Confessions From A Husband About Homemaking

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Confessions From A Husband About Homemaking

You may have heard – the Ultimate Homemaking Bundle is here. Even I’m excited about it! And why shouldn’t I be? For the past two years I’ve seen how it encourages my wife with its excellent resources and helpful tips. Homemaking is not a sprint, it’s a marathon and anything that can help keep a spring in my wife’s step deserves my appreciation.

I didn’t always think in this way. My early views on keeping a home were, well, cringe worthy.

As you may have learned by reading this blog, I like to keep things clean. When I was in High School I began keeping my room, my car, and my things meticulously. My first job was at a local grocery store and I relished the challenge of finding efficient ways to fill a grocery sack as the food beeped across the scanner. A few of you out there might relate but at this point most of you are probably pitying Caroline for ever having married me. Read on. : )

Sean and Caroline

Years later Caroline and I met, and for all of the wonderful things about our courtship it failed to disclose just how different she and I were in this area. That’s not to say that Caroline likes a good mess. It’s just that messes don’t speak to her the same way they do me.

Random stuff on the living room floor likes to jaw at me. It laughs at me; calls me names. I have to shut it up. To Caroline its saying, “Here we are, out of our places. No hurry though. We know you’ll pick us up when its convenient for you.”

So, of course she walks by as if it weren’t there. I simply can’t. Or should I say “couldn’t”. Six children does something to you in this regard. The stuff just kind of grins at me now – no words. I think I’m improving – don’t you?

Early marriage, though, was different. I can remember coming home from work and Caroline telling me that she had taken a nap during the day. “A nap?” I thought. Whatever for? I mean, it’s just you here, in this tiny house. You shop for groceries and you clean this house and you need a nap? (Are you cringing yet?)

There were days where she only had energy or time to tidy up one room before I got home. I’d walk through the door, size things up and quietly make my displeasure known, never mind acknowledging the work she did accomplish. This always hurt her a great deal. Ok, now I’m cringing.

“Yes you fool, she needs a nap. And no, she doesn’t need you guilting her into keeping the house clean!” That’s the me of today talking to the me of yesterday, or, at least that’s what I’d say if given the chance.

Starting a home based business really altered my thinking on this. You see, I was home more, and the more I was home the more I was able to see just how difficult, how complex, how thankless, how physically draining, and how mentally taxing homemaking really is.

Simplicity Quote on Motherhood

I quickly began to realize that not only did my wife occasionally need a nap to help her through the burden of the day, she deserved something eminently more important – encouragement. On a daily basis. From me.

I saw so many needs pressing upon her every day. I saw, with my own eyes, how the tasks she performed were critical to the overall wellbeing my home. To the casual onlooker, of course, these are menial, unlovely tasks not worthy of respect. The mother’s role in society is not exactly an exalted one, and my wife had long since come to terms with the way the world views what she does.

But what about the way her husband viewed it? Did she find honor and praise for her work from him? Something a wife simply cannot and should not be expected to endure is disrespect from within the home, particularly from her husband. He is, without a doubt, the best person to provide the encouraging words of appreciation she so desperately needs and legitimately deserves. She can endure the slings and arrows of the world’s harsh judgement if only he will affirm her work and bless her constancy.

I could have spared my wife a lot of hurt feelings if I would have made more of an effort to better acquaint myself with the demands of her work in the home.

Now I’m a true believer. My wife is irreplaceable. Her work is legitimately difficult. Most men couldn’t handle it. I mean it – they couldn’t handle it. It places physical and mental demands on her that I didn’t know even existed until I spent some time by her side.

Joyful Motherhood!

Too many men treat housekeeping like professional sports. The greatest athletes make what they do look easy to the point that in some of our more delusional moments we think we could actually do what they do. It’s just like that with our wives. They make it look easy, and we think, “Homemaking – nothing to it.” What nonsense. If that’s the way we look at housekeeping is it any wonder that they receive so little encouragement from us?

So that’s my little plug for not only the Ultimate Homemaking Bundle, but all forms of encouragement we can give our wives. Caroline gets excited about the bundle every year. It helps to keep her spirits up. It motivates and inspires her. I’m all for it. God knows she has a difficult job.

**Caroline here – I have to let you know my husband totally, completely surprised me by writing this. I didn’t ask him to do this, and I was deeply humbled by what he shared here. I love my husband so much, and am thankful for his encouragement!**

The Ultimate Homemaking Bundle ends Monday! 

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Be encouraged and blessed by 100 resources, handpicked to strengthen the Christian homemaker. Over $1000 worth of resources for just $29.97!

Today is the last day you can purchase the Bundle and receive this special offer from Deborah & Co.

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Forward your receipt on to Caroline@deborahandco.com and we will send you the coupon code to save $15 off your next $30 cami order!

The Ultimate Homemaking Bundle is an incredible source of information that only comes once a year!

 

 

The Best Homemaking Resource Of The Year is Here!

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My favorite resource of the year to share with you is here!

Over the years a lot of of different ebook bundle sales have been put together. I truly think the Ultimate Homemaking Bundle is the very best one there is.

The wisest people are those who refuse to stop learning. They keep looking for new information, new ways to do things, and are willing to listen to advice from others who are pros at what they do.

Don’t be tempted to think homemaking isn’t important enough; that you don’t need to keep educating yourself. It’s vitally important, and not only affects what your house looks like, it affects your marriage, your children, and even how you can minister outside of your home.

I love a clean house but housekeeping does not come easy for me. I’m not a natural at it.  I really struggle getting breakfast on the table in the mornings, keeping up with the laundry, and having dinner ready by 6 PM.

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Resources like the Ultimate Homemaking Bundle are always a HUGE pick me up for me. I get excited about homemaking again, the same way I get excited about homeschooling after being at a curriculum fair.

If you can relate to what I just said, then Ultimate Homemaking Bundle is just for you!

It’s a complete library of carefully selected eBooks, eCourses, audio recordings, online conferences, and printable packs designed to help you turn your house into a home… without all the overwhelm.

The Ultimate Homemaking Bundle is an amazing resource, for one low price!!

I’ll share some of my favorite resources with you below!

The Healthy Breakfast ebook is amazing. I need easy, healthy, but yummy tasting recipes for breakfast. I’m really thankful for this new resource, as breakfast has been one big glob of oatmeal day after day. (No, I’m not a fan of oatmeal, I’m so thankful my children like it!). This 154 page ebook is $9.95 normally, but you get it along with 99 other resources for just $29.97!

I can’t just list one favorite resource from this collection. I love the Write Through the Bible curriculum, we have used them and enjoy it.

Large Family Homeschooling is written by Amy from Raising Arrows (one of my favorite bloggers!), and should be read by every homeschooling mom. The information in there is valuable and very well thought out.

Wordmarbles is a resource that my husband created! It is a fun way to encourage kind speech in your children.

Controlling the Spin Within is written by a new favorite resource –  Holly Dvorak. She did the free videos that hopefully you all watched on homemaking last week. I went through an 8 week live online course with her, and it was incredibly encouraging!

I really like the Build A Budget That Works Ebook. If you are attempting to create a budget, it gives planning sheets and clear instructions on how to set one up. It’s a great resource!

There are so many more categories and ebooks I haven’t even shared! Go see all of them here.

What’s in the Ultimate Homemaking Bundle?

The first step in putting together this collection was to find the critical homemaking skills that you need to transform your house into a home.

Complete collection of ebooks in the Ultimate Homemaking Bundle

Here they are:

  • Cleaning… create a healthy, toxin-free home
  • DIY/Homemade… fun and frugal ways to express your personal style
  • Devotionals and Faith… take a break from the daily grind to renew yourself
  • Finances… build a budget that works
  • Cooking & Meal Planning… serve easier, tastier meals in less time
  • Holidays & Special Events… brighten up old family traditions and create new
  • Homeschooling… homeschool with grace and ease
  • Marriage… heat up your marriage
  • Motherhood… find peace, balance & joy in mothering
  • Organizing… conquer the clutter and simplify your life
  • Pregnancy & Babies… enjoy a healthy pregnancy and prepare to nurture your baby
  • Health & Wellness… soothe aches & pains with natural remedies
  • Working from Home… hone your talents, live your passions and earn money to help your family

… a complete library of 99 eBooks and eCourses to help you nurture the beauty and productivity in your home and family relationships.

Are there too many books in the Ultimate Homemaking Bundle?

Don’t stress about all the books included. I’ll let you in on a secret.

I never use all the resources included! I just pick and choose what is important to me and ignore the rest. Don’t let yourself get overwhelmed!

So relax, enjoy, and start anywhere you like. Come back to the Ultimate Homemaking Bundle as many times as you like. It’s all here for you.

For a short time, the Ultimate Homemaking Bundle… a complete library of:

  • 76 eBooks
  • 6 eCourses
  • 1 audio download
  • 2 online conferences, and
  • 14 printable packs

…99 carefully selected resources designed to help you nurture the beauty and productivity in your home and family relationships… is only $29.97. (A total value of $984.74.)

That breaks down to 30 cents per book.

Your 30-Day 100% Satisfaction Guarantee

If for any reason, you decide that the Ultimate Homemaking Bundle is not for you, then please send an email to customerservice@Ultimate-Bundles.com and we will refund 100% of your investment. No questions asked.

Don’t Forget the Bonuses…

Of course, no Ultimate Homemaking Bundle would be complete without the generous, inspiring gifts donated by companies that understand homemakers like you. Every gift is yours to keep and enjoy.

Bonuses you can redeem through the Ultimate Homemaking Bundle!

  • Choose 1 FREE Online Class from Craftsy (Select from 24 of Their Most Popular Classes – Up to $60 Value)
  • 1 FREE Kids Discovery Box from Green Kid Crafts ($19.95 Value)
  • FREE $15 Credit to Hope Ink PLUS 2 FREE 8×10 Art Prints ($71 Value)
  • FREE 90-Day “Good Deal” Subscription to She Plans Dinner ($15 Value)
  • Choose 1 FREE Stylish Spring Scarf from Deborah & Co. ($20 Value) Plus, get a coupon good towards $25 off $75 order at Deborah & Co. 
  • FREE $80 Healthy Moving Class Credit ($80 Value)
  • FREE 90-Day Pro Membership to ListPlanIt ($30 Value)
  • FREE 65 Tyndale Rewards Points to Be Used for a FREE Book or Towards Any Book of Your Choice ($15 Value)

I have one more exciting bonus offer for you that is only available when you purchase the Homemaking Bundle through The Modest Mom! I know a lot of you enjoy the Cowgirl Dirt all natural cosmetics, so you will be thrilled with this bonus offer!

Cowgirl Dirt is giving away $10 off $25 coupons when you order the Ultimate Homemaking Bundle through The Modest Mom Blog!

Cowgirl Dirt is giving away coupons good for $10 off your next $25 order! I’ve never seen them offer anything like this before, so I’m super thrilled they agreed to do this bonus offer for you all!

In order to redeem your bonus offer, please forward me your email with your receipt to verify you purchased a bundle. Send it to: Caroline@deborahandco.com 

 Time is running out! The Ultimate Homemaking Bundle will only be available from 8:00 a.m. EST on Monday, April 20 until 11:59 p.m. EST on Monday, April 27.

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After that, the shopping cart closes and the deeply discounted price is gone.

Act now!

Click here for more info or to buy now.

Best wishes and happy homemaking!

Read the fine print about this bundle and read the answers to frequently asked questions about the bundle.

Disclaimer – Yes I’m an affiliate for the Homemaking Bundle, and earn a commission when you purchase the bundle though these links. Which is a win/win for both of us, I get to offer you an outstanding bundle deal, and we get to keep saving up money to purchase a house. :) Thank you for your support! 

 

FREE Resource For The Struggling Homemaker!

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As homemakers we tend to heap a lot of guilt on ourselves.

We look around and compare our house with Pinterest, home catalogs, the perfectly set up displays at Ikea, and friend’s houses.

Those are not all realistic expectations. I’m pretty sure the homes that grace the cover of Better Home and Gardens do not have 5+ children running around in it. We cannot maintain our sanity if we want our house looking picture perfect every second, while still trying to maintain a relationship with our children, fostering their love of play and learning, homeschool, and do the bajillion other things we have to do

However….

That does not give us an excuse to leave our houses looking like a pigpen.
Dishes piled up

Yes this is my very own messy kitchen. Between having a larger family and a very small kitchen, it is a constant struggle to keep up on the dishes! But I keep trying, and refuse to admit defeat. :)

During the last trimester of my pregnancy I was privileged to join in on a live, early test of an online homemaking course. While I was not able to implement nearly as much as I wanted to because of my pregnancy, I was so inspired and encouraged by the counsel given by an older Titus 2 woman. Now that I’ve had Sophia, I’m getting ready to jump in and start implementing more of what I learned.

Are you overwhelmed as a homemaker? I have good news for you! The same older Titus 2 woman that did a live online course with me has created a FREE 4 part mini homemaking course with videos that you can watch!!

I’ll admit, I’ve been beside myself with excitement to share this with you because I want you to be encouraged by Holly like I have been!

Are you tired of getting behind on laundry?

Do you struggle to keep your kitchen clean?

Does the dinner hour have you harried?

If so, you cannot miss a FREE 4-part mini eCourse that is available for a limited time: 4 Simple Steps to Stress-Free Homemaking!

In this eCourse, you will learn:

  • how to never get behind on laundry again,
  • how to wake up each day to a sparkling clean kitchen,
  • how to avoid the 5 ‘o’clock scramble with a super simple meal planning method, and
  • how to set yourself up for success with a quick nighttime routine.

Control My Spin’s Holly Dvorak, a popular speaker and home management coach, and her long-time homemaking mentee, Erin Odom, of The Humbled Homemaker, have put together this eCourse to help curb homemaking overwhelm and give you the tools you need to run your home like a well-oiled machine.

4 Simple Steps to Stress-Free Homemaking will not take you long to complete, but what you learn through it can totally revolutionize your home.

What comes with this eCourse?

4 videos: These videos are all less than 10 minutes long, so it won’t take up a lot of time to watch them. But they each pack a punch!

4 printable worksheets: We don’t want to just leave you with the teaching; we want you to brainstorm ways to implement it in your life!

FREE REWARDS by sharing this FREE eCourse with your friends as well!

What rewards can you earn?

Share this FREE eCourse with 1 friend to get $5 off the 2015 Ultimate Homemaking Bundle! This year’s sale starts next Monday, April 20!

Share this FREE eCourse with 5 friends to get a FREE 1-year magazine subscription!

Share this FREE eCourse with 10 friends to get the 2015 Ultimate Homemaking Bundle for absolutely FREE!

A handful of bloggers got a sneak peek at this course, and this is what they had to say about it:

“I absolutely loved the course! It was so encouraging for me to hear someone else’s homemaking struggles, and the tips I learned are so practical, I can implement them immediately! Each video is less than 10 minutes, and well worth your time. I’m recommending it to all of my friends!” ~Kayse Pratt, blogger at Kaysepratt and author of Worth the Fight

“I was really encouraged by the videos to really think about the little things that make my day go smoother when I do them. Thank you!” ~Angi Schneider, blogger at Schneiderpeeps and author of Hope: Thriving While Unemployed

“I cannot tell you how much this simple free course has helped me already! I’ve watched them with my oldest daughter, and we are putting them to action! The motivation it provides can be life-changing! It made me really look forward to digging into the rest of what’s in the bundle.” ~Jill York, blogger at Jill’s Home Remedies and co-author of Homeschooling Day-by-Day

“The four mini lessons taught in this eCourse aren’t overwhelming, won’t load you with guilt, and are really doable. There’s also room to tweak the lessons for your family’s unique needs, which I appreciate as a homeschooling mom of five younger children. Instead of feeling like a failure by watching it, you feel motivated to make the small changes that Holly explains.” ~Kristen Smith, blogger at Smithspirations and author of Strengthening the Heart of a Homemaker

Don’t miss out on this FREE eCourse that can help take the stress out of homemaking! Get immediate access by signing up here, now, or click on the button below!

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To My Newborn Baby, With Love From Mama

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To My Newborn Baby, With Love From Mama!

Dearest Baby Girl,

It took nine months for you to grow and become strong enough to come into this world.

If I’m being honest, those nine months were not pleasant ones.

I loved feeling you kick and move about, but many days were spent either at the toilet vomiting, lying on my couch or bed, so fatigued I felt I couldn’t even move, and being poked for blood work and progesterone shots multiple times.

Sleeping during the last month of pregnancy

All the while, your five older brothers and sisters were running around needing the attention and care of mama.

I was torn as to who to give attention to, but ultimately knew they would survive this time. Your life was feeble and depended on mama giving you as much care as I possibly could. That meant rest, taking the progesterone, and attempting to eat even when I knew I wasn’t going to be able to keep it down.

When you were born I was so exhausted I couldn’t even hold you. I didn’t cry with emotion – no laughs of joy were heard. Instead, I was physically spent and in an incredible amount of pain – more pain than I’ve ever been in before.

Giving birth can be a joyful thing, but also a very painful thing!

It was like I bottled up the nine months of work it took to get you here and put it into labor.

A week later, I gaze at your face and wonder what we would do without you. The pain of labor is still there, the need for lots of rest still persists, but slowly the agony of the nine months is fading away as I fall in love with you.

Weeping may endure for a night, but joy cometh in the morning. Psalm 30:5

You were born in the wee hours of the morning. It was pitch dark, and I was beginning to despair of you ever being born at home. And then suddenly, the Lord granted the prayers of my heart and you came.

Newborn Baby Girl Sleeping Peacefully

It reminds me of trials in life. We despair of ever being rid of them, and then the Lord gives us sweet relief. Even if those trials do not end, there are moments of rest, and sometimes of complete deliverance. It is far from easy, but he gives us the strength to endure.

What can take the place of your baby hiccups, your little grunts, your sweet yawns, and the frantic need you have for food and love that only mama can give right now. You were fashioned in a furnace of affliction, but you have come forward as a vessel of unspeakable worth.

I thank my God that you are here and that I was chosen to be your mother and whatever the future holds for you and I, be it joy or sorrow, I will always, ALWAYS love you.