my laptop.

I’m really passionate about sharing this course with you all because it’s an area I struggle with and I know I’m not alone!

This isn’t another ebook to read and forget about it. The videos are engaging and very encouraging, and the workbook is concise and to the point. You won’t waste your time. I’ve found that 15 minutes a day working on a new habit (like exercising) can create a dramatic difference in my life.

This course retails for $17 (which is super affordable full price!).

There have been so many sales going on lately that I could share with you all. The Build Your Bundle Sale ends today (they decided to extend it one more day!) but I hardly shared about it.

Honestly….I’m tired right now.

I want life to slow down.  And I know a lot of you might be feeling the same way. I wouldn’t be sharing this huge blog post if I didn’t believe that it could bless so many mamas like myself.

Join me in this course and follow along as I share how my mornings are being transformed! I’m already seeing a difference after a few days of putting her suggestions into practice! I’ll try to start using my Instagram account again, and share some fun photos over there!

How To Survive The First Six Weeks!

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How To Survive The First Six Weeks of your Baby's Life!

I did it. It’s my 6th time to survive the first six weeks after a baby has been born.

There are a lot of emotions that surround the first six weeks of a baby’s life. A mom goes through a lot to get the baby here into the world, but she is suddenly at the beck and call of a little human being who needs her day and night. It doesn’t matter how exhausted she is; diapers need changed, the baby needs fed yet again, the diaper exploded so the sheets need washed, the baby spit up and needs new clothes…the list can go on.

It’s the most wonderful thing in the entire world. Seriously.

In the midst of those moments that seem so overwhelming, she experiences her baby’s first smile, she sees her baby prefer mama over anyone else, she memorizes every little detail on that tiny face.

In short, she falls in love with her baby even more over those six weeks, and it helps her through all the difficult moments.

Having a new baby can be overwhelming, but it's also the most wonderful thing ever! Here are some tips to help get you through the first six weeks!

After having six babies I thought I would pass on my most important tips that help me survive.

1. There is a reason everyone says this – it really does go so fast! Stop and enjoy the newborn days because they’re over in a blink. You never get these days back, and the memories you create are priceless. I purposely slowed down after Sophia was born. I cut back on blogging and my husband stepped in and helped ship the massive amount of orders we had with Deborah & Co. since we were bonus partners with the Ultimate Homemaking Bundle.

I’m still on slow mode, just adding in a few more things now that she is finally sleeping!

2. Accept that you will have massive mommy brain. It might just get worse the more children you have, but I have had terrible mommy brain since Sophia has been born! Sometimes I feel like I shouldn’t even talk, I can barely get my children’s names out correctly. Don’t even think about going shopping for specific items unless you have a list made out.

In all honestly, I’ve struggled feeling really dumb since Sophia was born. I’ve ended a few conversations with my husband frustrated (not at him!) because I just couldn’t express myself clearly. My husband is quick to encourage me and I know it does get better!

By the end of the first six weeks you will feel amazing, and have more energy to dress up your baby and take it out more!

I love this headband and matching booties! They came from this Etsy Store.

3. It’s ok to cry once in awhile. Hormones are still raging and the tears might flow. A few times I cried without a good reason. I was simply tired and a little thing made me cry. It can be healthy to cry instead of keeping it all in. If you have true postpartum depression, make sure you seek some help! I only had a touch of it with my second child, but it can be hard to feel blue when you have a new baby to love on.

4. Use paper plates, order pizza, have simple meals like BBQ chicken wings and cooked potatoes, parent from the couch, and accept help from others the first few weeks!

It doesn't always come naturally for a baby to sleep by itself! You have to gently work with the baby to help it to start sleeping.

5. If the baby won’t sleep in the bassinet, consider letting it sleep with you in bed until it gets older. I don’t like co-sleeping forever as neither my husband or I sleep the best with the baby in bed with us. However when they are fresh from heaven, they always stay snuggled up next to me.

6. Relax. All those things that make you hop onto google, call your midwife/pediatrician, or send knots to your stomach? They are probably all normal. The first few days Sophia was gagging and choking on spit up a lot. Even though she was my 6th I still asked my midwife if this was normal. Sometimes you just forget, or you may be so tired that everything is a much bigger deal than it should be. Of course problems do pop up, but a lot of times it is nothing to worry about.

Finally, remember that your baby is a fragile little person, they are not crying on purpose! They have true needs that should be met as soon as possible. There are always exceptions (taking a quick shower or eating dinner as fast as humanly possible!), but as mothers we are put on this earth to take care of our children. I’m 100% against the notion that babies need trained the first few months of life. As difficult as your baby might be, you don’t understand what discomfort that baby might be feeling. If you get frustrated, call someone or walk away for just a minute. Don’t be upset at your baby!