How To Survive The First Six Weeks!

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How To Survive The First Six Weeks of your Baby's Life!

I did it. It’s my 6th time to survive the first six weeks after a baby has been born.

There are a lot of emotions that surround the first six weeks of a baby’s life. A mom goes through a lot to get the baby here into the world, but she is suddenly at the beck and call of a little human being who needs her day and night. It doesn’t matter how exhausted she is; diapers need changed, the baby needs fed yet again, the diaper exploded so the sheets need washed, the baby spit up and needs new clothes…the list can go on.

It’s the most wonderful thing in the entire world. Seriously.

In the midst of those moments that seem so overwhelming, she experiences her baby’s first smile, she sees her baby prefer mama over anyone else, she memorizes every little detail on that tiny face.

In short, she falls in love with her baby even more over those six weeks, and it helps her through all the difficult moments.

Having a new baby can be overwhelming, but it's also the most wonderful thing ever! Here are some tips to help get you through the first six weeks!

After having six babies I thought I would pass on my most important tips that help me survive.

1. There is a reason everyone says this – it really does go so fast! Stop and enjoy the newborn days because they’re over in a blink. You never get these days back, and the memories you create are priceless. I purposely slowed down after Sophia was born. I cut back on blogging and my husband stepped in and helped ship the massive amount of orders we had with Deborah & Co. since we were bonus partners with the Ultimate Homemaking Bundle.

I’m still on slow mode, just adding in a few more things now that she is finally sleeping!

2. Accept that you will have massive mommy brain. It might just get worse the more children you have, but I have had terrible mommy brain since Sophia has been born! Sometimes I feel like I shouldn’t even talk, I can barely get my children’s names out correctly. Don’t even think about going shopping for specific items unless you have a list made out.

In all honestly, I’ve struggled feeling really dumb since Sophia was born. I’ve ended a few conversations with my husband frustrated (not at him!) because I just couldn’t express myself clearly. My husband is quick to encourage me and I know it does get better!

By the end of the first six weeks you will feel amazing, and have more energy to dress up your baby and take it out more!

I love this headband and matching booties! They came from this Etsy Store.

3. It’s ok to cry once in awhile. Hormones are still raging and the tears might flow. A few times I cried without a good reason. I was simply tired and a little thing made me cry. It can be healthy to cry instead of keeping it all in. If you have true postpartum depression, make sure you seek some help! I only had a touch of it with my second child, but it can be hard to feel blue when you have a new baby to love on.

4. Use paper plates, order pizza, have simple meals like BBQ chicken wings and cooked potatoes, parent from the couch, and accept help from others the first few weeks!

It doesn't always come naturally for a baby to sleep by itself! You have to gently work with the baby to help it to start sleeping.

5. If the baby won’t sleep in the bassinet, consider letting it sleep with you in bed until it gets older. I don’t like co-sleeping forever as neither my husband or I sleep the best with the baby in bed with us. However when they are fresh from heaven, they always stay snuggled up next to me.

6. Relax. All those things that make you hop onto google, call your midwife/pediatrician, or send knots to your stomach? They are probably all normal. The first few days Sophia was gagging and choking on spit up a lot. Even though she was my 6th I still asked my midwife if this was normal. Sometimes you just forget, or you may be so tired that everything is a much bigger deal than it should be. Of course problems do pop up, but a lot of times it is nothing to worry about.

Finally, remember that your baby is a fragile little person, they are not crying on purpose! They have true needs that should be met as soon as possible. There are always exceptions (taking a quick shower or eating dinner as fast as humanly possible!), but as mothers we are put on this earth to take care of our children. I’m 100% against the notion that babies need trained the first few months of life. As difficult as your baby might be, you don’t understand what discomfort that baby might be feeling. If you get frustrated, call someone or walk away for just a minute. Don’t be upset at your baby!

 

 

 

Rise Up And Call Her Blessed: A Mother’s Day Tribute

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*This post was originally published in 2011, but I felt it was time to republish it in memory of my beloved mother.*

She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness. Her Children arise up and call her blessed.…” Proverbs 31

As time goes on, I realize just what an incredible mother I had. Having children of my own has only had the effect of further amazing me as I think back and wonder, “How did my mother do it all?” I’m sure I am not alone in this process of growth of appreciation for our mothers.

My mother truly lived her life in service to others. She longed for children, and was blessed with my older sister, brother, and I. Due to her health she was not able to have more and I saw the sorrow that caused her.

I have never seen a mother more devoted to the raising of her children. She poured herself into bringing us up in light and truth. I was blessed to be home schooled all my life, and I have so many memories of time spent having devotions and singing hymns at the piano to start our day. She wanted so desperately for us to grow up truly knowing who God was, and having a personal relationship with Him.


Mom and daughter

A treasured photo of my mom giving me a hug as a little girl.

I remember as a nine year old girl, coming in the house one beautiful spring day looking for my mom. I finally found her in our school room, sitting at her desk planning out school and logging hours for credit. I remember thinking to myself that it was sad she had to be inside on such a nice day! That stands out in my mind especially now that I am a homeschooling mom, and I realize just how devoted she was to homeschooling. She was always ready with a plan, and spent much of her free time reading books on homeschooling and searching for the best ways to teach us. It wasn’t so much to achieve the highest academic scores, rather, she wanted us to love learning, to delight in it, and to strengthen our character through lesson times.

My mother’s name was Deborah, which means Busy Bee. She truly did stay busy, that is, as far as her health would permit. She was diagnosed with Lupus in 1994 and so many of my memories from the age of 11 on include her being on the couch extremely sick, many, many doctor visits, and singing hymns to her during moments of discouragement. Through it all she longed to be up and working, and whenever her health permitted she would be up tidying the house, cooking, rearranging furniture, etc. She absolutely loved being a homemaker. She exemplified to me what a diligent, joyous homemaker should be.

Mother passed away last July, so this will be my first Mother’s Day without her. I have to admit, while I knew that her illness was considered terminal (there currently is no cure for Lupus), I never thought it would actually take her life so soon. We had always planned that she would help me home school, teach my children piano, do nature studies with them, etc. She was always quick to help me do laundry, dishes, or whatever she perceived that needed to be done when she was over. Some days I feel dreadfully inept and alone without her here, but I “draw from my memories rich treasure store” and try to think how my Mother would handle a situation.

Words cannot express how grateful I am to have a mother who sacrificed so much to raise me. I never doubted her love for me and was always quick to find a hug and kiss waiting for me. I could not have picked a better mom had I tried, and I thank God for her. “Favor is deceitful, and beauty is vain; but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised.

This is the end of a poem I gave my Mom for one of her Birthday’s. I don’t know who wrote it…

 

The things in my life that are worthy

Were born in my mother’s breast

And breathed into mine by the magic

Of the love her life expressed.

The years that have brought me to womanhood,

Makes me realize how much more

My life was shaped by her own special touch.

 

God, make me
the woman of her vision

And purge me from selfishness!

God, keep me true to her standards

And help me to live to bless!

God, make me a woman, brave, strong, and true,

One that my own dear Mother,

Would be proud to claim as her own.

 If you are blessed to still have your mother, please take the time this coming Mother’s Day to let her know how much you care about her. You never know if this is the last Mother’s Day you have to spend with her. We had a feeling last Mother’s Day that it would be our last with our mom, and it was such a bittersweet day…

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The Homebirth Story of Sophia Diane

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The Homebirth Story of our 10 pound baby girl!

It’s been three weeks since Sophia was born, and it has taken me that long to process her birth and be able to write her story.

Upon reflection, the agony of her birth has lessoned and the despair I felt has turned into utter delight over my lovely baby girl. However the memories of what was, by far, my most difficult birth are still there.

After such a difficult pregnancy that included first trimester morning sickness and vomiting, progesterone shots and the scare of a miscarriage, I was hopeful that my birth would be peaceful. The calm after the storm.

It ended up being the most intense part of the storm.

I shared awhile back that I don’t tell anyone my actual due date. It proved to once again be a wise decision as I ended up going 10 days overdue! I’ve had three of my children on my due date, so those 10 days proved an agonizing wait, but it was easier that I didn’t have everyone calling and texting me every day about being late.

Purple Maxi Dress with Crocheted Maternity Sweater

I’m getting ahead of myself though. Before I went into true labor 10 days late, I started labor one week prior, just 3 days over my due date. It was in the evening, I called my midwife and told her I had gotten to the point that I needed Sean to make it through the contractions. She came, we had the birth pool all set up, and two hours later everything totally stopped. I was so frustrated!

When labor finally started a week later I waited a few hours before letting anyone know. I look back and laugh, because I decided to ship a batch of orders for Deborah & Co. during early labor. Once I got to the point I needed Sean’s help through the contractions I called my midwife again. I normally tend to go pretty fast in my labors, so she didn’t want me waiting long to call her. She came around 8:30 PM, and I told her I was hopeful to have the baby by 10:00 PM. Little did I know that we had a long night ahead.

Our children went to spend the night with Sean’s brother (who is married to my sister, who came to be with me). Our oldest daughter had a hard time with leaving and wanted to stay. Anticipating our usual calm birth, we told her as long as she went into her room when we told her to that she could stay. We had not prepared her to be with me during the actual birth, and at 7 years old I didn’t feel she was quite old enough yet. She stayed in the living room, quietly doing a sticker book and looking at books while I labored. Looking back we wish she had not been here, but I think she will be ok.

Waiting patiently for her little sister to be born at home!

I started having horrible back labor and needed Sean and the midwife to press on my back when contractions came. We had the birth pool set up and I finally got in it. I’ve had water births with 4 of my 5 previous children and was eagerly looking forward to another water birth. It was yet another plan I had to let go of and surrender. Every time I got into the water my labor would totally stop!

Finally my midwife said she was going to leave and go to a local restaurant that was open late. She knows I hate being watched and sometimes she has to leave so I can labor alone. Sean and I walked our hallway and I walked up and down our steps while she was gone.

homebirth

At this point it was around midnight, my contractions really hurt and were very intense when they came, but they were only coming every 15 minutes! Not very encouraging. I talked to my midwife on the phone and she encouraged me to just go to bed and rest. She was going to come back, pack up her supplies and leave until things picked up. Having never had a labor that just wouldn’t progress like this, I was so exhausted and discouraged.

By the time she got back I couldn’t stay in bed because the contractions hurt so badly when they came. I got back in the water, and again the labor stopped. My midwife had me go lay in bed on my side, with one leg pulled up high and stay like that for 15 minutes and then turn on the other side. She said sometimes that helps the baby if it’s position is not right. Talk about pain when a contraction hit!

My sister and midwife were camped out with pillows in the hallway, and Sean and I were in our bedroom trying to rest through contractions. I was beginning to despair that this would go on for another 24 hours. This went on during all the wee hours in the morning, until 4 Am finally hit. I was crying out to the Lord for deliverance, just praying that this baby would come. I asked Sean if we were going to have to transport to the hospital, as I knew something wasn’t right. Labor had never went like this for me, where I had hard contractions but spread far apart with little progress.

My midwife had checked to see how dilated I was a few times by now, but she would never give me solid answers, just encouraging me that I was progressing. I know my midwife really well, and knew that meant she didn’t want to discourage me with the truth. I really was not dilating very well at all.

Finally I asked her to check me again. At this point she asked if she could try and help move things along and I wholeheartedly agreed. She ended up needing to move my cervix out of the way. It was the best decision ever. A few minutes later I started pushing a baby out!

I was flat on my back in our bed, in a total hospital position. I have never given birth like this before, and in my head I knew this was a horrible position, but it was needed for this birth. I was so tired and desperate to get her out, and contractions were still not coming frequently.

Feeling the need to get her out, I ended up pushing out a 10 pound baby without the help of contractions. :/ I don’t recommend this, but it worked. My husband said he really didn’t watch her being born, instead he was watching me push with all my might, trying to get this giant (for me) baby out. Our midwife had to help get her out. I am used to pushing a head out and the rest of the body comes. Not Sophia! Everyone started yelling at me to keep pushing after her head was out, she came out ever so slowly and with assistance.

Finally, she was born! In reality, pushing her out only took a few minutes, it just was intense and ever so painful. Sean and my sister were afraid I might burst some blood vessels they said I was pushing so hard!

After she was born the midwife put her on my chest, but I didn’t even look at her. I was so exhausted I couldn’t even support her. I was in an incredible amount of pain, and the look on my face shows it.

Giving birth can be a joyful thing, but also a very painful thing!

 

My midwife did the basic exam and cleanup, and then left so I could sleep. I was already falling asleep when she came to tell me goodbye, with Sophia tucked in beside me.

Resting in bed with a newborn baby

The next 24 hours were hard, I was incredibly sore. Actually I’m still sore if I stand awhile. This birth I’ve needed to be down and quiet longer than my other ones. It has taken a good three weeks for me to be up and around again.

In case anyone was curious, I did not have gestational diabetes. I know people commonly think that when large babies are born. She just was a big baby, and was 10 days late!

I can look back now and say I would do it all over again to have Sophia. We love her so much already, and I can’t imagine life without her. However, I really, really hope to not ever repeat a pregnancy like this one. :)

If you are pregnant or just had a new baby, you might be interested in the Pregnancy & Baby resources found in the Ultimate Homemaking Bundle! During my recovery time with Sophia I’ve enjoyed getting an early look into the bundle and I’m so encouraged by all the resources. It’s only available for one week!

The Best Homemaking Resource Of The Year is Here!

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My favorite resource of the year to share with you is here!

Over the years a lot of of different ebook bundle sales have been put together. I truly think the Ultimate Homemaking Bundle is the very best one there is.

The wisest people are those who refuse to stop learning. They keep looking for new information, new ways to do things, and are willing to listen to advice from others who are pros at what they do.

Don’t be tempted to think homemaking isn’t important enough; that you don’t need to keep educating yourself. It’s vitally important, and not only affects what your house looks like, it affects your marriage, your children, and even how you can minister outside of your home.

I love a clean house but housekeeping does not come easy for me. I’m not a natural at it.  I really struggle getting breakfast on the table in the mornings, keeping up with the laundry, and having dinner ready by 6 PM.

(If you can’t see the above video, click on this link to watch it)

Resources like the Ultimate Homemaking Bundle are always a HUGE pick me up for me. I get excited about homemaking again, the same way I get excited about homeschooling after being at a curriculum fair.

If you can relate to what I just said, then Ultimate Homemaking Bundle is just for you!

It’s a complete library of carefully selected eBooks, eCourses, audio recordings, online conferences, and printable packs designed to help you turn your house into a home… without all the overwhelm.

The Ultimate Homemaking Bundle is an amazing resource, for one low price!!

I’ll share some of my favorite resources with you below!

The Healthy Breakfast ebook is amazing. I need easy, healthy, but yummy tasting recipes for breakfast. I’m really thankful for this new resource, as breakfast has been one big glob of oatmeal day after day. (No, I’m not a fan of oatmeal, I’m so thankful my children like it!). This 154 page ebook is $9.95 normally, but you get it along with 99 other resources for just $29.97!

I can’t just list one favorite resource from this collection. I love the Write Through the Bible curriculum, we have used them and enjoy it.

Large Family Homeschooling is written by Amy from Raising Arrows (one of my favorite bloggers!), and should be read by every homeschooling mom. The information in there is valuable and very well thought out.

Wordmarbles is a resource that my husband created! It is a fun way to encourage kind speech in your children.

Controlling the Spin Within is written by a new favorite resource –  Holly Dvorak. She did the free videos that hopefully you all watched on homemaking last week. I went through an 8 week live online course with her, and it was incredibly encouraging!

I really like the Build A Budget That Works Ebook. If you are attempting to create a budget, it gives planning sheets and clear instructions on how to set one up. It’s a great resource!

There are so many more categories and ebooks I haven’t even shared! Go see all of them here.

What’s in the Ultimate Homemaking Bundle?

The first step in putting together this collection was to find the critical homemaking skills that you need to transform your house into a home.

Complete collection of ebooks in the Ultimate Homemaking Bundle

Here they are:

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  • Finances… build a budget that works
  • Cooking & Meal Planning… serve easier, tastier meals in less time
  • Holidays & Special Events… brighten up old family traditions and create new
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  • Marriage… heat up your marriage
  • Motherhood… find peace, balance & joy in mothering
  • Organizing… conquer the clutter and simplify your life
  • Pregnancy & Babies… enjoy a healthy pregnancy and prepare to nurture your baby
  • Health & Wellness… soothe aches & pains with natural remedies
  • Working from Home… hone your talents, live your passions and earn money to help your family

… a complete library of 99 eBooks and eCourses to help you nurture the beauty and productivity in your home and family relationships.

Are there too many books in the Ultimate Homemaking Bundle?

Don’t stress about all the books included. I’ll let you in on a secret.

I never use all the resources included! I just pick and choose what is important to me and ignore the rest. Don’t let yourself get overwhelmed!

So relax, enjoy, and start anywhere you like. Come back to the Ultimate Homemaking Bundle as many times as you like. It’s all here for you.

For a short time, the Ultimate Homemaking Bundle… a complete library of:

  • 76 eBooks
  • 6 eCourses
  • 1 audio download
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  • 14 printable packs

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That breaks down to 30 cents per book.

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Don’t Forget the Bonuses…

Of course, no Ultimate Homemaking Bundle would be complete without the generous, inspiring gifts donated by companies that understand homemakers like you. Every gift is yours to keep and enjoy.

Bonuses you can redeem through the Ultimate Homemaking Bundle!

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Cowgirl Dirt is giving away $10 off $25 coupons when you order the Ultimate Homemaking Bundle through The Modest Mom Blog!

Cowgirl Dirt is giving away coupons good for $10 off your next $25 order! I’ve never seen them offer anything like this before, so I’m super thrilled they agreed to do this bonus offer for you all!

In order to redeem your bonus offer, please forward me your email with your receipt to verify you purchased a bundle. Send it to: Caroline@deborahandco.com 

 Time is running out! The Ultimate Homemaking Bundle will only be available from 8:00 a.m. EST on Monday, April 20 until 11:59 p.m. EST on Monday, April 27.

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Best wishes and happy homemaking!

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