It’s Ok To Be A Mom And Be Creative!

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DIY projects. If you’re like me, you alternate between having a huge list of them that you look longingly at as you think “someday”, or you have completely given up on them.

At some point I gave up. What was the point of trying to start a project when you’re interrupted constantly by little children, the demands of life, and more responsibilities that require your immediate attention?

One day I realized what I was missing. I had lost my creativity and I really wanted to get it back.

That desire to sew, make some amazing Pinterest projects, try out a new recipe, or even just paint with my children. Of course, all of this still has to be balanced with real life. And real life is messy.

Messy House and trying to balance DIY projects as a mom!

Yes, that is my actual living room. This is what it looks like after a school day is over. I could let this defeat me, and honestly some days it does. I have to choose to be creative, or I can let the mess of life squash that creativity and my children will be in college before I ever touch a sewing machine again!

I have to make choices. I can call my children in and we all clean up the living room and dining room in 10 minutes together, or it can take me 45 minutes by myself and I lose any extra time I had to work on a project.

Please understand I don’t want to be creative just for my sake. I want to bless my family, sew my girl’s clothes and make our house a pretty and peaceful place. I’m not off at crafting classes learning how to decorate cakes or fire pottery simply to fulfill a need in myself (though I have nothing against cake decorating or pottery).

I still have to balance this creativity with the fact that I have young children and a home to look after. I have to make sure that when I find an outlet for all my pent up creativity that it blesses my family.

It's ok to take time and do a DIY project to bless your family!

So far this week I’ve taken some steps in the right direction. I got my serger out (it’s sitting by my rocking chair in the picture!), I sorted through some fabric and made a pile, I purchased paint for a project and bought Chalk Pastels to try an art project with my children. Baby steps..one day at a time, and before you know it, I’ll have a project completed!

Thankfully there’s an exciting new product to help  me quickly and easily get into (or back into) the creative projects I’ve been desperate to start. It’s called The Ultimate DIY Bundle, and it’s a collection of carefully curated DIY and crafting eBooks and eCourses from the world’s leading authors and bloggers in the industry.

I am so looking forward to diving into this DIY Bundle, and I hope you will join me!

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Photography

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Cake decorating

Photography and photo-editing

Paint colors and interior design

…and a whole lot more (76 eBooks and eCourses in total) – to help you be inspired or get started with your next DIY or crafting project!

Here are just a few resources I’m excited about:

Click through to see all the other amazing resources that are included!

Hurry though! The Ultimate DIY Bundle will only be on sale for 6 days – from 8am EST on Wednesday, January 21 until 11.59pm EST on Monday, January 26.

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Not only that, but The Ultimate DIY Bundle comes with 4 awesome bonuses, worth over $118. That’s 3x the price of the bundle alone! These include…

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Wordmarbles – A Fun Way to Teach Kind Speech!

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Wordmarbles - A fun way to teach your children the importance of kind speech!

Written by Sean Allen – better known as Caroline’s husband. ;) 

Tell me if any of this sounds familiar?

“Quit it!”
“No!”
“You are SO mean!”
“I’m not playing with you!”
“Leave me ALONE!”
“Give me that back!”
“Go away!”

And that’s about enough of that. I could hear the little voices of my children in my head as I typed every one of those lines. And even though they’re in bed as I type this, it’s still enough to make me cringe a little. :)

Every family could benefit from more kindness in their speech. Bickering children who have hardly a nice thing to say to one another make for a very disrupted and tiresome day. Harsh words have a way of taking the peace that ought to reign in your home by the scruff of the neck and booting it out the front door. By bedtime, your ears are nearly ringing with the commotion of it all.

We’ve always had little tolerance for cruel or harsh speaking in our home, but a few months ago it seemed as if our children were constantly at each other’s throats! It usually came in pairs, that is, a different pair would be cross with each other every day. Some days were worse than others and then there were days where it seemed the whole lot of them had morphed into one of those big rolling, brawling balls of kicking and screaming you see in cartoons!

Of course our natural inclination was to diffuse the ball with – you guessed it – more shouting.

This would bring the ball to a stop but it did little to teach our children about the importance of kind words. I realized we needed some help. Something along the lines of a visual aid.

I sat down one night and began to tinker around on the computer. I wanted to come up with something that would help my children see just how often unkind words slipped out of their mouths. I also wanted them to see the times they used kind or gentle speech to one another and to reward them for their efforts. What I eventually came up with was Wordmarbles.

Wordmarbles Supplies needed, so easy and only takes a few minutes to put together!

Wordmarbles couldn’t be simpler. All you need is two mason jars, a bowl, and some marbles. Your marbles represent “words” and they all go in the “words bowl”. We’ve taught our children that words are very much like marbles. They can be smooth and bright and shiny or, if you throw them at someone, they can really hurt! It all depends in how you use them.

Wordmarbles Jar with Kind and Mean speech jars!

If we hear our children using kind words, we tell them to put a marble in the “kind words jar” and if they use mean speech, they have to put a marble in the “mean words jar”. I’ve designed three fun and colorful labels to put on each container – just cut them out, stick them on and you’re ready to go!

The “mean words” and “kind words” labels are nice because they have these little gauges built into the side of them. These are there to help you and your little ones keep track of their speech over the course of the month. You can use these gauges for either rewards or consequences as the jars fill up with marbles.

Labels to use on the Wordmarble Jars!

I was surprised to see how hard our children worked to keep the level of the marbles in the “mean words jar” lower than that of the “kind words jar”! At the end of the month, if our children have more kind words than mean words they get a treat of ice cream, sometimes at home and sometimes from Chick Fil A. :)

As with our Character Badges program, consistency is key. For Wordmarbles to be effective, it’s important to try and acknowledge as many instances of either kind or unkind speech as you can.

You can purchase the Wordmarbles pdf file here for $2.99, but for two days only you can get it totally free when you subscribe to the blog! This offer has expired. 

 

 

 

When Supermom Has To Say No

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Do you feel overwhelmed and stressed? Sometimes supermom has to just say no, and take more time to stay home with her family!

Weary, stressed, and overwhelmed. Wanting to sit down and have a good cry or just give up altogether. I see these exhausted looks on mothers faces. When I look in the mirror I see them in my own face at times.

Why do we allow ourselves to become so stressed? We are pulled in so many directions, while many needful, good things are left undone. Unfortunately, many of us try to put on a good face and act like we’re ok, when inside we’re falling apart.

There is no quitting option when it comes to motherhood. There are ways to pause, take a breath, and be refreshed, but sometimes that isn’t enough. Sometimes what we really need is a drastic change in our lives that frees us to do the things we know we need to be doing.

I recently listened to a podcast with Sally Clarkson talking about what it looks like to own your life. Every mother should listen to it. I found it so inspiring and refreshing as we start a new year.

I'm looking forward to reading the Own Your Life Book!
I’m looking forward to reading this new book by Sally Clarkson!

Do we feel like we have to fill our lives up with a busy schedule, saying yes to everything that is asked of us, simply to please everyone but ourselves? 

As a mom I’m pulled in hundreds of different directions. There are so many things out there to do. But I’ve had to be strict about saying no to a lot of activities. Here are just a few that we have said no to:

Sports – my boys are really enjoying baseball right now, and while we’ve talked about putting them on a little league team, for now Sean just goes outside with them a lot (when it is warm!) and throws the ball with them. Occasionally they get together with some friends at a ball park and play together. Joining a team is still a possibility in the future, but for now we don’t have the weekly commitment and the expense of being on a team.

Playing Ball as a Family

Homeschool Co-op – There is a local Co-op I would love to join, but I’ve just had to say no. I’ve been involved in a few co-op’s before and I’m still debating if the benefits of them are worth the time away. I’m normally exhausted after being gone all morning long, and the afternoon is just wasted. Life is rushing by, and I need to make sure and get all the essentials in before we add extras.

Weekly Club Meetings – Our daughter was involved in a girl’s program last year with our church. It was a great program, we had no problems with it, but she didn’t want to go back this year (she was super clingy when I was going through my morning sickness), and it was honestly such a relief to free up Monday evenings and know we could stay home.

We have committed to weekly music lessons for two of our children, plus we have Wednesday night church we attend, and every other Friday we have a Family night at our church. As far as outside activities go, that is all I can say yes to at this time and still be able to function as a mom.

Your to do list will look different based on who you are. But please – shake off the guilt that comes with saying no to unnecessary activities and just accept your limitations. You can’t do it all and still be a healthy, happy mama.

I don’t feel bad that we try to keep our evenings free. Instead of running all over town, my husband plays legos with the children, he takes the older ones running with him (yes, even in the winter he has been running!), we read books out loud, or practice instruments.

There is freedom found in saying no to busyness. There is simplicity found in staying home more. I look back at my childhood and remember hours upon hours of freedom – playing outside, creating play houses in the attic out of boxes, exploring the horse barns next door, going on hikes with my siblings and reading lots of books. We were not involved in many outside activities, and I never felt like I was missing out because of that.

The supermom title can only last so long. If you feel like you are about ready to burn out and your health is suffering, just say no to it all and have a season of quietness. You might be surprised how much your family has missed you!

 

 

 

 

Watch “Bringing Up Bates” For Free!

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The Bates Family has a new shows, Bringing Up Bates!

 

If you enjoy watching the Duggar’s show, you will love this first episode of “Bringing Up Bates”! The Bates previously did a one season show under the name United Bates of America, but took a few years off and they are back with a new name and a new season!

You can watch the first full episode free on Youtube!

I found the show really encouraging, and love the sweet spirit that Kelly Bates has as a wife and mother. I hope you enjoy it as well!