Ask Caroline: Can jeans be worn modestly?

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Ask Caroline: Can Jeans be worn modestly? |

“I have always loved wearing skirts and consider them more feminine
then pants, but lately I have been having trouble finding skirts that
I consider modest. Perhaps it has to do with my body changing so much
from pregnency and birth (knit skirts are too clingy), or maybe I have
become too lax in my posture (putting feet up, sitting haphaserdly on
the floor, etc). Whatever the reason, I find myself wearing pants more
often during the week. I am finally getting ready to let go of my
maternity clothes, and need to buy some new things that fit now. Do
you consider pants modest? Do you have reccomendations for buying
modest pants? Or any other advise?” From a Reader

Ah, the great debate about jeans. This is a discussion that can quickly get out of hand as ladies feel passionately one way or the other. For some, it’s almost like a salvation issue. Others wouldn’t give slipping on their favorite pair of stone washed pants a second thought. I’m hoping our discussion and comments are charitable and kind as we chat about this. :)

I’ve always been clear that I don’t wear dresses because I feel it’s required of me as a Christian. I wear them because I feel more feminine in them, and feel they send a clear message to those around me of who I am. A long, flowing skirt is modest. There really isn’t much debate about that.

Not all skirts and dresses are modest, but longer, fuller skirts or dresses make a woman look like, well, a woman!  Her gender is clear.

While I’ve been clear on my position on Deuteronomy 22:5, I’ve always just worn skirts. It’s what I’ve done for years and it’s easy to maintain a modest look in a skirt. However I recently asked my husband what he thought about me actually wearing jeans once in a while. He was ok with it, so I have worn them some.

I don’t just throw on a pair of jeans and a shirt without thinking very carefully about what it looks like.

Wearing a tunic with a pair of jeans adds a longer layer for modesty. | I found this tunic shirt from ThredUP and was happy with how it looked with jeans. I feel comfortable wearing jeans if I have on something long, like a tunic shirt or a short dress.

The jeans are loose, not the tight jeans that hug your curves.

Playing on the slide in jeans I wore the jeans to the park to play with my children on a windy day.

Mother and daughter at park While my first preference is skirts or dresses, I do feel it is possible to wear jeans and be modest.

Why do I want to wear a tunic or short dress?

Here is a normal pair of jeans that are currently sold at Old Navy. Styles and colors of jeans change, but this style seems pretty common to me.

Where do your eyes fall when you see a pair of jeans on a woman?

Many times (not always) the eyes fall on the tightest spot, which is the crotch area, the private part of a woman that should never be on display for the world to see. The backside is just as bad…

Where do your eyes fall?

In order for me to feel modest, I want to cover up those areas.

Shirt Dress with jeans

Here is a blogger who has worn a short dress with a short sleeve halftee over her pair of jeans. It adds the length and feminine touch.

Tunic with jeans

Olivia from Fresh Modesty is another blogger who is concerned with modesty, and has chosen to layer jeans with tunics or short dresses.

There are no clear cut rules about jeans versus skirts. Only you can decide what you feel comfortable doing. It is so easy to throw a pair of jeans and a t-shirt on, but I will always encourage women to think beyond just comfort and turn their thoughts towards modesty.

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Grey Polka Dot Skirt |

It was so sunny, I could barely look at the camera! So this is a squinty smile. :)

I’ll share with you an everyday outfit I wore to the park on Friday.

The feminine, modest clothing side of things is just a coverup if your heart isn't really set on striving to be a woman of God.


I found the scarf on ThredUP and knew it was the perfect summer looking scarf.

Gray Flat Shoes

The gray shoes are another ThredUP find. They are super comfortable! I had been looking for a gray pair of shoes for awhile, so I was happy to find them there.

Tree of Life Flexi Clip

I needed to put my hair up (confession, I didn’t get my shower in like I had hoped before church!) and so I just braided it and put a Tree of Life flexi clip in.

What I Wore

Skirt – Ruffle Skirt with gray polka dot fabric from Deborah & Co.

Shirt – Thrift Store (Van Heusen Brand)

Cami – White Full Length Halftee (New item to Deborah & Co!)

Shoes – Gray flats from ThredUP ( Ecco brand)

Scarf – ThredUP (Tabi Brand)

Makeup – L’BRI all natural skincare and makeup

(LAST DAY to get the facial masque for just $16!)

Flexi Clip – Tree of Life from Lilla Rose

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Ask Caroline: Where To Find Modest Maternity Shirts?

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Ask Caroline: Where to Find Modest Maternity Shirts |

Any suggestions as to where I can find modest maternity shirts that won’t wear out quite as quickly? The shirts in my local stores are very thin… And I can only find skirts on most of the online clothing stores I’ve used.”

Trying to find modest maternity shirts sometimes feels like trying to find that needle in the haystack. There is not just one store you can consistently go to that offers modest maternity clothing. You have to think of finding maternity clothes as a great adventure, otherwise you are likely to get frustrated!

You have a few options when it comes to finding maternity clothes. You can sew them yourself, order online, go to the traditional Motherhood store and shop, or look at garage sales and consignment sales. Let’s chat about each option more closely.

Sewing Your Own Maternity Clothes

I sewed some of my own clothes with my first pregnancy. After that I was so sick during the first trimester, and struggling to just keep care of the baby (or babies) I already had that I never found much time for sewing after that. The two dresses I sewed with my first pregnancy turned out pretty large, which was great at the end but not as great earlier.

Long maternity jumper

This is a picture from my first pregnancy, wearing a jumper that made me look huge! Seriously, we have a picture where I look like I’m having twins or triplets wearing this jumper. I’ve learned a lot about what clothes are modest and fashionable since this time. :)

If you are looking for modest maternity patterns in the store, you won’t find very many. My best suggestion is to look on Ebay for older style maternity shirt patterns. I’ve purchased several patterns on Ebay with good results. From my quick search on the pattern websites I wasn’t finding many good options. This pattern from Butterick was the only one I saw.

Order Online

Ordering online is an option that our mothers did not have,  and I’m so grateful to have this option! Whether you are ordering modest maternity skirts, or searching for tops, this really expands your search. Here are some places you can look for tops online.

Nine Little Months sells gently used maternity clothing

Gingham maternity shirt

Gap has this gingham maternity top available in several different colors. It’s more then I’d spend on this top, but at least it covers.

ThredUP now has a maternity section of gently used clothing. I found a few cute styles there, like this pink Motherhood top.

Pink Motherhood Maternity Top

All the other usual places to shop for maternity clothes are online as well, Motherhood, Old Navy, Target, Kohls.

Zulily is another good option, as they almost always have maternity clothes that are marked down on their site.

Shop Consignment Sales and Garage Sales

This is how I find most of my maternity tops. Even when I’m not pregnant, if I see a really cute maternity top for a few dollars I’ll grab it. I’ve had huge success finding maternity tops at garage sales. You can search your local craiglist listing for garage sales that say maternity clothes in the listing.

Visit your local children’s consignment sales, all the ones I’ve been to have a maternity section. If you need help finding some close to you, Consignment Mommies has a listing for every state. I just went to one last week and found a sweet maternity dress, so I went ahead and bought it even though I’m not pregnant.

Be Creative and Use Your Imagination

Now more then ever you will need to improvise and layer. It’s not what most pregnant mom’s like hearing, they already are huge and hot and they don’t want bulk! I wore my halftees and cropped layering shells a lot during my last few pregnancies. They didn’t add bulk as they don’t cover your stomach, but they allow you to wear low cut shirts. Which for some reason the manufactures think pregnant women are just dying to show off cleavage when pregnant. *sigh*

Wrap maternity top with a layering shell on for modesty

This is a wrap style maternity top that you can find about anywhere. I would never wear this without a cami underneath, but high cut cami’s are hard to find when pregnant. I was wearing a cropped layering shell in this picture.

If you are needing to layer a shirt for length, the Undercover Mama shirts work great and can be worn during pregnancy. I’ve had quite a few longer torso moms hold them up and say they are long enough, especially the ones with lace.

Lower cut maternity top layered with a modest cami

Another maternity top that I layered with a black layering shell.

Maternity top

A cute maternity tank that I layered with a long sleeve shirt. If the tank is thick enough, you could always use a short sleeve halftee to layer in the summertime.

**We are going to start doing a Ask Caroline post on a regular basis. If you have a question on modesty, feel free to email me your question and I will do my best to answer it!**

Modest Monday and a Link Up!

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We spent the entire weekend at our local homeschool convention, and we had so much fun! It was the first year we brought Deborah & Co. to a homeschool convention, and it was exciting to meet customers and blog readers. Almost every blog reader that came up and talked to me mentioned Modest Monday and how much they loved it. I was extremely humbled by the enthusiasm of the readers I met. I’m just an ordinary mom, living out my ordinary days, but it’s special to be able to connect with ladies all across the country, and even beyond!

If you have ideas for Modesty Monday, any improvement you would like to see or new ideas, leave me a comment and let me know!

Teal Maxi Skirt from Deborah and Co! |

Can you believe I actually look awake in these pictures? This is after two days at the convention. I came home and took these right after we unloaded the van on Saturday night. Adrenaline must have still been present. :) I wore clothing from Deborah & Co. both days to the convention so ladies could see what they actually looked like on someone. We had ladies trying on skirts in the booth over their clothes! I totally didn’t expect that to happen, but thought it was a great idea for the brave. :)

I love wearing makeup from L'BRI, as their products are natural and the foundation goes on so smoothly! |

I wore my special necklace from Vintage Pearl that says “Sean holds the key to my heart” on it. Yes, I’m a helpless romantic at heart, but my husband has my total heart.

Teal Striped Maxi Skirt from Deborah and Co. |

 I’m thankful the days are getting a little warmer and it looks like spring is actually here! The colors in this striped maxi skirt make me think of spring.

Freestyle Flexi Clip for an easy way to pull back your hair! | themodestmomblog.comI pulled my hair back in a freestyle flexi clip. I met readers at the convention asking me about the flexi clips. “Do they really work? I have too much hair, they would never hold it!” My response was always “YES! They really do work and we have mini through mega sizes, so it’s almost impossible to have to much hair for these clips!”

What I Wore

Skirt – Striped Teal Maxi Skirt from Deborah & Co.

Purple Tank – ThredUP

Cardigan – Hand me Down from my mother-in-law

(yes, I’m around the same size as my MIL, and we have shared clothes. Fun!)

Shoes – Black flats from thrift store

Flexi Clip – Extra Small Freestyle clip from Lilla Rose

Makeup – L’BRI all natural skincare and makeup

(Ladies tried on samples of the foundation at the convention and everyone liked it! You can order skincare samples that last 2-3 weeks for just $6.50! The first ingredient is Aloe Vera unlike many other skincare lines that have water as the base.)

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