The 4 Best Reasons To Consider Modesty {Day 18}

The 4 Best Reasons To Consider Modesty

*Major Mommy Brain! I actually wrote 5 reasons to consider modesty. So you get a bonus reason free! :)*

This post isn’t going to give you a detailed list of what is and is not modest according to Caroline. I have my personal standards of what I feel is modest, but I don’t feel this post is the place for sharing that.

What I want to share is the fact that standards do exist, and you must, absolutely must consider modesty. I am going to outline my reasons for that below.


1. You owe it to yourself to be modest. Show yourself respect and cover up! If you value yourself as a woman, you will be want to protect that title and dress as a woman should dress.

Your Husband

2. Your husband deserves a wife who dresses to show respect to herself and to him. If he doesn’t understand why you don’t want to wear a low cut shirt that reveals cleavage, explain to him that you want to keep those things hidden for only him!

Your Children

3. The children that God has given to you need a role model to look up to; and they certainly need better role models than the ones that Victoria Secret offers. Raise up daughters who are accustomed to standards, and raise boys who will look for a girl who possesses dignity.

Your Church

4. You owe it to your church. How distracting do you really want to be to the people you worship with? When a woman walks in with practically nothing on in church, it can cause quite a few heads to be turned. Consider the fact that if you are wearing a strapless dress to church, when you sit in a pew it appears as if you have nothing on. Only your bare shoulders are being seen as you try to soak in the message. The people behind you (I don’t care if it is men or women!) can easily get distracted by you! You might think, “Well, that’s their problem.” Possibly, but its just as much yours, if not more so. There simply is no reason to go to church wearing strapless dresses or mini skirts or deeply scooped blouses. We should be careful not to do anything to distract from the worship of God.

Your World

5. This one could be titled “your God”. Why? The world in which you live in needs to see the example of a modest and feminine woman. “But I’m just one person, I’m not going to make a change!” you might be tempted to cry. You don’t know that for sure. Let me say it again – you don’t know that for sure. Dress so as to please your heavenly Father and leave the results to him. Of course, our clothes should not be the only thing different (its really only a tiny part of our witness!) Our actions need to reflect something different, something holy. Be an enticement, but not in the usual sexy way! Entice others to get to know you and don’t be afraid to share why you dress modestly if or when you’re asked!


Today’s Challenge: 

1. Get up and dressed with a smile on your face!

2. Read day 18 of “Frumps to Pumps“. (Affiliate Link)

3. Read through the list above and decide what your reasons are for wanting to dress modestly?





  1. Wonderful!! 🙂

  2. Dear caroline,

    This is the first time I have commented but I am a long time reader of your blog and am following the “Frumps to Pumps” series on my Kindle with you all from Australia. Today was my very first day dressed more modestly inna skirt, and I lobed it! I had positive comments from my husband, my 15 year old son and my 14 year old daughter. I even walked the dogs in the skirt and I felt so much more feminine all day. Day 2 tomorrow. Thank you for all your posts on modesty which have encouraged and inspired me to embrace a more modest dressing style. I could not have done it without you. I also hope your foot is healing. You are in my prayers.

  3. Oops, a few spelling mistakes in there. I was so excited that I was typing too fast! My apologies but you will get the general feeling despite them, I think…

  4. I’ve been enjoying your posts on this topic. Have you read the book Dressingg with Dignity by Colleen Hammond? It’s Catholic, but there are some very interesting scientific studies she mentions about how the brain is effected by what we wear. She also has some pithy quotes by learned scolars on modesty and bible quotes.

  5. What if your husband doesn’t care about the modesty stuff? For instance, what if a husband wants you to wear fitted jeans, or bathing suits that are not as modest? How does one balance dressing modestly, while still honoring the things their husband desires?

    • Hi. I know this comment is 4 years past due, but a godly man should want to honor his wife. Clothes that are immodest dishonor and objectify you, opening you up to licentious looks, thoughts, and comments, either to your face or behind your back. A husband should desire to protect you from this. Think about it. Pants, fitted or otherwise (unless wide-leg palazzos that look like a skirt), create a perfect, inverted V that draws the eyes upward to the crotch. Does your husband actually want men staring at your crotch all day?

  6. What a great post. I used to be not-so-modest when I was younger, but when I had my first daughter (second child) I was just appalled by immodesty, even when she was a baby! I have been so inspired by your blog to be both modest and fashionable. I’ve never been one to not get dressed in the mornings, and now that I think about it, I think that I would not be nearly as ready to tackle my morning homemaking tasks if I stayed in my pajamas. This was a really brave post to write, and I applaud you for that. I can imagine a lot of people being offended by this, but probably just because they know deep down that dressing immodestly is not good for anyone.

  7. Caroline,
    Great post! I would love to work with you. We both have a burden for modesty…let me know if you’re interested!
    Lauren from Modern Modesty

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