Confessions From A Husband About Homemaking

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Confessions From A Husband About Homemaking

You may have heard – the Ultimate Homemaking Bundle is here. Even I’m excited about it! And why shouldn’t I be? For the past two years I’ve seen how it encourages my wife with its excellent resources and helpful tips. Homemaking is not a sprint, it’s a marathon and anything that can help keep a spring in my wife’s step deserves my appreciation.

I didn’t always think in this way. My early views on keeping a home were, well, cringe worthy.

As you may have learned by reading this blog, I like to keep things clean. When I was in High School I began keeping my room, my car, and my things meticulously. My first job was at a local grocery store and I relished the challenge of finding efficient ways to fill a grocery sack as the food beeped across the scanner. A few of you out there might relate but at this point most of you are probably pitying Caroline for ever having married me. Read on. : )

Sean and Caroline

Years later Caroline and I met, and for all of the wonderful things about our courtship it failed to disclose just how different she and I were in this area. That’s not to say that Caroline likes a good mess. It’s just that messes don’t speak to her the same way they do me.

Random stuff on the living room floor likes to jaw at me. It laughs at me; calls me names. I have to shut it up. To Caroline its saying, “Here we are, out of our places. No hurry though. We know you’ll pick us up when its convenient for you.”

So, of course she walks by as if it weren’t there. I simply can’t. Or should I say “couldn’t”. Six children does something to you in this regard. The stuff just kind of grins at me now – no words. I think I’m improving – don’t you?

Early marriage, though, was different. I can remember coming home from work and Caroline telling me that she had taken a nap during the day. “A nap?” I thought. Whatever for? I mean, it’s just you here, in this tiny house. You shop for groceries and you clean this house and you need a nap? (Are you cringing yet?)

There were days where she only had energy or time to tidy up one room before I got home. I’d walk through the door, size things up and quietly make my displeasure known, never mind acknowledging the work she did accomplish. This always hurt her a great deal. Ok, now I’m cringing.

“Yes you fool, she needs a nap. And no, she doesn’t need you guilting her into keeping the house clean!” That’s the me of today talking to the me of yesterday, or, at least that’s what I’d say if given the chance.

Starting a home based business really altered my thinking on this. You see, I was home more, and the more I was home the more I was able to see just how difficult, how complex, how thankless, how physically draining, and how mentally taxing homemaking really is.

Simplicity Quote on Motherhood

I quickly began to realize that not only did my wife occasionally need a nap to help her through the burden of the day, she deserved something eminently more important – encouragement. On a daily basis. From me.

I saw so many needs pressing upon her every day. I saw, with my own eyes, how the tasks she performed were critical to the overall wellbeing my home. To the casual onlooker, of course, these are menial, unlovely tasks not worthy of respect. The mother’s role in society is not exactly an exalted one, and my wife had long since come to terms with the way the world views what she does.

But what about the way her husband viewed it? Did she find honor and praise for her work from him? Something a wife simply cannot and should not be expected to endure is disrespect from within the home, particularly from her husband. He is, without a doubt, the best person to provide the encouraging words of appreciation she so desperately needs and legitimately deserves. She can endure the slings and arrows of the world’s harsh judgement if only he will affirm her work and bless her constancy.

I could have spared my wife a lot of hurt feelings if I would have made more of an effort to better acquaint myself with the demands of her work in the home.

Now I’m a true believer. My wife is irreplaceable. Her work is legitimately difficult. Most men couldn’t handle it. I mean it – they couldn’t handle it. It places physical and mental demands on her that I didn’t know even existed until I spent some time by her side.

Joyful Motherhood!

Too many men treat housekeeping like professional sports. The greatest athletes make what they do look easy to the point that in some of our more delusional moments we think we could actually do what they do. It’s just like that with our wives. They make it look easy, and we think, “Homemaking – nothing to it.” What nonsense. If that’s the way we look at housekeeping is it any wonder that they receive so little encouragement from us?

So that’s my little plug for not only the Ultimate Homemaking Bundle, but all forms of encouragement we can give our wives. Caroline gets excited about the bundle every year. It helps to keep her spirits up. It motivates and inspires her. I’m all for it. God knows she has a difficult job.

**Caroline here – I have to let you know my husband totally, completely surprised me by writing this. I didn’t ask him to do this, and I was deeply humbled by what he shared here. I love my husband so much, and am thankful for his encouragement!**

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The Best Gift You Can Give Your Children

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We hear it said all the time.

One of the best gift you can give to your children is a solid marriage.”

It’s really true though.

The Best Gift You Can Give Your Children! This Valentine's Day make a renewed effort to bless your children through a strong marriage!

Your children need to see a strong marriage modeled for them. It will give them a sense of security, and they will grow up with an inspiring picture of what their marriages can one day be.

Ask yourself if your marriage is as strong as it could be? Are you continually working on your marriage, or just cruising along expecting it to stay strong with little effort?

There Is No Such Thing As A Perfect Marriage!

You will make mistakes along the way, and your children will see those mistakes. I have made my fair share of mistakes along the way, and my husband is gracious to forgive me and love me in spite of them. Don’t allow yourself to get discouraged, just keep going and put the Lord first in your marriage.

Make Time For Romance! 

Sean and I both can be romantic at heart. We had one year of marriage together before our first child was born. The memories of that year was of peace and quiet, sitting on the couch together listening to classical music, lots of candlelight dinners, and as much time together as we wanted. 12 years later, and almost 6 children later, life is quite different!

Our time is limited, but we don’t let having children around burn the romance out of our marriage. Since our oldest is not a teenager yet, we still have the ability to flirt in front of our children and they don’t know what we are talking about. 😉 We kiss, hug, and tease each other in front of our children. They clearly know we love each other, and we try to model that for them.

You Are Not Being Selfish! 

I sense that so many couples feel they are being selfish if they attempt to make time for their marriage. With little ones it can be hard to make that time, but you are not being selfish for wanting to keep that spark alive in your marriage! It’s not the holy, high road to never have a date night, or go 10-15 years without spending a night alone with just your husband. There’s no doubt that children will consume a lot of your time (as they should) but they shouldn’t consume all of it. If you still feel guilty about setting time aside of just the two of you, just think of how it will strengthen your marriage and how a strong marriage is a blessing to your children!

If you don’t have anyone nearby that can watch your children, be creative and see if you can swap babysitting with local friends. They take your children one evening, and the next week you take their children. Or just have date night at home! You can see how we have date night at home here. Put your phone away and truly spend time with your spouse!

With Valentine’s Day almost here, the pressure might be on you to have the perfect gift, the best Hallmark love card you can find, or the best date night of the year, but oftentimes your love can best be expressed through simple acts.

If you haven’t told your husband recently how much you appreciate him, write him a love letter for Valentine’s Day and put it in his car before he leaves for work! Or surprise him with a candlelight dinner at home that night. Let this day of love be the time that sparks the romance back into your marriage! And remember, putting true love back into your marriage, is not only a great blessing for your husband, but also for your children!



Modest Monday and a Link Up!

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Long maxi skirt with sweater top!  I love how comfortable this outfit is. | themodestmomblog.comWe went for a walk at a nearby lake for a nice Sunday evening family time. The children are so used to Modest Monday pictures that they thought the only reason we came was to take some pictures. We reassured them they could walk to the lake and throw stones in! :)

I stayed home Sunday from church with our oldest son as we both still have bad coughs left over from colds. I actually had a fantastic morning! It was quiet, I turned a sermon on while I made a yummy lunch and set the table really pretty. The house was clean when everyone walked in, which every mom knows is a good feeling! I put Joy essential oil in the diffuser while I cooked, it was so nice!

Silver earrings and a simple side braid are easy to touches to this outfit.

The last few days I’ve been working on trying to get a small amount of makeup on in the morning. Today I just put on my foundation from L’BRI, blush and lipstick. I didn’t even bother doing anything with my eyes. My husband has been full of compliments, which is a nice change from feeling yucky for weeks.

I know the thought of makeup is overwhelming to a lot of moms. Who has time to add one more thing onto their morning routine? I find that when I take the extra few minutes I feel so much happier during the day. I feel more put together, just having my hair fixed, some foundation and lip gloss on. You really don’t have to do much for it take make a difference!

I’ve been using two new lipstick colors from L’BRI for fall and love them! They are caramel and chestnut colors. It’s the little things that make me happy. :)

What I Wore

Skirt – Maxi from Deborah & Co.

(We are getting navy, black, more grey and coral colors in stock this week!)

Top – Sweater top from thrift store, $1 special!

Shoes – ecco brand (I got mine from ThredUP but you can find them on Amazon here)

Earrings – Capri from Mialisa

Makeup – L’BRI pure and natural

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My Summer Reading Book List For Mom!

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I wanted to share with you what is on my reading list right now. I should also be upfront and say probably half of these I will browse through and not read the entire book. Because that’s just how I am. :) So don’t let the stack look overwhelming!

I’m trying to get back into reading encouraging books on a regular basis. I find that I stay more focused and encouraged as a wife and mother if I am reading a book on the topic.

Here is my lofty summer reading book list for this summer:

Gentle Babies: Essential Oils and Natural Remedies for Pregnancy, Childbirth, Infants and Young Children by Debra Raybern. I really want to be more knowledgable on what oils I can safely use on my children. I bought this book at our homeschool convention after hearing how excellent it is from friends. I love using my Young Living Oils on myself and my children!

Gentle Babies

Say Goodbye to Survival Mode by Crystal Paine. Anyone who follows this blog knows our family has been in survival mode for the past few years! It’s time to get out out of that slump, so I’m looking forward to reading this book and going along with the book study over at Young Wife’s Guide.

Mitten Strings For God: Reflections For Mothers In A Hurry by Katrina Kenison. I want to read this because I always feel like I’m in a hurry!

The Organized Home Schooler by Vicki Caruana. This is one book I’m just browsing through to get ideas for our new school year.

Only Nuns Change Habits Overnight: 52 Amazing Ways to Master the Art of Personal Change by Karen Scalf Linamen. I haven’t personally heard of anyone suggesting this book, I just picked it up at the library and thought it looked interesting.

Red Hot Monogamy: Making Your Marriage Sizzle by Bill and Pam Farrel. Who doesn’t want their marriage to sizzle?! What I’ve read so far has been really good.

What a husband needs from his wife

What a Husband Needs from His Wife by Melanie Chitwood. I’ve been enjoying this book, she has some good reminders on how to be a supportive wife.

The Good Life for Less: Giving Your Family Great Meals, Good Times, and a Happy Home on a Budget by Amy Allen Clark. This is another book I’m going to browse through for ideas.

Unplanned: The Dramatic True Story of a Former Planned Parenthood Leader’s Eye-Opening Journey across the Life Line by Abby Johnson. This looked like an interesting story on how a director of a Planned Parenthood clinic walked away from her old life and now is a huge advocate for saving babies lives.

Radical Womanhood

Radical Womanhood: Feminine Faith in a Feminist World by Carolyn McCulley. I saw this suggested by a few other bloggers and thought it looked like something I would enjoy reading.

A Wife After God’s Own Heart by Elizabeth George. This author has such a gentle way of encouraging you, I find her refreshing and easy to read.

EntreLeadership by Dave Ramsey. Finally, a book to encourage the business owner in me. :)

I’d love to hear what you are reading, or hope to read!