Modesty Rules

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Modesty Rules? Should there be a hard fast set of rules for modesty? Click through to see!

No I don’t honestly believe that modesty rules! This post is about the traps that we can sometimes set for ourselves and others when it comes to the rules of modesty.  So many times modesty comes with a package list of rules. You may do this. You may not do this. This certain type of clothing is always considered immodest. This other type is perfectly acceptable. However, I want to challenge you to think about modesty not according to a strict list of rules, but about what is in your heart, and what works for you and your body shape.

Modesty cannot always be broken down into rules. There is no one size fits all rulebook. For example….(and some of these might sound really silly to some people).

Certain high heels could be considered immodest, while other high heels are not.

Some V shape necklines are cut really low and show off lots of cleavage, while other V necks are fine. Therefore you can’t say all V necklines are bad.

Navy Striped Cotton Skirt from Deborah and Co! Our Navy Striped Cotton Skirt – model is the lovely Olivia from Fresh Modesty.

A shorter length skirt might be totally appropriate on one person, but the same skirt might look like a mini skirt on a different person. While I think anyone who cares about modesty can agree that mini skirts are not appropriate, you can’t set a certain inch length because ladies are all different heights. One common way to determine an appropriate skirt length for yourself is to not wear skirts that come above your knees.

A fitted blouse might look ok on someone that is petite, but could look really immodest on a woman that is busty.

Some jeans are immodest no matter what (princess written on the bottom area in sparkly colored bling!). Other jeans can be paired with a modest long shirt and it not draw attention to tight fitting areas of the jeans. You can see some examples here, here, and here. Your family standard will definitely need to take precedence; some husbands/fathers feel ok with jeans paired a certain way and others don’t. I’ve seen almost a hatred in women’s hearts towards other women who profess modesty, yet wear jeans sometimes. That is definitely not a modest nor a Christlike attitude to have.

Denim Skirt, white top and pink cardigan. A  nice fall outfit!

A cute outfit for fall or spring from my Feminine Fashion Pinterest Board!

 We are all in different seasons of life. What works for one woman will not work for the next. There might be a young lady who is working as a receptionist before she gets married, but the mama of 3 children who stays home with active young children can’t wear the same outfit and be modest. It stands to reason then, that the mama of 3 should not look at the young lady and judge her outfit, just because she can’t wear it. The young lady is not bending over to pick up children all day, chasing children, sitting on the floor playing blocks, or cleaning up the kitchen. What you do everyday makes a big difference on the outfit you wear. I hear a lot of stay at home moms say it is just easier to wear a longer skirt when they are going to be with little children all day, and I tend to agree with that. I wear my shorter skirts more when I’m going out places, or in the winter months with leggings under them.

 In short, it is very difficult, if not downright impossible in some areas, to set down hard and fast rules when it comes to modesty. Because the scriptures are largely silent on many of the above issues, we should not take it upon ourselves to act as God’s mouthpiece when it comes to standards of modesty. Make no mistake, we must attempt to defend and proclaim all that the scriptures teach us concerning modesty, but we must also be oh so careful when we begin to advocate certain non scriptural standards as if they were the word of God. We would do well to remember that not only is it dangerous to teach people to do less than God’s law requires, it can be just as dangerous to teach them to do more.

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Ipsy Bag For August 2014!

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Ipsy Bag for August!

I’ve seen so many people trying out Ipsy and Birchbox, that I finally decided to take the plunge and join for awhile to see if I liked it. I thought it would be a fun monthly blog post to share what I got, and what I liked out of it!

If you don’t know what Ipsy is, it’s a monthly subscription you sign up for $10.00 a month (includes shipping prices), and they send you out a new bag each month with sample size or full size products! When you join you enter information on your coloring, preferences as to what you use the most, and what kind of products you lean towards (I put natural).

Here is what I got for August.

Products I received from my Ipsy bag for August!

Out of all the products I was the most excited about the Lip conditioner (it’s organic and feels so silky smooth!), and the eye shadow. I was totally out of my L’BRI eye shadow in this lighter color, and I love the light shimmer that is included in this eye shadow.

I’m going to try the dry shampoo, as some days I go longer then I want without a shower because I’m so tired. Perfect timing on that one.

The Sheer Glo lotion is intriguing. You mix it with your foundation, or just apply it on your face after you put your foundation on. I did it today (very quickly) and didn’t notice a huge difference but I’m going to try it gain.

The Urban Decay eye pencil went in the trash. :) I’m not big on eye pencils and this one was purple. I knew I wouldn’t use it.

I’m going to try Ipsy for a few months, and then maybe try Birchbox to compare and see if I want to stick with either one. It is really fun to get some new products in to try for a month! I’ve read that Birchbox leans towards the skincare/ body care side of products, and Ipsy is more about makeup. They are both $10.00 a month, so price doesn’t make a decision on which company to stick with.

Have you ever tried either company?

Comparing Cowgirl Dirt versus L’BRI Makeup

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Long time readers know I used to promote Cowgirl Dirt makeup a lot. It is an affordable natural makeup option, and at the time I hadn’t found anything better that I liked. When I switched over to promoting L’BRI Pure and Natural (both the skincare and the makeup), a lot of readers asked my why I had switched. This post is long overdue to explain why I prefer L’BRI makeup.

And for the record, I took these pictures several weeks ago before morning sickness hit in. :) I’m still on my break from pictures for now. 

No Makeup On! So why do I even wear makeup? Here is a picture of me with nothing on. I find that my coloring is a little blotchy in my cheeks, and before I had bangs I would get some breakouts flare up in my forehead. I’m not obsessed with the need to wear makeup, I still go out without makeup, sometimes even to church.

After I had my 3rd child, I was exhausted, and felt like I walked around looking like that exhausted stay at home mom look. You know, the run down, hair looking crazy, blurry eyed mom look. There is no shame in that look, most of the time it’s because we truly do feel that way. Being a mom of an infant is hard work. I tend to get pretty irritable after months of not getting very much sleep!

I asked my husband what he thought about me trying to wear some makeup, and he thought it was fine. It was around this same time that I discovered flexi clips from Lilla Rose, and so that took care of fixing my hair each morning. I just feel happier when I add a little makeup and don’t look so tired and run down.

When I wear makeup my goal is to not have neon lights flashing off my face saying “makeup alert!” when people see me. I want a natural look with some color, not a caked on heavy makeup look. I want makeup to accent, not take over my whole look.

Cowgirl Dirt Mineral Based MakuepThis is the Cowgirl Dirt makeup that I had been using. To be honest I had not touched it in months, and after I took these pictures it all went in the trash. :) I used Southern Belle Foundation Cream, Wild West Blush, a little bit of concealer, Eye shadow, Mascara, and a sample of the Yeehaw Lip Sticks (War Admiral Color).

I'm wearing Cowgirl Dirt in this picture, to compare it with makeup from L'BRI. This is a picture after I put on the Cowgirl dirt makeup. I had a hard time spreading the foundation cream, it felt a lot thicker and heavier after I’ve been using L’BRI for so long now. The colors didn’t seem to work with my face as well as my makeup from L’BRI. The foundation and mascara felt heavier and not as effective. The one item I do still really like and use on a regular basis are the lip products from Cowgirl Dirt.

L'BRI Pure and Natural MakeupThis is my makeup from L’BRI. I use the wet/dry foundation, Perfect Finish loose powder, Blush, Eye shadow (you can buy an already put together set based on your eye color, or customize a set!), Mascara and Lip stick.

I'm wearing makeup from L'BRI  and comparing it to Cowgirl Dirt makeup. Here is the finished look with L’BRI makeup. I love how smoothly the Dual Action wet/dry foundation goes on. When it is on your skin it covers sort of like a cream, it’s just really silky and easy to apply. The eye shadow lasts a long time for me, and the mascara does not feel heavy or itchy. I actually don’t really like mascara, so it’s a big deal for me that I can use this one with no problem.

If you are curious about colors, here is a color chart that shows all the colors of makeup that L’BRI offers. I’m using the Dual Action Wet or Dry color #31, which is the Light Beige color. My blush is the Rose Sand color and I use Wisteria lip gloss. You can register as a new customer to look at product prices. They are comparable to Cowgirl Dirt, and in some cases are cheaper (the foundation is $20.00 which is $6.00 cheaper then Cowgirl Dirt).

If you still love Cowgirl Dirt makeup, or you like drugstore makeup, I’m thrilled for you! Everyone needs to find what works for them, but I wanted to share why I prefer L’BRI makeup now.

Long Denim Skirts On Sale For Deborah & Co. 4th Of July Sale!

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4th of July sale at Deborah & Co!

It’s time for a 4th of July sale, and per your request, the long Denim Skirts are on sale at Deborah & Co.

Rainbow Maternity Denim Skirt on sale! The Rainbow Maternity Denim Skirt.

Rainbow Denim SkirtThe long Rainbow Denim Skirt for Women – a classic best seller!

Navy and White Striped Cotton SkirtOur brand new Navy Striped Cotton Skirt is on sale!

Green Polka Dot Skirt from Deborah & Co. | themodestmomblog.com

The Green Polka Dot skirt is $5.00 off!

Paper Dolls

The paper dolls and coloring book is on sale!

Bundle One is $10.00 off

Bundle Two is $10.00 off

The Coloring Book is $4.00 off

ABC Say It With Me DVD

ABC Say it With Me DVD has had nothing but rave reviews from everyone who purchases it!

Homemaking 101 DVD

The Homemaking 101 DVD is full of encouragement for young, Christian Wives!

You can find the rest of the Sale items here

Finally, we just added this beautiful new Chiffon Gray dress, but it is available in extremely limited sizes and quantity. Don’t delay if you want this dress! It is a gray color with bluish tints, and even has pockets!

Chiffon Gray Dress