A reader asks…
“I love your Modest Monday posts! They are so helpful to me in inspiring me how to dress modestly. I have a question for you about dressing your daughters in skirts. I noticed in today’s post you have little Deborah in a footie pajama. I loved those for my little guy, he spent his first six months in those almost exclusively. But I also know that you and your girls choose to wear only skirts. At what point to you generally switch your girls to skirts full time? Although I don’t have a little girl, I have bought clothes as gifts for several friend’s little girls lately, and it has made me wonder about modesty for little girls. I see so many outfits for little girls that are adorable and seem so innocent on a baby or toddler, but on a grown woman it would be indecent. As a mother of several little girls, would you be willing to share some of your thoughts with me?”
My answer may surprise (and possibly disappoint) some of my readers.
We don’t have our little girls wear only dresses.
Little girls (our daughters are four and under, so assume I’m talking about this age) do not have a figure, thus making it easier to dress them in a little pair of pants and a top without drawing attention to themselves. If we were talking about a thirteen year old daughter, I would be writing something different. Babies are totally innocent – and I don’t know of any reason why dressing a baby girl in a sleeper could be considered immodest. I think at this age it is preference for a family. If you are convicted in your family to only wear dresses, and you prefer your daughters to wear dresses from birth on – by all means go for it! But to consider as a general rule that baby girls must wear only dresses in order to be modest? I can’t go so far as to say that, and I’m a pretty modest mama.
As Carrianna gets older, she has less and less pants in her drawer, and more skirts and dresses. I think this year she has 2 pairs of pants that are geared for play clothes. She prefers dresses at this point, and I want her to be used to wearing them. I have her wear shorts under her dresses to help her be modest as she is playing. Sometimes I think wearing a pair of pants can be even more modest for little girls unless they have a pair of shorts or pantaloons under their skirt.
Some other posts that are helpful on this topic:
A great resource for finding gently used clothing for girls is ThredUP. I shop there often for all three of my girl’s clothes. I purchase Gymboree tops to go with their skirts, as they hold up very well and can be passed down. Hanna Anderson clothing from ThredUP seems to be longer and more modest.
I’d love to hear my readers thoughts! I know this could be a hot topic, as some ladies feel pretty strong about what their daughters must wear to be modest.
Are your little girls allowed to wear pants?