Ask Caroline: Can jeans be worn modestly?

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Ask Caroline: Can Jeans be worn modestly? | themodestmomblog.com

“I have always loved wearing skirts and consider them more feminine
then pants, but lately I have been having trouble finding skirts that
I consider modest. Perhaps it has to do with my body changing so much
from pregnency and birth (knit skirts are too clingy), or maybe I have
become too lax in my posture (putting feet up, sitting haphaserdly on
the floor, etc). Whatever the reason, I find myself wearing pants more
often during the week. I am finally getting ready to let go of my
maternity clothes, and need to buy some new things that fit now. Do
you consider pants modest? Do you have reccomendations for buying
modest pants? Or any other advise?” From a Reader

Ah, the great debate about jeans. This is a discussion that can quickly get out of hand as ladies feel passionately one way or the other. For some, it’s almost like a salvation issue. Others wouldn’t give slipping on their favorite pair of stone washed pants a second thought. I’m hoping our discussion and comments are charitable and kind as we chat about this. :)

I’ve always been clear that I don’t wear dresses because I feel it’s required of me as a Christian. I wear them because I feel more feminine in them, and feel they send a clear message to those around me of who I am. A long, flowing skirt is modest. There really isn’t much debate about that.

Not all skirts and dresses are modest, but longer, fuller skirts or dresses make a woman look like, well, a woman!  Her gender is clear.

While I’ve been clear on my position on Deuteronomy 22:5, I’ve always just worn skirts. It’s what I’ve done for years and it’s easy to maintain a modest look in a skirt. However I recently asked my husband what he thought about me actually wearing jeans once in a while. He was ok with it, so I have worn them some.

I don’t just throw on a pair of jeans and a shirt without thinking very carefully about what it looks like.

Wearing a tunic with a pair of jeans adds a longer layer for modesty. | themodestmomblog.com I found this tunic shirt from ThredUP and was happy with how it looked with jeans. I feel comfortable wearing jeans if I have on something long, like a tunic shirt or a short dress.

The jeans are loose, not the tight jeans that hug your curves.

Playing on the slide in jeans I wore the jeans to the park to play with my children on a windy day.

Mother and daughter at park While my first preference is skirts or dresses, I do feel it is possible to wear jeans and be modest.

Why do I want to wear a tunic or short dress?

Here is a normal pair of jeans that are currently sold at Old Navy. Styles and colors of jeans change, but this style seems pretty common to me.

Where do your eyes fall when you see a pair of jeans on a woman?

Many times (not always) the eyes fall on the tightest spot, which is the crotch area, the private part of a woman that should never be on display for the world to see. The backside is just as bad…

Where do your eyes fall?

In order for me to feel modest, I want to cover up those areas.

Shirt Dress with jeans

Here is a blogger who has worn a short dress with a short sleeve halftee over her pair of jeans. It adds the length and feminine touch.

Tunic with jeans

Olivia from Fresh Modesty is another blogger who is concerned with modesty, and has chosen to layer jeans with tunics or short dresses.

There are no clear cut rules about jeans versus skirts. Only you can decide what you feel comfortable doing. It is so easy to throw a pair of jeans and a t-shirt on, but I will always encourage women to think beyond just comfort and turn their thoughts towards modesty.

**I have turned off the comments on this post, as I feel there is no point in continuing the uncharitable debates that have taken place. My husband and I will do a follow up post in a few weeks.**

Ask Caroline: Where To Find Modest Maternity Shirts?

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Any suggestions as to where I can find modest maternity shirts that won’t wear out quite as quickly? The shirts in my local stores are very thin… And I can only find skirts on most of the online clothing stores I’ve used.”

Trying to find modest maternity shirts sometimes feels like trying to find that needle in the haystack. There is not just one store you can consistently go to that offers modest maternity clothing. You have to think of finding maternity clothes as a great adventure, otherwise you are likely to get frustrated!

You have a few options when it comes to finding maternity clothes. You can sew them yourself, order online, go to the traditional Motherhood store and shop, or look at garage sales and consignment sales. Let’s chat about each option more closely.

Sewing Your Own Maternity Clothes

I sewed some of my own clothes with my first pregnancy. After that I was so sick during the first trimester, and struggling to just keep care of the baby (or babies) I already had that I never found much time for sewing after that. The two dresses I sewed with my first pregnancy turned out pretty large, which was great at the end but not as great earlier.

Long maternity jumper

This is a picture from my first pregnancy, wearing a jumper that made me look huge! Seriously, we have a picture where I look like I’m having twins or triplets wearing this jumper. I’ve learned a lot about what clothes are modest and fashionable since this time. :)

If you are looking for modest maternity patterns in the store, you won’t find very many. My best suggestion is to look on Ebay for older style maternity shirt patterns. I’ve purchased several patterns on Ebay with good results. From my quick search on the pattern websites I wasn’t finding many good options. This pattern from Butterick was the only one I saw.

Order Online

Ordering online is an option that our mothers did not have,  and I’m so grateful to have this option! Whether you are ordering modest maternity skirts, or searching for tops, this really expands your search. Here are some places you can look for tops online.

Nine Little Months sells gently used maternity clothing

Gingham maternity shirt

Gap has this gingham maternity top available in several different colors. It’s more then I’d spend on this top, but at least it covers.

ThredUP now has a maternity section of gently used clothing. I found a few cute styles there, like this pink Motherhood top.

Pink Motherhood Maternity Top

All the other usual places to shop for maternity clothes are online as well, Motherhood, Old Navy, Target, Kohls.

Zulily is another good option, as they almost always have maternity clothes that are marked down on their site.

Shop Consignment Sales and Garage Sales

This is how I find most of my maternity tops. Even when I’m not pregnant, if I see a really cute maternity top for a few dollars I’ll grab it. I’ve had huge success finding maternity tops at garage sales. You can search your local craiglist listing for garage sales that say maternity clothes in the listing.

Visit your local children’s consignment sales, all the ones I’ve been to have a maternity section. If you need help finding some close to you, Consignment Mommies has a listing for every state. I just went to one last week and found a sweet maternity dress, so I went ahead and bought it even though I’m not pregnant.

Be Creative and Use Your Imagination

Now more then ever you will need to improvise and layer. It’s not what most pregnant mom’s like hearing, they already are huge and hot and they don’t want bulk! I wore my halftees and cropped layering shells a lot during my last few pregnancies. They didn’t add bulk as they don’t cover your stomach, but they allow you to wear low cut shirts. Which for some reason the manufactures think pregnant women are just dying to show off cleavage when pregnant. *sigh*

Wrap maternity top with a layering shell on for modesty

This is a wrap style maternity top that you can find about anywhere. I would never wear this without a cami underneath, but high cut cami’s are hard to find when pregnant. I was wearing a cropped layering shell in this picture.

If you are needing to layer a shirt for length, the Undercover Mama shirts work great and can be worn during pregnancy. I’ve had quite a few longer torso moms hold them up and say they are long enough, especially the ones with lace.

Lower cut maternity top layered with a modest cami

Another maternity top that I layered with a black layering shell.

Maternity top

A cute maternity tank that I layered with a long sleeve shirt. If the tank is thick enough, you could always use a short sleeve halftee to layer in the summertime.

**We are going to start doing a Ask Caroline post on a regular basis. If you have a question on modesty, feel free to email me your question and I will do my best to answer it!**

10 hairstyles for long hair

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10 Hairstyles for Long Hair, from super easy to more difficult styles perfect for a night out on the town! | themodestmomblog.com

When you have long hair you can do a lot of different things with it, but some of it takes practice! Here is a mixture of super easy hairstyles to some more difficult hairstyles for the special evening. Of course what hair texture you have will depend on if you can do all of these styles. I have very straight, fine, yet tons of it texture. My hairstylist is always bringing me back to reality about what will work on my hair. :)
Pigtails without a part | themodestmomblog.com

I keep meaning to try these pigtails without a part on my hair, as I really like how they look in the picture!

small braids with a flexi clip

This is a very easy hairstyle I do on my hair, just braid the sides of it and pull it back in a smaller size flexi clip (I used an x-small in this picture).

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Braids and buns

 

This is a relaxed hairstyle, it doesn’t matter if a few stray hairs show. Simply braid each side, pull it together into a low ponytail and then twist it into a loose bun.  It’s called the Twisty Updo.

Mega long hair secured in a mega flexi hair clip!

Talk about long hair! This mega long hair is twisted up into a mega size flexi clip, proving that all sizes of hair can go up in these clips!

Braided Bun tutorial

 

I really like this braided bun. There are three braids involved, two small braids on each side and then one large braid for the bun.

 

Curl the ends of your hair and style it with a Lilla Rose flexi clip!

 

Here is an easy hairstyle that has a classic look. Curl the ends of your hair and put a Lilla Rose hair band in your hair.  The hair band shown is one of my favorite, the Hues of Blue. 

 

Kate Middelton Updo

 

I adore Kate Middleton’s hairstyles! She is so lovely and feminine. Here is a good tutorial from an excellent hairstylist on how to do this updo.

French braided and tucked under with a flexi clip

 

Another easy hairstyle that just takes a few minutes. French braid your hair, then tuck the single braid under and secure it with a flexi clip.

 

Pull it back in a simple ponytail with a flexi clip

Do you find yourself wearing ponytails all the time but need to make them look a little prettier? Just use a Flexi Clip instead of a hair elastic for your ponytail. I use a size medium for mine.

braided bun with flexi clip

Finally, here is another braided bun variation that is lovely.

If you are not sure what size you need, you can look at the sizing and styling chart here. 

If you have long hair, do you style it or just leave it down? 

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My skincare regimen

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I’m not the model poster child for proper skincare habits. I love that I’ve finally found a skincare line that works fantastic for my skin, and I’ve had the least amount of breakouts since using it.

But I’m a mom of five children.

I have been the sole supporter for the past two years while my husband has nearly perished been blessed to finish college. :)

I’m a late night blogger, and a wife who wants to spend time with her husband after the children are in bed.

My skincare regime has to be super simple and take just a few minutes for me to follow through with using it.

Thankfully, I have it worked out to take just those few precious minutes. Because when it’s midnight and I’m finally getting in bed, who wants to spend 10 minutes scrubbing their face?

The one consistent product I use is the deep pore cleanser from L’BRI. I’ve tried so many different cleansers, some from our local health food store, one from a well known natural skincare company, and the natural oil method, but the deep pore cleanser is by far my favorite. I love how my face feels truly cleansed, and not just the surface oil and dirt taken off.

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 The gentle freshener goes on after the deep pore cleanser, but at midnight I just quickly put some lotion on and call it good. I use the combination set, so the steps are slightly different depending on what skincare set is needed.

Exfoliating scrub from L'BRI. | themodestmomblog.com

 

I keep the exfoliating face and body scrub in the shower and use it every week or so on my face. Love it!

One of my top favorite items from L'BRI! I love the facial masque, it tightens, tones, and helps heal blemished skin. | themodestmomblog.com

The facial masque is one of my favorite skin products I’ve ever tried. It leaves my face feeling throughly cleansed. I love this product so much I made a quick video last night about it!

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Sample skincare set from L'BRI

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