My sister and I together on a play date with my children
Over and over again I hear a common complaint.
“I feel all alone in life. We don’t have any likeminded friends where we are at.”
I can relate to those feelings.
Growing up we had one set of friends. Due to different circumstances we parted ways when I was 12. Until the Lord opened the door for new friends to be found, our friends were found within our family. Looking back, I see many blessings that came from not being surrounded by an abundance of friends my whole life.
- My relationship with my sister increased and was made even stronger. She became my true best friend, along with my mother.
- I talked more to my mother, and we grew even closer as we spent a lot of time together!
- Our convictions were strong. We did not start dressing modestly, or homeschooling from peer pressure due to friends. Rather they were formed from my mother earnestly seeking and searching what the best way to raise her children would be.
- I was content with less. I learned to play by myself and with my brother and sister growing up. Jumping on the trampoline, riding bikes, going hiking (I was dragged along by my older brother and sister!), and building an indian tepee were exciting fun things I did growing up.
- I did not experience wanting to dress a certain way, buy the latest and greatest things, or try to mimic my friends. If anything, I tried to be like my older sister, and she graciously allowed me to tag along with her and try to mimic her.
We were not part of a homeschool group until I was in high school, and even then my mother was so sick with her Lupus that she could not participate. Our time spent there was joining the high school choir, which was a real treat for us. Some might say that we were socially deprived, but I honestly have never felt that way.
My sister, Mom and I at a Bed and Breakfast together a few months before she passed away. It was a dream of her’s to go to one, and my husband and brother in law made it happen for us to go together for a girl’s night out!
If your children do not know anything different, most likely they won’t be moaning about the fact that they don’t have an abundance of friends. Encourage them to build friendships with their siblings. You don’t have to be close in age to be great friends. My older sister is almost six years older than I am.
Ladies have asked me how to meet likeminded families where they live. My best advice is simply to pray about it. We tried and tried to find families to be friends with, but until the Lord opened the door it just didn’t happen. And when He did open the door, it was done in an amazing way, where you could easily spot the Lord’s hand directing our meeting these new families.
Here are some excellent resources to assist you in raising godly children if you find yourself in this time of life.
When you are experiencing times of great loneliness, don’t forget to read the Psalms! They are full of comfort and encouragement for the weary soul.