Sloppy dress is in – and what we can do about it!

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“I like to wear skirts, but every time I put a long skirt on I’m told that I look really dressed up! My family thinks it’s crazy that I have a skirt on just to go to the grocery store. I’m really getting tired of the comments. I just want to look nice.”

I’ve received comments like the one above many, many times. As women become convicted in wanting to wear skirts, they receive a lot of negative feedback from family and friends. I’ve pondered on why we ladies stand out so much in a skirt, and almost make some people uncomfortable. When my husband went back to college last year the answer was perfectly clear to me.

Sloppy dress is in.

Pajama bottoms, sweatshirts, ripped jeans, shirts worn inside out, all kinds of mix and match outfits, shirts hanging off the shoulders, yes I’ll even throw in gym clothes…the list could go on. These are commonly seen in stores, restaurants, parks, and even social get together’s on ladies of all ages.

Society has simply dumbed down the normal look for ladies. If some ladies are at the grocery store in their pajama bottoms and fuzzy slippers, you’d better believe that a nicely dressed woman in a long denim skirt, cute top and *gasp* maybe even a fashionable scarf on, is sure to stand out a little more.

So then the next argument goes like this…

“I don’t want to attract more attention to myself. I feel like men stare at me even more with a long skirt on. It just makes me feel uncomfortable. I feel better when I wear my _____, like I blend in better.”

Yes, you might blend in better, but what are you blending in with? Does the sloppy look really appeal to you? Is that a better option than simply looking put together in a nice outfit?

I know there are ladies who look put together in a nice pair of jeans and top. I’m not trying to say it’s so black and white as simply sloppy outfits or a skirt. But I am trying to suggest that we not care about what society thinks. We need to care first and foremost about our convictions. How would we want to dress if the Lord was at the grocery store with us?

Recently I was shopping at Walmart later in the evening when my children were in bed. I saw a woman shopping that had on a sweatshirt and a pair of jeans. Nothing fancy at all. Then I glanced again and appreciated what I saw. She had made a real effort to look nice even in a baggy sweatshirt, and put on a pearl necklace, earrings, and had on nicer shoes with her jeans. I never would have dreamed of putting a pearl necklace on with a sweatshirt, but it actually looked nice on her. It was the effort of the extra touches that made me realize she wanted to look nice. She didn’t just throw on the first pair of clothes she found in her dresser and run to the store.

Wherever we go we make an impression on people. Some of us stand out more than others – like if  we have lots of children :) Let’s make sure that the impression we leave has the potential to make an impact on someone. Our ultimate goal is to represent our Lord, and we can even do that with the clothes we wear.

 

Comments

  1. Jessica V says:

    Great post! We live in Seminary housing and there are women that are married and some that are not as well as families and single guys as well, I was starting to feel out of place not wearing gym clothes or sweat pants. My aim is to please the Lord and my Husband … not society. Thanks for this precious reminder!

  2. Your recount of the lady shopping in a sweatshirt and pearls made me smile this morning. My late grandmother, in her twilight years, would always fix her hair and put on jewelry and make-up with her sweatshirt and slacks when she went grocery shopping. Our attitude toward our appearance is so important.

    I do agree that skirts as daily wear attracts attention in a society that wears pajama pants in public (really? whose lousy idea was that?) That being said, when done modestly, I don’t think the attention ought be inappropriate. It’s refreshingly unusual to see a lady dressed like a lady. I’m a married lady, though, pushing around 2 carts with a raft of kids (and carrying around some baby-weight, too). I imagine things might be a bit different if I was a younger, single lady.

  3. Elizabeth says:

    Thank you for this post – I agree wholeheartedly! Our purpose in life is to honor and glorify God, not please society. We must keep this in mind in everything we do – even our clothing choices.

  4. I love being feminine and wearing skirts and dresses! I learned a long time ago not to care that no one else is dressed like me. It makes me feel happy and centered, it’s classy and my husband likes it. Who gives a rip if people notice and find it weird?

    I HAVE had some women tell me they thought I was a snob, and their reason? I look nice a lot. I thought that was pretty shallow. If people are judging you that harshly based on your clothes, you shouldn’t be caring about impressing them anyways.

  5. Thank you! This happens to me all time. Even if I wear a casual denim skirt I get people asking what i am dressed up for. To me that is just clothes, the same as some nice pants would be. Somehow the skirt has become formal attire. You give me the courage (and the desire) to push against the trend and keep ‘dressing up’.

  6. Great Post!! This had happened to me!! I have gotten comments on how can I clean my house in a skirt and run after three boys??!!! Well I do!! The way I dress honors God and my husband… He loves to see me dressed up!
    Thank you for this post!! Thank you for your encouragement!! Love the part “what are you trying to blend into?” I will be posting this in my FB page!!
    xxxxx,

    Monica

  7. I always get this from family before I began wearing skirts because I always dressed my girls very girly in dresses and skirts. They would says “just let them be comfortable” or “don’t take your time getting them all dressed up just bring them in comfortable clothes”. LOL my oldest refused to wear pants at age 3! I always thought it was funnny because it is easier sometimes to throw a dress on a little girl than matching up outfits.

  8. love this post! I”m putting on my skirt today and curling my hair!!!

  9. Thank you for adding the part about it being possible to look put together in a nice pair of jeans and a top. I believe it’s not about a skirt or pants, but about being set apart as feminine and modest for God. I prefer to wear pants, but I also prefer to have a feminine and put together appearance. Lack of money, and baby weight issues haven’t helped me reach that goal, but I am trusting that God will help me reach that goal in His timing.

  10. I agree! It is way to easy to blend in. If the kind of attention we are getting encourages others to ask us “why” we are wearing a dress, it gives us an opportunity to share our faith that we might not otherwise have. Thank you Lord for the opportunity!

  11. Great post! I don’t want to blend in with society and wear my pajamas everywhere I go. :) I have just recently started wearing skirts daily, and my daughters have followed suit – not because I have made it manditory (yet), but because they see they look nicer too. And I have noticed that generally people are more respectful to me when I am wearing ‘dressier’ clothing. I haven’t had any of the comments that others have had, but then I haven’t been wearing skirts every day for that long. Thank you for preparing me for it! :)

    • I have noticed too a different,more respectful attitude from others in the general public while wearing a skirt. Maybe it is partially because I feel more put together and self-confident,I am not sure.

  12. An older gentleman stopped me in Wal-mart the other day and said “That’s a very lovely dress you’re wearing.” I was in a faded denim skirt and knit top and felt very dressed down. I told him “Thank you so much for the compliment! This is not one of my nicer skirts.” His reply? “Maybe so, but at least you’re wearing a skirt. It makes a huge difference.”

  13. I like your focus. So often I see women in skirts or dresses who look just as sloppy as those in sweats :) So the culture is different in different places. We have a ton of conservative Mennonite people here and a lot of them certainly don’t put in the effort to look nice. As long as it’s a skirt or dress, it must be OK. I disagree. I try my best to look nice, even in my jeans.

    • It is true that there is sloppiness in what you wear, whether it is a skirt or a pair of pants. I have seen some conservative people that wear sloppy looking clothing on purpose in an effort to be modest.

      However, I think sometimes, we need to be careful how we judge someone’s appearance. We do not know why they are dressed that way and our comments on it, could really hurt someone.
      Here are a couple of thoughts to consider when you are judging someone for how they are dressed.
      http://jessiegunderson.com/?p=4421

  14. Great post! I’m happy that you appreciated the way the lady in Walmart had dressed up her jeans and sweatshirt. I’m a very large lady with many health problems, and oftentimes, a nice pair of jeans is the best I can comfortably wear. However, just like the lady in Walmart, I do dress them up with a beautiful blouse, jewelry, attractive shoes, and of course a friendly smile. :) I look forward to the day when I can wear dresses and skirts again, but until then, I refuse to be sloppy. :) I can’t even imagine going outside in my pajamas. ;)

  15. Oh, how you encourage me!! Thank you!

  16. Great article, I needed this! And I *LOVE* the dress and the shoes on the girl in the picture. Very pretty!

  17. I have been wearing modest skirts & dresses most of my life. It shocked me the first time I saw a teen girl in pajamas in public…and not at a store, but walking into a movie theater! This generation of women (and men) is not being taught to respect themselves and their appearance. It is our duty as mothers to teach our children, not ONLY by example, how to dress and act. A long skirt does not do it alone. Don’t forget our/their attitudes, speech, etc. Do what you can with what you have until you can get what you need.

  18. I think that’s one reason why wearing even just a little makeup when I leave the house, no matter where I am going, shows to others (not to mention myself!) that *I am making an effort*. And when others feel like I made an effort to be presentable around them, that shows respect for the people I interact with or the occasion I am attending. Even if its grocery shopping at nighttime at Walmart! wink. (I so agree)

    I like to think dressing respectfully (modestly, femininely) answers that popular saying we see a lot these days: “Be the change you want to see in the world.”

    Wearing presentable clothing and being clean matters more in this day and age for the reasons you list, because in many places dressing down is now the norm. It reminds us of who we each are, a child of God, and reminds others of an ordered, positive world we can choose to be a part of.

    I enjoyed this post and this topic discussion. Thanks!

  19. Christina says:

    What a great and insightful post! When I wear skirts people always ask me if I’m PENTOCOSTAL OR JEWISH. The truth is why can’t anyone ever say wow you look LOVELY? Praise GOD THAT HE PUTS IT IN OUR HEARTS TO EMBRACE MODESTY.

    Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised. (Proverbs 31:30 KJV)

  20. I love the dress in the first picture. Is that for sale anywhere? :)

  21. Wonderful post! I wore a nice skirt and sweater set one day and when I dropped my son off at soccer practice I had several people say, “What are you so dressed up for?!” Like I was wearing a ballgown or something. :D

    • “What are you dressed up for”… Having read here how common this comment is, I’ve started pondering on how to be prepared with a comeback.

      Maybe “I’m ready for my heavenly Prince Charming to whisk me away…” or “A King’s daughter represents His kingdom, in both how she looks and acts. I’m an ambassador even at soccer practice…” or “If I went to Japan, the Japanese would judge my country by what they saw in me. In the same way, I’m a foreigner in this culture, and what you see in me is how you’ll judge the kingdom I represent. How do you think I’m doing?”

  22. I hear it all the time too! Just last week at my son’s soccer game two men asked me why I was dressed up. When I voiced concern about it later at home, my sweet husband reassured me that he liked the way I looked. A good reminder for us as to who we should be dressing for- only two really matter. Our spouses and The Lord!

  23. I’m surprised at the women who get comments about being dressed up or for wearing skirts, I get neither – perhaps people just expect me to dress this way and don’t even think about it. I wear a skirt almost all the time and never go to the shops unless I look neat and tidy (and I tend to be wearing a skirt) and if its a slightly longer trip I will put on some makeup and jewellery as well. Its making the effort so you don’t look like you have crawled out of bed.

  24. I was never so thankful when panty hose went out of fashion. When dressing for comfort, many woman have no clue how comfy a cute skirt and knit top can be verses a pair of blue jeans. Don’t get me wrong, there are days I love my jeans, but give me an elastic waisted skirt any day for comfort. Having people notice how cute you look is just an added bonus. It took me a long time to give myself permission to be myself and dress for myself. Every day is a special day, so why not look special? Aren’t you worth it?

  25. When you made the comment that one might be more comfortable dressing casual but what are they blending in with, I got the image of a garden. It’s like we’re in a garden full of weeds and we’re trying to blend in with all the other weeds when we should be like the perienials planted there (roses, geraniums, lavender, alyssum, agapanthus, etc.) and strive to keep the weeds away so we can grow in God’s love for us. Yes, we will be noticed and admired or hated but we will most importantly be more like what God intended for us to be like, beautiful. Just don’t get prideful about it. Grace, manners, and deportment speak volumes when coupled with decency of dress.

  26. I have to admit I used to be a sloppy dresser. I do think in some instances you have to look deeper into the reason- for me I was depressed and it definitely showed in my outward appearance. I think dressing nice makes you feel better on the inside also.
    Kate

  27. Nice article. I agree, and I am probably one of those ladies who wears a skirt or dress but still looks sloppy. I need to learn how to buy make-up that matches my face. Up until about ten years ago I rarely wore skirts and dressed, even according to the world’s standards, very immodestly. Now wearing skirts and dresses, I really like how I am treated in contrast to before. I hope that I will treat people the same no matter how they dress, however, and show them Christ’s love like many did for me.

  28. I am inspired to wear a skirt to Joann’s today even if it is COLD! I will get out my leggings and boots and go for it. I have been slacking a bit (alot) since the cold has come. I just want to be sloppy in the winter. Just being honest. But,thats really no excuse. Thanks for the pick-me-up!

  29. Hannah Irene says:

    Well said! thank-you for sharing this!

  30. Sorry, but I find this post quite elitist. It’s one thing to say that we are *personally* convicted that we should be dressing more modestly (although, quite honestly, most flannel pj’s and t-shirts are quite modest), and another to project on the world that if you are wearing “just jeans and a sweatshirt” you aren’t thinking about your relationship with the Lord. The God I serve looks at my heart, not at my sweatpants. The God I serve doesn’t care if I have a necklace around my neck. What if, instead of looking at every sloppy dresser as being outside of God’s will, we looked at the heart, like He does? What if we truly saw every person we encountered as a person made in God’s image, no matter if in sweatpants, or jeans, or a dress. What if, instead of silently applauding ourselves for dressing better than the other person ahead of us in line, we looked beyond the sloppy clothes and saw the mama who just finished a 3 day shift of staying up with her sick baby? Or the father who works 20 hour days just to make ends meet for his family?
    Yes, I know, because you see yourself as made in God’s image, you are dressing nicely. Wonderful! That is *your personal conviction*. But please don’t project it onto everyone you see.

    • Thank you. I have no idea how dressing up to go grocery shopping shows anything for or against God. I only wear jewelry and makeup on Sunday at church and special occations, a pair of jeans and a t shirt isn’t sloppy, it’s just everyday clothes.

      • Dani,

        If you read my post above this is the list I gave: “Pajama bottoms, sweatshirts, ripped jeans, shirts worn inside out, all kinds of mix and match outfits, shirts hanging off the shoulders, yes I’ll even throw in gym clothes…the list could go on.”

        I said nothing against jeans and a t-shirt. :) That is everyday clothes for many ladies, just like a denim skirt and a t-shirt is an everyday outfit for others. Both of those do not look sloppy. Pajama bottoms looks sloppy, and you don’t need a huge income to wear something besides that when you go to walmart. :)

  31. To add:
    “My brethren, do not hold your faith in our glorious Lord Jesus Christ with an attitude of personal favoritism. For if a man comes into your assembly with a gold ring and dressed in fine clothes, and there also comes in a poor man in dirty clothes, and you pay special attention to the one who is wearing the fine clothes, and say, ‘You sit here in a good place,’ and you say to the poor man, ‘You stand over there, or sit down by my footstool,’ have you not made distinctions among yourselves, and become judges with evil motives?” James 2:1-4

  32. I’m sorry. How would we dress if the Lord were at the grocery store with us? As far as I know, Galatians 3:28 would apply to dress, just as much as gender or race. What about in James when we are warned to not judge by outward appearance and then treat others differently because of appearance.

    I wore yoga pants, a sweatshirt, and slippers to take my son to gymnastics today. I do not believe my testimony about Christ is affected by my choice to wear that. I do not believe I could have been a better witness to the Lord by wearing a skirt or make up or pearls. After all, “the Lord said to Samuel, “Do not look on his appearance or on the height of his stature, because I have rejected him. For the Lord sees not as man sees: man looks on the outward appearance, but the Lord looks on the heart.”

    My witness of Christ is how I speak to my children at the store when they are being naughty, NOT how I look on the outside. Or how I can respect my husband by never speaking poorly about him when I am spending time with unbelieving friends, NOT if I am wearing one of those cute, in style, off one shoulder shirt.

    Look, we all have different convictions. If you feel pressed to wear skirts, that’s fine. But I think we need to be really careful about making issues like this dogmatic. The Holy Spirit can speak to all of us differently about how we choose to dress.

    Next time you see a frumpy mom at Walmart, it’s probably me. And I will be in Heaven, too. And my skinny jeans don’t have any effect on my salvation.

  33. “My brethren, do not hold your faith in our glorious Lord Jesus Christ with an attitude of personal favoritism. For if a man comes into your assembly with a gold ring and dressed in fine clothes, and there also comes in a poor man in dirty clothes, and you pay special attention to the one who is wearing the fine clothes, and say, ‘You sit here in a good place,’ and you say to the poor man, ‘You stand over there, or sit down by my footstool,’ have you not made distinctions among yourselves, and become judges with evil motives?” James 2:1-4
    To dress nicely is a good thing but I think we need to be careful in judging others. If we notice the clothes but fail to notice people(in need of the Savior or maybe just some encouragement) are we showing the love of God to those in need?
    As I am teaching my daughters modesty, I am teaching that modesty extends beyond what clothes they wear. If they wear all the “proper” clothes but fail to have a humble and meek spirit then they have missed out on truly embracing modesty.

  34. I understand where you are coming from. I really do. Our family recently moved from the US to England. We’re living in London. One thing I really enjoy about being in the city is watching how people dress. There is such variety and creativity – people from all over the world with totally different ideas of what is beautiful or fashionable. I appreciate that people dress up more than in the US – in London yoga pants really are for yoga.

    But at the same time, as a sister in Christ, your post is judgmental and unkind. You have no idea what the woman wearing yoga pants or sweats is going through. Is her child in the hospital? Is she a single mom struggling with a house full of young children all on her own? Is she sad, discouraged? Does she just need Jesus?

    I think it is fine to care about your own appearance as long as this is tempered by Biblical modesty (which is more about what is IN the heart than what is ON the body). I also think it’s fine to enjoy how others dress or to be interested in fashion. But it’s not okay to judge people based on their appearance. Scripture’s really clear on this. God cares more about what’s in people’s hearts and you should too.

  35. I will admit I don’t wear skirts or dresses that often (more in summer because I have some cute warm weather dresses). That being said, I am trying very hard to not look “sloppy” when going out, OR when staying in! I love the idea of pearls and a sweatshirt…just something that shows an effort being made.

  36. Susanna Z. says:

    I just came across your blog due to the “She Wears Skirts” series. I really appreciate this post. Nothing judgmental about it. I see it as a post that gives instruction and encouragement. You are doing what Titus 2 says we are to do, to teach!!

    Thanks for obeying Scripture. In doing so you are a blessing to many.

    • Thank you Susanna. I hope people can see my heart through my posts and understand that I’m not trying to judge people, just encourage. :)

  37. This sounds so wonderful. Thank you for your encouragement.

    A few random thoughts: Wouldn’t we all love to dress up in pretty clothing and meet with our friends who are also dressed up with beautifully coiffed hair and tastefully done make-up. Perhaps we could all have a manicure or massage while we are out and about. (I’ve never had either one but I hear they are all the rage.)

    When I was a little girl, women and girls wore only dresses or skirts, men wore suits to work, and all wore hats when out and about. My mother wore gloves when she visited her friends and always wore a corset, hose, and heels (despite the pain & permanent damage to her feet). My father did yard work in old dress pants and button-up shirts. That is the way everyone dressed in their day. I’ve never seen the TV show Mad Men, but from what I hear, it probably shows a bit of that world. Everyone also went to church whether they believed in God or not. My parents have enjoyed more relaxed expectations in dress and have remarked they are glad they don’t have to spend so much time on their clothing and hair and shoes as they used to – especially now that they are elderly and don’t have a lot of energy.

    When I had several children spaced barely a year apart with no extra money and no outside help – just keeping them alive till the end of the day was an accomplishment. My body weight and shape were constantly changing up and down and in and out. If I could find an outfit that flattered my current body, by the time we arrived at our destination it was likely my makeup was smeared, one earring pulled out, my nice hairdo mussed, a rip in my hose, scuffs on my shoes, and the ever present baby poo or vomit somewhere. Not to mention the dark circles under my eyes and forgetting once again to redo my nails.

    I have a friend who could have written your article. She and her children (and her home) always look great. She carries extra weight but has figured out which clothing styles and brands look good on her. But on the other hand, her family is usually late wherever they go because she is still fooling with outfits and hair when they should be driving. Her family is in debt because she spend WAY too much on “good” brands of clothing and shoes and household items. She is so worried about good behavior from her children (to make a good witness for Christ and homeschooling) that she is very harsh with them. She is very controlling of the entire family to meet what she believes is the Christian standard for things. The oldest children have left home as soon as they graduate so they can begin to make even the smallest decisions for themselves. She is judgmental of other people based on outward appearance or her standards. She has spent so much time worried about the externals, I wonder if she ever has time to just sit and relax and enjoy life. Perhaps even in her sweats and bunny slippers!

    • I think the friend you mentioned is obviously taking this issue to the extreme. I don’t suggest going into debt for clothes, being late because you are so obsessed with how your family looks, and nagging your children all the time. Nothing in my article suggested that I am advocating any of those things. But I don’t agree that mothers with young children cannot spend 10 minutes a day doing some basic upkeep and maintenance to attempt to look nice for the day. I know when I do that I feel so much about myself and get a lot more accomplished, PLUS my children are even happier because I have a better attitude for the day. Michelle Duggar has 19 children but she manages to always look nice even with many toddlers and an always present baby clinging to her. :)

      • I think the thing is that it’s hard not to feel judged when you hear/read things like it’s not asking too much to take 10 minutes to put effort in. Honestly, around here. TWO minutes is more than I get some days unless I’m willing to run on only 3 or 4 hours of sleep. Not to mention yoga pants are what I own because I can use them for both pajamas and around-the-house clothes. And that sloppy -shirt is my go-to because I’ve gotten it for free volunteering at an event and our oh-so-tight (nearly non-existent) clothing budget goes to my kids who quickly outgrow their clothes. If I were to invest in dresses and skirts to wear (any at all) I would be putting us into debt. So then, when I read things like this, it just makes me feel like I can’t be as close to God, or as God-honoring, or as respectful of my husband, because I save my jeans for nice things like church so they don’t get ruined while caring for my kids (like my yoga pants have).

  38. I have attended homeschool functions with people from all over the country/world. It is funny how everyone’s idea of “well-dressed” is different.

    The lady from the DC area wore a business suit with matching purse and pumps. The rural farmer’s wife wore skirts and sweaters or homemade jumpers. The southern ladies had big hair and lots of makeup and fancy dresses. The woman from rural Oregon wore flannel and denim and hiking boots – no makeup and long straight hair. How about the NYC woman in all black and expensive jewelry? Or the missionary from Mexico in traditional Mexican clothing? Or the women in pant suits? When my nice outfit got ruined, I had to come in jeans and a nice shirt with a jacket.

    I think all the women were beautiful because they loved the Lord and made an effort to love and encourage one another. Perhaps the key was that they made the effort to look nice even though the final results were quite different.

    I’ve lived in another country where people are VERY casual, even at church, and during the summer, they dress very immodestly. I’ve learned to look beyond the clothing and look into their eyes and love them where they are. My “standards” of dress are very “American”. I’ve had to reevaluate how to dress modestly and nicely without being ridiculously overdressed. That can be a hindrance to ministry.

  39. Another point to consider, is what my sister learned. She had worked in the beauty industry for many years, so when she became a stay-at-home mom finally, she “relaxed” her dress. She wore casual clothes when she went out, and her husband responded by saying that others must think he didn’t treat her very well since she dressed so casual (as if her self-esteem was low since she didn’t take any care for her look). We are our husband’s prized jewel, so let’s dress/act like it and make them proud to call us their wife! Great post!

  40. Thank you so much for this encouraging post! Women nowadays seem to put more effort into looking sloppy than into looking nice. I wear dresses and skirts most of the time – to work, over to family and friend’s houses, even at home I do half the time and it feels good! I feel closer to God when I do.

    You write: “How would we want to dress if the Lord was at the grocery store with us?” Have you noticed how a lot of people don’t even dress up to church anymore? My husband and I were talking about that a while back and we noticed how many people don’t even put effort into dressing decent when they go to church, which is sad, because we should dress up for church just as much as we would dress up for a job interview. We want to be close to God (in church) but don’t even take the initative to dress up for an interview with our most High God on Sunday mornings!
    And yes, we also get the comments from family, because we also dress appropriately when we meet the family for a dinner or reunion. It has become part of our daily habits to take care of our looks that we don’t realize it any more that we are doing it.

    Thank you so much for your post! It is very encouraging.

  41. I had a good laugh at this post. On the evening before Easter Sunday, I was heading to church to sing for the Easter Vigil Mass. I was wearing a twin set, pearls, a long skirt and high heels and had to run through Walmart to get aspirin for my husband who stayed home. The respect from the clerks, the looks I got made me want to giggle. It is true you stand out when you are dressed up, but you always get better service from the employees!

  42. I found nothing judgmental about this at all…It was just a reminder for me to check myself…I believe in dressing well…I do not have much money(1 income, 5 of us, homeschooling), so I am not talking fancy, but I do put effort into how I look and dress for GOD, my husband, my children, anyone I may encounter…I read some of these comments, and I just could not agree that the sloppier look is o.k…Granted, I can understand the sick child scenario, but honestly, I doubt that is why these moms are dressing that way…I also think about how 60, 70, 100 years ago, with lack of modern appliances and all of the many things we have now, women still took pride in their appearance even after they worked themselves HARD…Another reason I try to dress with GOD in mind is because I do not want to be a stumbling block to anyone…Especially men…I do not want to be wearing tight pants or short shorts or low cut or flimsy tops or yoga pants that show off my bottom…At the same time, I do not want to be dressed in sweats and whatnot very often either…Anyway..Men are visual…I do not want to give any man reason to look at me with lust….Nor, do I want to be so dressed down all the time that my husband starts looking around at well-kept ladies…My husband has told me on numerous occasions that he is thankful that I dress modestly and decently and that he is always proud to be out with me…The LORD does look at a person’s heart, but He also wants us to Bless Him with our dress….I treat no one differently…I do not care how you are dressed…But, I do believe as ladies, and especially ladies that belong to GOD, we need to shine for Him in all aspects…Even down to dress.

  43. I was standing in the check out line when a man with a big smile walked up to me. He commented that is was so nice to see a woman look like a lady. God made men visual. Our fashion industry has made women clothes degrading. It is wonderful to find a feminine dignified outfit. Thank you for your clothes and comments.

  44. Great thoughts! It’s true, we not only owe it to ourselves, but to the prople around us to dress modestly. And this isn’t only about the virtue of purity ~ but personal dignity, for heaven’s sake! I’m afraid it’s a symptom of our times, the disregard for propriety and the lack of attention to details that have cost us, from pajama pants in Walmart ~ to the whole western world living beyond its means and whining because it’s going belly up ~ to the real threat looming (in light of the indiscriminate redefining of the word “marriage”..) of legal marriage…. ..to house pets ~ to inconvenient babies being disposed of in the womb ~ to

  45. Woops.got cu toff. ….to the acceptance off all orders of sloppyliving and moral depravity! (Breath) All because people don’t spiff up before leaving the house. ;0). Not really. Just anothe symptom, the sweat pants and underwear showing fad. I have to say, though… I just got back from a mall in Irvine CA,where at least half the women there were wearing long skirts and dressed very nicely, indeed. There’s a nice fad right now of long skirts – tho they’re often too tight and paired with strapless tops… :0\ But, the sloppiness is also a function of place and situation… (Done now. Really)

  46. MotherLodeBeth says:

    A lot depends one where one lives.

    As an example I see lots and lots of women in nice casual skirts, dresses here in northern California, be it San Francisco, San Jose, Berkeley,Marin County, Angels Camp or Big Sur. Personally I and all my friends wear dresses and sometimes skirts and we have no intention to change.

    When in South Carolina, New Orleans visiting friends we saw lots and lots of lovely women in dresses every day. Pretty hats as well.

  47. Hi there!
    I’m just now reading this and really enjoyed it!!

    You know, society is so strange. I recently went to visit my husband where he works. There are many people there with tattoos and piercings all over their bodies. Spikey hair, gored ears, you name it. After I left the store, THEY told my husband that “I” am the one that looked funny with my feminine long skirt on!!! LOL!!!!

    Keep up the encouraging ministry the Lord has given you here!!

    His,
    Mrs. U

  48. NotAMarySue says:

    Let me preface my comment by stating that I am absolutely not religious, and do not subscribe to your worldview. I do not see a strapless ball gown as immodest at all if worn at an elegant ball; there is a time and a place for everything. Despite this, I have never dressed like a slob — nor will I do so in future. I am British, and grew up in a family with connections to the minor aristocracy/landed gentry, and an appreciation for elegant, classic, and well tailored clothing. I suppose my mum, aunts, granny and friends were never trendy, but their sartorial tastes were defined by quality, practicality (tweeds are perfect for walking the dogs in a damp and cool climate), and a disdain for everything ostentatious and nouveau riche. I do agree that is sad that so many women no longer dress in elegant and feminine clothing, but let us not forget that the 1968 counter-revolution was an American export, too.

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