Why Do You Dress Modestly?

Why Do You Dress Modestly? Do you have a firm answer?

Before we keep going with more practical tips in this series on ‘Building a Modest Wardrobe‘, I want to ask you one question –

Why do you dress modestly? 

Seriously, do you have a solid answer?

Are you doing it because your best friend does it? Is it because your church promotes it and you want to fit in? Is it because of reading Deuteronomy 22:5 and feeling like it was telling you not to wear pants? Or are you wearing skirts because your husband/father prefers them?

If you are committed to modesty, you need to have your own answer. If you are still under your father’s authority (I know there are some teens that read this blog) then you need to submit to his leading. But it would be good to search out what you think and have an answer for yourself.

I’ve shared before that I don’t wear dresses and skirts because of Deuteronomy 22:5. I’ve also shared that I have worn some jeans more recently with longer tunic shirts. What I’ve never shared is the raw, emotional story behind what keeps me pressing on my journey to be not only modest, but feminine. 

I don’t just strive to be modest. It’s very important to me, but also at the forefront of my mind is “does this look feminine”? You can look modest in a feed sack but you might not look very feminine. I have a deep desire to look feminine for the sake of my children, my husband, and the world around me.

When I was 16, someone that I loved very dearly announced that they were gay. Even though I wasn’t very familiar with what homosexuality was at the time, I knew enough for it to be a total shock. My parents raised me to save myself for my husband, to stay pure both emotionally and physically, etc. but the concept of homosexuality wasn’t addressed very much. So not only was I dealing with the grief of this person walking away from the Godly teachings of their youth, but I was also having my eyes opened to the nature of the sin they had yielded to.

I walked away from that situation with a deep desire to be a true woman of God. That desire has never left me. I want to raise children who can rest in the fact that God has created them as a man or a woman and designed them that they might grow and mature and perhaps be married to someone of the opposite sex. It’s amazing to say, but this belief is quickly becoming taboo. It is, however, a scriptural truth and as unchangeable as the Being who ordained it so.

I have a personal story of what drives me forward in this journey of not only modesty, but also femininity. I feel like the two can go hand in hand and you can find such a joy in dressing modestly when you try to be feminine as well. There can be a difference. I rejoice in feminine things. That doesn’t mean you have to like everything pink. I recently saw a young lady I know wear a coral maxi skirt, and a solid color top with a cameo scarf, complete with cowboy boots! There was no doubt that she looked feminine, but she was expressing her unique femininity through her wardrobe.

Today I challenge you to dig down deep, and discover not only what your desire for modesty is, but how thankful you are for God creating you to be a woman!

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  1. I think it is wonderful to encourage people to read the Bible, pray, and evaluate their beliefs. Here are my reasons for dressing modestly. http://forgivenformerfeminist.blogspot.com/2012/08/modesty-part-1.html?m=0

    Thanks so much for what you do! I am loving this series.

  2. Thank you for this post! I love how you address dressing both modestly and feminine. So often it seems like femininity isn’t addressed when we discuss modesty. Thank you for encouraging us to process through why each of us strive to dress modestly!

  3. I started think about Modesty after watched “19 kids and counting.” I studied and analyzed about it. I first thought I must wear skirt but I never felt peace. I learned that it’s okay for me to wear pant and your post about pant and long tunic has really help me. I found the right pant for me that is not too tight and not show my “behind.” I have set my standard rules and I expecting it to be different for other women. Now the reason I do this is because I am Lord’s house and I should respect his house. I do have many reasons but this is my top reason.

  4. It’s so. Much. Easier. To be beautiful.when I started doing a capsule wardrobe, I found that on days when I was wearing a skirt I felt more beautiful and garnered more positive attention from my husband while also feeling less on display. I still wear jeans when I want to be invisible, but for maximum ease and beauty, skirt+ shirt can’t be beat.

  5. Gwen Robertson says:

    I dress modestly because, as a Christian, I am a representative of the Lord Jesus Christ and do not want the world to Judge Jesus by how I dress. In the same manner, I am a representative of my Company and I don’t want to give Young Living a bad name because of my manner of dress.

  6. Thank you so much for this post. I agree that it is important for us to know why we do what we do. I started wearing skirts more about three years ago. At first, I wore them all the time, I felt like I had to. Even if I felt frumpy or “not pretty” I would wear one. Slowly I have come to a point of realizing that for me it is more about being feminine then about wearing skirts. I still love skirts and wear them most days. However, I have learned that I can wear pants with long shirts and look very feminine.
    Thanks also for reminding me how much this will affect my children. My daughter loves skirts and dresses so it is easy for her to wear them. However, I do want to make sure I make an effort to teach her why she should try to look feminine.

  7. I believe modesty is important because it pleases God. The other reason is because modesty causes the attention to go to one’s face instead of body parts. It’s part of a woman’s personal dignity. I believe that, when Christian women understand the Bible verses about modesty: Proverbs 31:22, 25; 1 Corinthians 11:5-15; 1 Timothy 2:9-10; and 1 Peter 3:3-5, they will feel much more conscious of the necessity and value of modesty.

  8. I dress modestly beacause of respect. Respect for my husband, respect for myself,respect for my fellow man but most importantly respect for my Heavenly Father. I feel called to dress modestly and set an example to those around me. I feel called to show young ladies especially that dressing modestly can help you in so many ways and help your relationship with Heavenly Father even stronger. I feel that my husband enjoys seeing me respect myself by covering up. I love dressing modestly and truly feel happy & blessed to do so.

  9. I dress modestly out of my philosophy of life…”do all to the glory of God”. The way I dress reflects who I am and that is a child of God. That being said, many have a different definition of what is modest. Some may see me and say I am immodest because I wear jeans or pants, but someone else may think I am overly modest because those are “too loose” on me. It’s a hard issue and I think culture (where you live) has much to do with what is right and appropriate. I am from the windy, cold North where wearing a skirt every day would basically be ridiculous as I try to haul around my littles 🙂 My husband has thanked me often for dressing modestly and appropriately.

  10. I started doing skirts only just this summer and I enjoy it a great deal. I feel like myself when I wear skirts and I find I have more freedom in a skirt than pants. I also find that wearing skirts gives me a completely different view on my body: as something the LORD has given to me and He wants we to use it appropriately.

  11. I decided to start dressing modestly because I’m 29 years old and spend my days chasing 2 toddlers. I was tired of bending over and cleavage being on display, or carrying my daughter around and her exposing my bra all the time!
    I also see what girls are wearing right now and I do not want my daughter to ever think it’s appropriate to dress and go out in what is basically underwear.
    I want her to have respect for herself and for others and to understand that although she is more than her outfit, it’s her look that others will judge her on and she should dress how she wants to be perceived.

  12. About a year ago, I decided that I wanted to be more mindful about dressing in a feminine and more modest way. Skirts in no way hinder my activities, and for some reason the changes in dress gave me a huge boost in self-confidence. I feel good knowing I’m trying to honor God, and that many women appreciate modestly dressed women around their loved ones, especially male. I’ve noticed that feminine dress seems to bring out the chivalry in men. I believe men do struggle with temptation; the adult film addiction epidemic is proof of that. I don’t want to contribute to the problem. My modesty standards aren’t legalistic; I just ask myself certain questions as I plan an outfit. Most of my skirts are ankle length. Leggings help under a knee-length skirt, and I do make exceptions for palazzo pants, which are super flared and made of delicate fabrics with pretty patterns. Whether we realize it or not, our clothing often says a great deal about what we’re like!

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