Staying motivated and avoiding burnout as a Homeschool Mom

Staying motivated and avoiding burnout as a homeschooling mother

 

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Teach Them Diligently is hosting a blog hop this month to encourage Homeschooling Mamas! I will be joining them for several different topics throughout the month, and if you want more encouragement then go here to read more blogs! 

It’s not even worth asking the question “Do you get discouraged as a homeschooling mama?” Of course we all do! I have never met one homeschooling mama who has not struggled with doubts, confusion, discouragement, and wondering why they don’t have it altogether.

I’ll be honest, compared to many homeschooling bloggers out there I feel like a newbie. My oldest child is 9, so we haven’t hit the difficult high school years yet. The only reason I feel a little more qualified to write about homeschooling is because I was a homeschooled student from K-12th grade.

Here are some common things that homeschooling mamas can get discouraged about. and my response.

1. I’m not smart enough to homeschool, my child is already smarter then I am! I’m never going to be able to keep up.

If you have that attitude, your child will easily pick up on it and then the disrespect will quickly start to happen. As a homeschooling mother we are responsible for our child’s education through high school, and the older grades involve scary stuff like algebra, chemistry, and foreign languages. *shudder* You know what? I don’t let those fears stop me. My mother was not the smartest women in the world. She learned more from home educating us then she did going to public school herself. But that fear did not stop her from tackling the subjects that needed to be learned. We need to let go of the mentality that we must do it all. There are many programs available to help your child learn subjects you don’t know. Rosetta Stone for foreign Language, Teaching Textbooks or Math U See on DVD, and Apologia has amazing science programs that go through high school written for the student to comprehend. If you need further help, there are always tutors available to ask for help!

2. My Child has such a bad attitude, we never can get any schoolwork done! I’m always disciplining and our days end in tears. 

I hear you mama. I really do. You are not alone, we all understand this one. Something that helped me was attending the Teach Them Diligently Convention in Omaha recently. I received so much encouragement from sessions I went to, and vendors I spoke with about putting character first above education. It is not wrong to step back from academics for awhile and focus on character. There are so many good character resources available that actually can be incorporated into a school day! A good resource I recently picked up at the convention is “Laying Down The Rails For Children“.

3. I have so many outside problems going on, marital, health, church issues….I just can’t focus on homeschooling my children. 

My mother endured all of these issues and more, and never gave up. Homeschooling was a huge priority to her, and I never saw her waver or even be tempted to place us in Public School. There were days that she taught us from her bed, as she would be terribly sick with her Lupus, or recovering from a seizure caused by her epilepsy. Sometimes we did school in the car on the way to yet another Dr. visit. Other times our school education consisted of reading scriptures to her, singing hymns to her, making meals and bringing them to her, helping her do even basic things such as getting ready for the day. As soon as we were legally allowed to drive we got our permit, and were put on our parents checking accounts. We learned not only how to follow a list and get groceries, but also how to go ourselves and purchase things that were needed when she was too sick to make a list. The things I learned through everyday life with a homeschooling mother who struggled with illnesses are far more practical and life changing then if I had been sent to Public or Private school out of fear of not being able to do it because of a parent being sick. A young mama I know became sick with Cancer last year, and a young lady in our church went over and helped the children do their school work while the mother went to her chemo treatments. Pray for wisdom through various situations. Many times it is doable if you are committed.

4. All I do is homeschool and clean the house! I’m getting so burnt out on this, I just need some time alone. 

Some women are of the opinion that it is spiritual to say you don’t need any alone time. I’m not one of those. :) If I don’t get some alone time to breath once in while I can crash and burn. Some things I do for alone moments are: browse on Pinterest for 10-15 minutes, go to the grocery store by myself (or even just with one of my five children!), go on a walk, have a dinner date with my husband, or put the children to bed and watch one of my favorite movies with my husband. If I’m spiritually discouraged (versus just suffering from noise overload!) then spending time reading God’s word can be very encouraging. I always head to the Psalms and Proverbs if I’m down. :) Remember, even Jesus took time alone to be apart from the crowd. It is not wrong to need some quiet time.

5. I’m all alone! I have no support, my family is not excited I’m homeschooling and I don’t know of anyone who homeschools either.

If this is the case, it is imperative that you find a homeschool convention near you and try to attend. I am surrounded by friends who homeschool and I have full support from all my family, yet I still receive great encouragement whenever I attend a convention! You can also join a homeschool forum online and interact with other homeschooling mothers about curriculum, schedules, and everyday life.

Finally, don’t feel guilty if the school day has fallen apart and you are tempted to indulge yourself in a huge pity party. Just put the books away for the day, go outside and play with your children or bake cookies with them! There is always tomorrow to pull the books back out. :)

If you are looking for a homeschool convention to attend, consider attending Teach Them Diligently Marketplace over the summer months! There are nine different ones to choose from. The Teach Them Diligently Marketplace is a totally new concept in homeschool events, which will feature an incredible selection of curriculum and educational materials in a manner that will allow you to compare them side by side to help you choose what is best for your family. There will be curriculum specialists onsite to help you evaluate which curriculums will best suit your children’s learning styles. They will even feature outstanding digital resources. It truly is the first ever Homeschool Curriculum Superstore ever! 

In addition to the great shopping experience you will enjoy, there will be 4 terrific speakers speaking 11 times throughout the day. So, you will truly be inspired, encouraged and equipped to continue your homeschooling journey! Apologia is also hosting a mom’s retreat the night before, which would be a great mom’s night out for you and your friends.

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Modest Monday And A Link Up!

Today’s Modest Monday is just a ordinary day. But ordinary days don’t have to be tiring, mundane days where we throw some clothes on and hope for the best. We need to live intentional and purposeful lives. Do we really want our children to remember us only taking care to dress nicely on Sunday? Can we throw a splash of lip gloss on during the week, do something to our hair other then the traditional “Mom on the go” ponytail?  Our children and husband are so important, let’s make the ordinary days count as well as the extra-special days. For more inspiration, read this post.

 

Modest Monday

 This day was an errand running day, and a clean the house day.

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 This was a carefree at heart day…. I love summer type day.

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 Dangly earrings make me work better. :) Try it and see for yourself!

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A mini flexi clip for a simple, easy alternative to doing nothing to my hair!

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Summer days…how I’m loving them. We took a break from school, even though I said we were not going to. It is so freeing, and we all needed time to breath this summer and just enjoy being together.

What I Wore

Skirt – Tiered Cotton Boho Skirt 

Blouse – Maurices

Rowen Earrings – Deborah & Co.

Mini Contemporary Flower Flexi Clip- Lilla Rose

Sandals – Zulily

Monday Sales

There are several special sales that either end today or in a few days, so I wanted to share them here with you!

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New Headbands

Today is also the last day to receive free shipping on everything found at our lovely accessories page at Deborah & Co. Beautiful Headbands, belts, and earrings for adding the final touches to your wardrobe!

Homemaking101

I’ve been given a special discount code to share with my readers on this wonderful Homemaking 101 DVD! Use the code: modestmom to save $5.00 off the video, good through Thursday! My five year old daughter loves to watch this DVD, and I love the encouragement and motivation to be a better homemaker I receive whenever I watch this. Highly Recommended!




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The Comparison Trap

The Comparison Trap

We ladies seem to thrive on comparison and equality. We want to fit in and we crave approval from our friends. Some ladies are leaders, others are followers. No matter which personality you have been blessed with, it is common for a group of ladies to get together and start comparing out loud. One women shares about the wonderful things their family is doing– it might be a new schedule that is working for them, devotion time their husband started doing every evening, or the way God is leading their family to raise their children.

Suddenly, the other women feel the need to start sharing what is going on in their family. We don’t want to appear like our family is less spiritual, or that nothing special is going on in our family.

The comparison trap.

Want another word for it? Pride.

I’ve found the same thing happens when ladies start to talk about modesty. Let me tell you, I sometimes feel like I’m walking a tight rope when I write about standards of modesty. I have my own personal convictions, but that doesn’t mean that some of the things *our* family believes is what *your* family has to follow in order to be considered a family who dresses modestly.

Sometimes I’ll post a question on Facebook, and I sense the comparison trap going on. Ladies, if your family sews all your own clothing for your 10 daughters, is that a biblical rule that every other family has to do so? Conversely, if you can’t sew and think it’s crazy that people actually waste their time doing so when you can simply go to the store and purchase clothing, is there some biblical mandate that you should rant on them? Some of us love chevron skirts. Some of us hate them. I like them (though I have yet to own one!) and my sister hates them. You know what? We still love each other. :)

You might like to dress in Edwardian style clothes, complete with regency style gowns. I’m personally tired of dressing where I look like I’m from several era’s back. But you know what? I don’t have to wear a regency style gown to be good friends with you, and you don’t have to dress in a chevron maxi skirt to be friends with me.

How we dress is important – yes. But it is not important enough to sacrifice friendships, and to be rude online in comments we post. Your conviction might be to wear dresses all the time. I respect that, I wear them 99% of the time. But I also respect lovely, wonderful godly ladies who share that they wear pants and strive to do so modestly.

As wives and mothers we need more encouragement from each other, even in the online world where we will likely never meet anyone. True friendships can be developed. For some women, online friendships are, sadly, all they have (I strongly encourage friendships in real life if possible).

You will find me writing against bikinis, about not revealing cleavage, about mini skirts – yes. But you will not find me bashing ladies who wear pants just because I don’t. And my goal is never to sound hateful about standards I do write about. Because at some point a line does have to be set in this world where anything goes. Women have to be encouraged to consider what they wear. It is important, and it does matter.

“Keep thy tongue from evil, and thy lips from speaking guile.” Psalm 34:1

“Whoso keepeth his mouth and his tongue keepeth his soul from trouble.” Proverbs 21:23

 

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A Summary of the Teach Them Diligently Convention


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Last Thursday we traveled to Omaha Nebraska and attended the Teach Them Diligently homeschooling convention. This was the first year of going to this convention but I kept hearing outstanding reports from other bloggers who had attended previous conventions this year so I was expecting good things.

I was not disappointed.

I left feeling so encouraged and refreshed. I’m honestly still processing all the information I heard. As soon as I gather my thoughts together I will share more about what I learned in some blog posts. For now I wanted to share some pictures we took of the trip!

Meeting A Mama's Story

I was blessed to some lovely blogging friends! Sara Elizabeth from A Mama’s Story was someone I was looking forward to meeting. She is so sweet!

Meeting Raising Arrows

Amy from Raising Arrows was the first blogger I ever met, and it was wonderful to have a chance to visit with her again. We did the “She Wears Skirts” series together a few years ago.

Bloggers

This is the blogging group! Teach Them Diligently is wonderful about bringing a group of ladies together to blog for them, and we were given the chance to meet before the conference started and listen to Heidi St. John, Rachel Carman and others encourage us.

Meeting Pam Tebow

Pam Tebow (Tim Tebow’s mother) came and spoke on Friday evening. She was so sweet, and I loved hearing stories of how she raised her children.

The three conventions are over for the year, but Marketplace is just starting up! It is a unique one day event (or an evening and a day) available in nine different locations across the US!

Real Refreshement Retreat Sampler

 

You can attend the evening before the main event for some encouragement and chocolate at the  Apologia Real Refreshment Retreat. The first Marketplace coming up is June 14th at Fort Myers, so hurry and register if you live close by!

 

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