Introducing our *Exclusive* Facebook Group – Modesty For The Modern Mom!

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I’ve been throwing around this idea for awhile, and I’ve finally decided to take the plunge and just do it!

As of today, we have an exclusive subscriber only Facebook group! I’m SO excited. It will be called Modesty For The Modern Mom, but don’t let the mom in the word scare you away if you are single! Anyone age 16 and older is welcome!

Join our *exclusive* subscriber only Facebook group! Modesty for the Modern Mom will a source of encouragement for those who have a passion for modest dress!

This Facebook group will be a place to share pictures and ideas about outfits, hair, jewelry, makeup; basically anything for the feminine Christian woman. There will be some rules, but it will not be a place for legalism and debating about what exactly makes an outfit modest. There are many different standards and I want it to be a place that will encourage lots of different women!

I hope you will feel free to jump right now and start posting pictures of daily outfits you wear, asking questions, leaving comments, or helping someone out. Please don’t feel like you need to post your Sunday best. We want to see daily outfits – real life looks! 

This is a subscriber only group, meaning you must be a subscriber to this blog to be able to join. If you are already a subscriber, look at the bottom of your email for the image, click on it and it will take you to the FB group. Just request to join and I’ll get you added.

If you are NOT a subscriber yet, please join here, open the email confirming it and you will have the link in that email to join the FB group. 

Let’s make this a super awesome support group, full of encouragement and love and charity! I’ve been blessed by so many different groups on Facebook and I hope this will be one of them!

What’s so wrong with the “S” Word?

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What is so wrong with the S Word? As parents, we need to take a firm stand on this and being willing to shelter our children!

As a second generation homeschooler I’ve heard the “s” word my whole life.

“Those poor children are going to be so sheltered they won’t be able to adjust to normal life.”

The other big “s” word? Socialization. These two words have a way of following each other around. “Oh my, their children are so sheltered they won’t know the first thing about socialization. I mean, how will they cope when they get out into the real world?”

I can attest that there is at least one person on the planet who was sheltered as a youth and who, now in her 30’s, makes her way in the world quite well. That person is me. Actually, believe it or not, there are others like me. Many others. You might not know it though because, well, we’re just so adept at socializing. 😉

Sarcasm aside, I’m sincerely not the least bit resentful that I didn’t experience more of the world as I was growing up. My parents carefully controlled the environment in my home and I’m grateful for it. That’s not to say we lived in a cave. My mother was very wise in the way she sheltered me yet made sure I was equipped and prepared to enter the world.

As a sheltered homeschooled child I grew into an adult that was married at 19 and became a mother at 20 (gasp, yes I was one of those young brides who went through courtship). I am currently a pastor’s wife, a business owner, a blogger, and I hope a “normal” human being that tries to conduct her life in a way that would please God.

What did my sheltered life consist of? (Cue the melancholy music.)

1. I wasn’t familiar with many of the popular movie stars, as I didn’t watch many of the popular movies. If an actress was in a Jane Austen movie then I knew about them. :) It’s still that way today. Watching PG-13 and R rated movies just didn’t happen (I think I’ve seen two PG-13 movies. Or maybe I should say I’ve seen about a ⅓ of two historical PG-13 movies. We fast forwarded through most of them).

2. We listened to classical and some Christian music growing up. Actually I listened to more Contemporary Christian music when I was younger than I do now. I was a teenager when my brother introduced me to the famous Bye-Bye Ms. American Pie song (and don’t ask me the band responsible for the song, lol). I knew what songs were popular from being out shopping. I suppose you could say I grew up listening to the Wal-Mart top 40. : )

3. Cursing was absolutely not allowed in our home. Slang words were considered just as bad as curse words. Some of you might be shocked, but I was well into my 20’s before I even knew what most bad words were and I still don’t think I know all of them. If I had been around situations where curse words were commonly used, my parents would have educated me more. I just didn’t need to know!

4. The TV was never background noise. It was only on if we were all watching something together, and many years we never even had TV reception.

5. My parents never taught us to believe in the Easter Bunny or Santa Clause. Actually my Grandpa was the town’s Santa Clause one time (it was a big deal; he rode in a float with the mayor, picture in the paper and everything). We went to see him with our younger cousin who did believe in Santa Clause and we were given strict instructions to not say a word about it being our Grandpa! We celebrated holidays for the religious reasons behind them, not the secular.

6. I’ve never been to a lock-in at a church or school and I only went to one big overnight birthday party when I was little.

7. I never went on a date until I was courting the man I married. Please know I don’t believe that just because you are in a courtship means you will automatically marry that person, but I do not believe in dating around for fun. We had our first kiss on our wedding day.

My parents came from rough upbringings, and they regretted a lot of things they went through. They didn’t want their children making the same mistakes so they sheltered them from influences that they didn’t consider godly.

However, don’t let this list fool you. I’m not a naive 30 year old mama. I’ve had my fair share of real life, hard, and very unsheltered situations.

As soon as we were old enough to drive we were added to our parents checking accounts. My mom had Lupus since I was 11 and we were responsible for grocery shopping and running errands when she was sick.

I was one of the primary caregivers of my great-grandfather when I was 16. He was living in our home on hospice for a month or so before he passed away of cancer. My older sister was in charge of all the financial/legal paperwork and I worked with the hospice nurses on how to take care of him.

I’ve learned far more about homosexuality and it’s lifestyle than I ever dreamed I would have, because of family members who have chosen to walk in that path. I’ve been in many counseling situations, churches of all different faiths, and opened our home to many different types of people.

I’ve walked through family member’s divorces, separations, terminal illness, heartaches, victory and failures.

Being sheltered does not mean you don’t experience real life and all that it brings. It simply means you limit your understanding concerning the ungodly things as much as you can. Why? So you can deal with real life.

The only time I’m super aware of my limited knowledge of movies or movie stars, popular people (like famous people in sports), etc. is when my husband makes a joke or tries to tell me some passing tidbit of news, and I have no clue what he is talking about. :) We come from different backgrounds, but he always tells me it’s better not to know!

Do I think you can shelter your children too much? Absolutely. But that’s a topic for another post. For the purposes of this post I just want to say that this lady who is married to a real husband and who went through 6 real labors which brought 6 real children into the world, and who has seen her share of real sorrow and suffering among those she loves most, is truly grateful for being sheltered when she was young so she could joyfully weather this bittersweet thing people call socialization.

Make Over Your Mornings – A Boost For the Worn Out Mom

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Have you ever gone into the bathroom just to cry?

Has your day as a mother ever been so difficult that it’s hard to put a smile on your face?

Do you feel so burdened by your to do list, that you never get any of it done because you don’t know where to start?

I’m writing this because I’ve had those days. Actually, I just did the cry in the bathroom thing today. Life as a mother is immensely rewarding, but don’t let anyone try to tell you that it’s never hard!

I’m going to propose to you that how we start our mornings is crucial to the success of our entire day. We can start feeling encouraged as we wake up, having clear direction on what we are going to accomplish in our day. Or we can wake up and float throughout our day, trying to accomplish a great deal of things without purpose.

More often than not I float. I want clear direction. The thought of creating a plan that would actually work sounded so overwhelming until I came across the brand new Make Over Your Mornings course.

Mornings can be really rough here. As in I can be the ultimate grouchy mom yelling at my children to hurry up, get their chores done and the whole morning ends in disaster.

What a lovely way to start the day.

Turn your mornings into something beautiful with the Make Over Your Mornings Course!

We ended our school year a few weeks ago and are on Summer break until July. I stopped school determined to get a better grasp on our mornings, which we have been working on. The Make Over Your Mornings course couldn’t have come at a better time!

Crystal Paine from Money Saving Mom put this course together. I’ve been seeing hints of it on her blog for a few months now, and have been eagerly waiting to see it! I was able to get an early look at it, and I was not disappointed.

“This 14-day course is designed to help you revolutionize your productivity, streamline your routines, invest your time in things that truly matter, and find more joy and peace in the process.” 

-Crystal

Make Over Your Mornings Course will transform your whole life!

Have you yearned to get into a morning routine that begins with time to fill your soul before the rest of the household needs you?  This 14-day Make Over Your Mornings course walks you, step-by-step, through a process that creates a routine that will:

  • Prioritize nourishing your soul before launching your day
  • Streamline your mornings (and your whole day)
  • Create a to-do list that serves (not strangles)
  • Establish accountability
  • Set short- and long-term goals, and SO MUCH MORE!

In this course you will receive 14 videos to watch daily and a workbook to follow along with. These videos are high quality and give you a sneak peak into Crystal’s everyday life, how she interacts with her family and how she is able to keep up a hugely successful blog and homeschool! 

**Update** I just created a Facebook Group to go through this course together! You can join here. We will start this course on Monday, June 6th!

If you are not an early riser, don’t worry. This course doesn’t tell you what time you need to get up. Rather it helps you establish for that time when you do rise out of bed. Actually the routine starts the night before!

Make Over Your Mornings Course from Money Saving Mom

Watching the Make Over Your Mornings Course on my laptop.

I’m really passionate about sharing this course with you all because it’s an area I struggle with and I know I’m not alone!

This isn’t another ebook to read and forget about it. The videos are engaging and very encouraging, and the workbook is concise and to the point. You won’t waste your time. I’ve found that 15 minutes a day working on a new habit (like exercising) can create a dramatic difference in my life.

This course retails for $17 (which is super affordable full price!).

There have been so many sales going on lately that I could share with you all. The Build Your Bundle Sale ends today (they decided to extend it one more day!) but I hardly shared about it.

Honestly….I’m tired right now.

I want life to slow down.  And I know a lot of you might be feeling the same way. I wouldn’t be sharing this huge blog post if I didn’t believe that it could bless so many mamas like myself.

Join me in this course and follow along as I share how my mornings are being transformed! I’m already seeing a difference after a few days of putting her suggestions into practice! I’ll try to start using my Instagram account again, and share some fun photos over there!

Confessions From A Husband About Homemaking

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Confessions From A Husband About Homemaking

You may have heard – the Ultimate Homemaking Bundle is here. Even I’m excited about it! And why shouldn’t I be? For the past two years I’ve seen how it encourages my wife with its excellent resources and helpful tips. Homemaking is not a sprint, it’s a marathon and anything that can help keep a spring in my wife’s step deserves my appreciation.

I didn’t always think in this way. My early views on keeping a home were, well, cringe worthy.

As you may have learned by reading this blog, I like to keep things clean. When I was in High School I began keeping my room, my car, and my things meticulously. My first job was at a local grocery store and I relished the challenge of finding efficient ways to fill a grocery sack as the food beeped across the scanner. A few of you out there might relate but at this point most of you are probably pitying Caroline for ever having married me. Read on. : )

Sean and Caroline

Years later Caroline and I met, and for all of the wonderful things about our courtship it failed to disclose just how different she and I were in this area. That’s not to say that Caroline likes a good mess. It’s just that messes don’t speak to her the same way they do me.

Random stuff on the living room floor likes to jaw at me. It laughs at me; calls me names. I have to shut it up. To Caroline its saying, “Here we are, out of our places. No hurry though. We know you’ll pick us up when its convenient for you.”

So, of course she walks by as if it weren’t there. I simply can’t. Or should I say “couldn’t”. Six children does something to you in this regard. The stuff just kind of grins at me now – no words. I think I’m improving – don’t you?

Early marriage, though, was different. I can remember coming home from work and Caroline telling me that she had taken a nap during the day. “A nap?” I thought. Whatever for? I mean, it’s just you here, in this tiny house. You shop for groceries and you clean this house and you need a nap? (Are you cringing yet?)

There were days where she only had energy or time to tidy up one room before I got home. I’d walk through the door, size things up and quietly make my displeasure known, never mind acknowledging the work she did accomplish. This always hurt her a great deal. Ok, now I’m cringing.

“Yes you fool, she needs a nap. And no, she doesn’t need you guilting her into keeping the house clean!” That’s the me of today talking to the me of yesterday, or, at least that’s what I’d say if given the chance.

Starting a home based business really altered my thinking on this. You see, I was home more, and the more I was home the more I was able to see just how difficult, how complex, how thankless, how physically draining, and how mentally taxing homemaking really is.

Simplicity Quote on Motherhood

I quickly began to realize that not only did my wife occasionally need a nap to help her through the burden of the day, she deserved something eminently more important – encouragement. On a daily basis. From me.

I saw so many needs pressing upon her every day. I saw, with my own eyes, how the tasks she performed were critical to the overall wellbeing my home. To the casual onlooker, of course, these are menial, unlovely tasks not worthy of respect. The mother’s role in society is not exactly an exalted one, and my wife had long since come to terms with the way the world views what she does.

But what about the way her husband viewed it? Did she find honor and praise for her work from him? Something a wife simply cannot and should not be expected to endure is disrespect from within the home, particularly from her husband. He is, without a doubt, the best person to provide the encouraging words of appreciation she so desperately needs and legitimately deserves. She can endure the slings and arrows of the world’s harsh judgement if only he will affirm her work and bless her constancy.

I could have spared my wife a lot of hurt feelings if I would have made more of an effort to better acquaint myself with the demands of her work in the home.

Now I’m a true believer. My wife is irreplaceable. Her work is legitimately difficult. Most men couldn’t handle it. I mean it – they couldn’t handle it. It places physical and mental demands on her that I didn’t know even existed until I spent some time by her side.

Joyful Motherhood!

Too many men treat housekeeping like professional sports. The greatest athletes make what they do look easy to the point that in some of our more delusional moments we think we could actually do what they do. It’s just like that with our wives. They make it look easy, and we think, “Homemaking – nothing to it.” What nonsense. If that’s the way we look at housekeeping is it any wonder that they receive so little encouragement from us?

So that’s my little plug for not only the Ultimate Homemaking Bundle, but all forms of encouragement we can give our wives. Caroline gets excited about the bundle every year. It helps to keep her spirits up. It motivates and inspires her. I’m all for it. God knows she has a difficult job.

**Caroline here – I have to let you know my husband totally, completely surprised me by writing this. I didn’t ask him to do this, and I was deeply humbled by what he shared here. I love my husband so much, and am thankful for his encouragement!**

The Ultimate Homemaking Bundle ends Monday! 

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Be encouraged and blessed by 100 resources, handpicked to strengthen the Christian homemaker. Over $1000 worth of resources for just $29.97!

Today is the last day you can purchase the Bundle and receive this special offer from Deborah & Co.

Cami Offer at Deborah & Co.

Forward your receipt on to Caroline@deborahandco.com and we will send you the coupon code to save $15 off your next $30 cami order!

The Ultimate Homemaking Bundle is an incredible source of information that only comes once a year!