I love to wear white shirts. I don’t however want to have my bra straps showing through the sheer white shirt. Many times a camisole is needed in order to be modest, but you might try this tip for thicker t-shirts and blouses.
Instead of wearing the typical white bra under the white shirt, put on a nude colored bra instead. It will blend in with your skin and will actually not show up through some white shirts. I did this recently when I wore this t-shirt:
It worked great! I didn’t have to wear a camisole under it and you couldn’t see through it.
The important thing to remember when you grab for a nude colored bra, is that it needs to match your skin tone in order to blend in. That is why white colored bras do not work under white shirts. If you have a darker skin color, then you will need a darker nude color bra.
Obviously this won’t work for every white shirt, there are sheer blouses that are thin enough you will still need a camisole. But it’s worth trying out on a few of your thicker shirts to see if it works for you!
Yes! I finally figured this out last year. Great tip!
another tip i’ve had many recommend is gray. if you have a gray bra or sports bra you can put over your bra.
Did you know that on the Modesty Survey, over 45% men interviewed said that having shirts with messages across the front draw to much attention to the bust? I hadn’t realized that until I read the survey. I felt so bad that I had been a stumbling block to so many of my Brothers. http://www.therebelution.com/modestysurvey/browse
I can appreciate your desire to be modest, but this is just over the top as far as I’m concerned. Some men will lust no matter what because of the condition of their heart, not because of a particular piece of clothing. Some of these “tips” are really starting to sound like legalism.
Carloine has a message across her shirt, but you cannot see her bust at all! Ladies, please use common sense regarding your wardorbe, without being legalistic.
Generally speaking I don’t wear text or images on my shirts for the reason Martha stated, but that’s my choice and one I don’t impose on anyone else. We’re all different shapes and sizes what might be right for one woman is not right for another. Speaking as a nursing mother who has always worn larger than normal bra’s, I do everything in my power to minimize this area, text just draws too much attention. These are definitely MY standards fit for MY body.
But I also don’t wear skirts and dresses all the time either. Standards aren’t necessarily legalistic. They become legalistic when you think they make you more spiritual or closer to God. Definitely don’t think I’m better than anyone else because of them.
Yes, the words “legalist” and “legalism” are so misused these days! Being legalistic means you think that following a certain set of rules is part of your salvation, or that you can keep your salvation by obeying these rules.
The Bible says “By grace are ye saved through faith, and that not of yourselves. It is the gift of God, not of works, lest any man should boast”.
Having certain standards of living that you believe are pleasing to the Lord is not legalistic. Only if you are relying on these “works” for your salvation!
If someone has a standard of living that we do not share (such as not wearing t shirts with writing on the front, etc) I think we need to have grace with them, and vice versa. And not accuse them of being legalists.
I respectfully disagree. Caroline is obviously wearing a very modest outfit. Anyone using common sense can see that. However Martha felt she needed to point out that the writing across her shirt would be a stumbling block to 45% of men in the modesty survey. Completely uncalled for! Maybe legalism isn’t the best word, but most of these over the top modesty people come off as so self righteous. Their hearts have become so hard, they have no grace left for the lost and broken. They become so focused on pleasing the Lord through actions, that they completely forget that we are only pleasing to Him because of Christ and Christ alone! If you want to set up certain standards for yourself, fine. But, too many of you continually judge others by those same standards, which is wrong!
Tracie, I did not mean that Martha’s remark was called for. And I personally do not share that standard, either. I am just saying that we could all have a little more grace toward each other.
As for your remarks about “over the top modest” people, that comment itself sounded a bit harsh and judgemental. I have actually found that others who are not as picky about their dress standards have often judged ME over the years, and not the other way around. I don’t even share my opinions about modesty with most people. And they still decide that I think I am better than they are, which is not the case.
Maybe this is nit-picking, but I think when the writing (or image or whatever) is emblazoned over the whole front, as is the case here, as opposed to being specifically over the bust, it isn’t such a big problem. I remember my mom used to buy those iron-on pictures and iron them right over the bust line of her sweatshirts. They were about 3-5″ thick, and my mom isn’t small (about a C), so they definitely attracted attention there. On the other hand, Caroline’s shirt is loose-fitting, not form-fitting, so it doesn’t seem to attract attention to anything under the shirt. Plus there is a message, not just a bunch of flowers or a cute bunny, which, IMO, would be more intellectually stimulating. Then again, I’m a woman. Maybe I should ask my husband’s opinion.
Um really? Because I just checked it out, it’s 31% and MOST of the respondents are TEENS. So really, I don’t take the advice of kids.
I had no idea this thread would get “heated”, It doesn’t take much when you’re talking about modesty. I’d just like to say for the “official” record, I think Caroline’s shirt is perfectly modest, I just don’t like wearing text myself because I’m um……… top heavy.
I wonder if the reason why teenage boys automatically say writing is a stumbling block is because the shirts that their peers wear are typically tighter and tend to say things like “flirt” “foxy” or worse ” you can’t afford me” Suggestive wording right across the bust coupled with curve hugging no wonder they stumble.
Legalism aside, our goal should be to be kind too men and even teenage boys. We all might have different ways of achieving this, but if we have the same goal I think everyone needs to tone down judgement and dial up the grace. (even me)
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I worked at a woman’s clothing store for years and we always told women
White under beige and beige under white.
White bra under a beige top and a beige bra under a white top.
I never knew! Thanks for the tip.
This tip work well with white skirt and slacks, too.
Please leave the floral undies home when wearing them! LOL!
LOl!!
I have heard of doing the same thing for underwear under a white skirt. Though I think you will ALWAYS have to wear a slip with a white skirt, if not two of them! Come to think of it, the suggestion was probably connected to white pants, not a white skirt, but the principle is the same: wear underwear that matches your skin-tone so that it doesn’t show through light-colored fabric. This could possibly apply to certain other pale colors, too.
Yes I agree, you will ALWAYS need a slip under a white skirt!
Great shirt, I love it. My cousin taught me the skin color under white trick, love it.
Thank you! My sister taught me this trick.
Love the tips! You look adorable as always. Thank you for always standing up for modesty and being a beautiful example of it.
Thanks so much for not being shy to put your t-shirt on here! Great job!
Blessings, Hannah
Yes, very helpful tip – thank you for sharing!
Yes I agree, I always like nude colored undergarments under whatever white clothing I’m wearing. Sometimes it shocking to see red bras under a white or other light colored shirt, and sad to see that they did it on purpose
I did have to tell a friend once that she really had to wear a slip with her white skirt because her white panties could be seen!
Wow, Caroline, I stumbled across your site a few days ago, and have been very challenged by what I have been reading! It is all new to me! When I was converted ten years ago I stopped wearing very short skirts as I felt it was inappropriate as a Christian, but oth than that it has never occurred to me that what I wear could be immodest, I have never really heard the word before! I have not come across just wearing skirts! I certainly have a lot to think about, so thank you for being thought provoking and challenging. I have a few questions, if you don’t mind …
xxx
What scriptures talk about dressing modestly? How can I explain what modesty is to my six year old daughter – she loves wearing dresses but always sits so that you can see her underwear, I’m not sure how to discuss it as it is innocent to her. Also, what about on the beach or swimming baths? I personally hate bikinis as I don’t like showing off my body, but I don’t want to missout on swimming with my kids. The other thing is taking into account my husbands preferences. He isn’t a Christian, and loves to see me in tight jeans and jumpers – he would hate it if I suddenly started hiding my figure, what would you say is the rule there? I’d appreciate advice xxx