Modesty and the Good Old Days (Is There Such A Thing?)

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Oh the good old days. We all like to talk about them. Back when things were simple. You know, horse drawn wagons, living off the land, making your own clothes time period.

Modesty And The Good Old Days (Is There Such A Thing?)

And best of all? Everything and everyone was so pure and virtuous. We didn’t have things like Playboy magazines, affairs in marriages, immodest clothing to attract attention, or filthy language being used to describe how great a woman’s body looks.

Seriously? I jest.

It feels like the modesty standards are constantly being pulled backwards. If we could only dress like the ladies did in 1950’s, the world would be a better place.

But what about the ladies in the 1910’s? They would have considered the 1950’s clothing to be horribly immodest, and the ladies to be sinful. They were showing more legs and more arms in the 1950’s!

Scratch the 1900’s altogether, we need to dress like the pioneers did in the 1800’s! Admittedly, this was a more modest time period. But think back to the Regency time period of the 1700’s. If you have watched the classic Pride and Prejudice with Colin Firth, you know the dresses might have been maxi length, but plenty of cleavage is spilling out of those gowns!

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We don’t need to go back in time to dress modestly. Decent clothing standards weaves in and out of time, going back to the garden of Eden, when Adam and Eve made garments from leaves. Is that the most godly way to dress still, since it was done in the Garden of Eden?

Cultures dictate clothing. Styles change, and sometimes it’s not always a sinful thing. They just change style. Don’t overthink it, and don’t over spiritualize it. Find what is modest in today’s world, and wear it. Don’t feel like you have to dress like the prairie days, or the 1950’s, or the victorian time period to be modest.

We live and breath and move in in our times. Some people were alive when they first used horse and buggy as a child, and then died with an automobile in their garage. The world changes, and we change around it. We need to seek the Lord, find out what our own modesty standards are going to be, and not base it on modesty standards of 200 years ago.

If you wore a victorian swimsuit of bloomers and a swimming hat to the beach today, you would draw so much more attention to yourself than if you wore a cute swim skirt and a top. Or board shorts and a shirt.

Don’t fool yourself into thinking that history is always best. What you will end up doing is attract a lot of attention as you walk around in your prairie dress, and people will think that’s what Christianity is all about.

Live in the world, but not of it. Live in the culture, but not immersed in it. Live in the present time, but always hoping for the future, the return of our blessed Lord and Savior. Don’t go backwards. Keep your feet firmly pressed on the straight and narrow path, and walk on in your Christian life!

Modest Monday and a Link Up!

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Happy 4th of July! I hope you have an awesome day celebrating the Birthday of America! We always have a huge day planned with our church, and my husband and brother in law are always the coordinators for it.
Blue Maxi Dress from Stitch Fix, with a Halftee Underneath!

I’ve shared this dress a few times on here before. It was the one item I kept from my last Stitch Fix box, and you can tell I wear it a lot! We had a family wedding we attended last night, so I wore it to the wedding.

Blue Maxi dress from Stitch Fix, with a short sleeve halftee! I wear my hair up in a halftee often, and having it curled and pulled up is great for summer months!

My sister and I sang together at church Sunday, which we had not done in quite awhile. I kept thinking of my mom, and imagining her beside us, singing her beautiful alto that blended so well. This month it will be 6 years that she passed away, and we all still miss her so much.

Blue stitch fix maxi dress!

Hues of Blue Flexi Clip to hold up curls for summertime heat!

Hues of Blue Flexi Clip to hold up curls for summertime heat!

Hues of Blue Flexi Clip

What I Wore

Dress – Maxi dress from my last Stitch Fix box

Cami – Short Sleeve Halftee from Deborah & Co.

Sandals – Kohls

Necklace and Earrings – Paparazzi 

Flexi Clip – Hues of Blue from Lilla Rose

Makeup – L’BRI Pure and Natural

(I used the wet/dry foundation and just applied it dry with a brush. It works so well!)

Link Up Time!

Please feel free to share posts about anything concerning being a godly, feminine woman. Topics include: modesty, being a wife, mother, homeschooler, homemaker, cooking, sewing, etc.

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My June Stitch Fix Review

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It’s been awhile since I requested a Stitch Fix Box, so this was super fun to get! I made sure and took pictures of everything I got to show you, even though I only kept one thing!

If you are not familiar with Stitch Fix, here is how it works! 

First thing you do is fill out your style profile. This gives your stylist ideas on how tight or loose you want your clothes, want pricing, sizing, and color preference you have. This is also the place you link to your fashion board on Pinterest, so your stylist gets an idea of what you like! I have a board just devoted to pinning Stitch Fix items.

Now you just order your fix! You have to pay a $20 styling fee, but that fee is refunded if you end up keeping any item in your box. I always keep at least one thing, so I don’t blow through $20. Every box comes with 5 items. Stitch Fix offers clothes, shoes, accessories, jewelry, but you can specify what you want. I don’t have anything checked on my profile beside clothing, but I might try some other categories at some point!

The box will show up in a few weeks (you can schedule when you want it to arrive, but it normally takes around 2-3 weeks for the stylist to put together you box, and it to arrive). You have 3 days to try everything on, and decide what you want to keep. A postage paid envelope is included, so it’s super easy to send back! If you keep all 5 items, you get 25% off your order!

So…now it’s reveal time! Please feel free to pin anything you like below, so your own stylist will see what you might like!

Collective Concepts Darcee Peplum Blouse – Medium – $58.00 – Returned
Floral Darcee Peplum Blouse by Collective Concepts from Stitch Fix.

I really liked this style and the print. The style card that was included said to pair this with jeans, so I picked a denim skirt to wear. However, it wasn’t terribly flattering (especially a side view). I could easily see people asking if I was pregnant while wearing this shirt, so it went back! I’m actively working on losing weight now, so once I get back down to a size small I’m going to try another Peplum top!

Market & Spruce Careen V-Neck Dolman Knit Top – Medium – $48.00 – Returned

Market & Spruce Careen V-Neck Dolman Knit Top

Market & Spruce Careen V-Neck Dolman Knit Top

I really liked the colors of this top and it was really soft. However, it really did *not* look flattering on me. Definitely made me look pregnant. *sigh* Having a 10 pound baby was so hard on my stomach muscles! It’s something I’m working on!

The top was also hot for a midwest summer, and I didn’t want to keep it for fall, because I’m hoping I’ll be back in a size small again! 🙂

Loveappella Swindle Lace Arm Knit Top – Medium – $58.00 – Returned

Loveappella Swindle Lace Arm knit Top in Black

Loveappella Swindle Lace Arm knit Top in Black

Isn’t that sleeve beautiful? I was tempted to keep this, because I love the lace sleeve! However, I’m wearing very little black now, thanks to a online program I recently through (review coming soon!). Plus, it just felt large on me. So..back it went! If you like black though, it is lovely, and very soft!

41Hawthorn Cameron Button Down Blouse – Medium – $58.00 – Returned

41Hawthorn Taeron Button Down Blouse

I liked the colors of this blouse a lot. However (you knew it was coming!), I didn’t think it was flattering. It sort of reminded me of a man’s top, which I really don’t like. The style card said to pair it with a white pair of pants, so I used a white skirt instead! Once again, it was really soft and I wanted to like this top. It just didn’t bring out a happy feeling in me, so back it went.

Loveappella Carmella Knit Maxi Dress – Medium – $78.00 – Kept!

Loveappella Carmella Knit Maxi Dress - Love this!

Maxi dress from Stitch Fix.

Halftee Short Sleeve, perfect for wearing underneath sleeveless dresses and shirts!

I loved, loved, loved this dress! It was definitely a keeper. I have very few dresses in my wardrobe right now, so I was really glad to see this included. It is soft, and flattering! I wore it with a short sleeve halftee, or a short sleeve denim jacket (the halftee was much cooler!). It was totally worth getting the whole box just to find this dress! I like that it can be dressed up with a nice necklace or shrug, or kept causal. A belt would probably look cute as well!

So there you have it! My June Stitch Fix box, and I’m already looking forward to the next one! You can schedule monthly fixes to come, but I just go in and schedule them for when I want them to come.

If you hate to shop, or have very little time to get out, this might be a good option! It’s not for those families who are on super tight budgets, but if you have a monthly clothing budget, or just really need to update your wardrobe with some good quality clothes, Stitch Fix is a great option! 

How To Wear A Maxi Skirt And Be Modest

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Maxi skirts are wonderful for being modest. Or so it appears at first glance. The length makes it easy to get on the floor and play with children, and be active as a mom.

However, I’ve seen some maxi skirts be just as immodest as a mini skirt. Seriously. Let’s go over some ideas on how to avoid that, and what makes a maxi skirt actually be immodest!

How To Wear A Maxi Skirt And Be Modest

Even though a maxi skirt just describes the length, whenever I say maxi skirt I think of a long knit skirt. There are maxi denim skirts (like the Rainbow Denim skirt we sell) but for this blog post we are going to talk about the knit ones.

What exactly makes a maxi skirt immodest? Quite simply, when it fits you like a glove. Jeans are not the only thing that can hug your bottom and show your figure, certain maxi skirts do the same thing. When a skirt clings to you, it also can easily show the lines of your underwear, thus drawing attraction to your bottom area even more.

Blue polka dot skirt from Ross! I love the detail on the waistline, and that it is silky and won't wrinkle.

In general, avoid maxi skirts that:

~ Has a lot of spandex in the fabric. There are times I love spandex, but if a skirt has a good amount of spandex in it, most of the time it will be a fitted maxi skirt. Spandex is really good for layering tanks and shells, where you want the item to fit you well underneath a blouse or shirt. Not so much for hugging your bottom and clinging to your legs.

Does not have a lot of extra fabric at the bottom. You don’t need an a-line maxi skirt (not everyone looks good in that style), but you don’t want the skirt so fitted that it doesn’t naturally have more width at the bottom.

Maxi skirt and Choose Joy shirt are my favorite relaxed outfit!

Simple Ways to Make A Maxi More Modest –

Use a slip! This is always what I try first. Sometimes just using a slip can help pull that clingy fabric away from your bottom, and avoid the famous underwear lines.

Wear seamless underwear. It can be easy to find underwear with smooth lines. I’ve found all cotton underwear has thicker seams (think brands like Hanes her Way), but silky soft underwear that still has a cotton crotch (no yeast infections!) work great.

Wear supportive garments underneath. Thanks to my six blessings, I wear supportive garments a lot to hide a mommy tummy. My favorite one so far was one I found at Target awhile back.

Where to find modest Maxi skirts:

A beautiful lace maxi skirt plus a floral tee, all available at Deborah & Co.

Deborah & Co. – This is not a knit skirt, but we offer a lovely lace maxi skirt! If you are looking for a maxi length denim skirt, the Rainbow Denim skirt is my favorite!

Kohls – I’ve found a nice striped maxi skirt here before, it looks like the selection is different from when I last shopped for one, but you can find several on the website still.

JCPenny has some good options – you can find some that look modest here, here, here (not totally a maxi length, but could be on a petite person), and here.

Cents of Style – I haven’t tried these personally, but they look nice in the pictures! The polka dot skirt is adorable! While you are there, check out the Choose Joy shirts in new spring colors! I have this shirt in black, and receive lots of compliments on it!

eShakti – I’ve ordered a chambray skirt from them before that I love. They have a maxi length Chambray that would be great for summer. The nice thing about eShakti is that they can customize a lot of the lengths for you, and make quite a few of these skirts into a maxi length.

Geometric skirt from Lularoe, with a blue cardigan from Stitch Fix!

LulaRoe – I’ve fallen in love with these maxi skirts! Somehow they are not crazy full, but they are not skin tight. You can get silky soft ones, or a regular cotton knit. The best way to find these are to join Facebook groups with a consultant, and they share new inventory every week or so. I’m hosting a pop up party in a few weeks for a lovely blog reader that is a consultant! I wear LulaRoe skirts several times a week now! I’ve found it best to size down one size in their maxi skirts.

Those are some of my tips for wearing maxi skirts, I’d love to hear your tips!