Sometimes you just have to do something drastic in your life. That’s the point I came to this year, and it honestly wasn’t even very drastic. But I desperately needed some balance, because (insert surprised look here) there really is only 24 hours to a day!
I felt like I was attempting everything and achieving nothing. I gave an ounce of energy to homemaking, or to homeschooling, or to my marriage, but it never felt like enough. This blog has really not been kept up like it should, simply because I didn’t feel like I had the emotional or physical energy to write (thank you dear reader, for hanging in there and being patient!).
So what did I do that changed everything?
I put my children in a one day a week homeschool co-op, where they attend by themselves.
That translates into me being home for 6 hours without my 3 older children. 6 hours a week people. It’s not that much, but it has been an enormous help.
Before this I was at the point that I was literally crying everyday. I just felt like I could never keep up, and homeschooling was the most difficult thing. I love homeschooling, but there was a lot of stress surrounding it for several different reasons. It’s always a challenging year when you have an active toddler, and Sophia is by far our most active toddler!
(Minutes after this picture was taken, she was trying to eat the Loving Family people!)
Now I have this six hours a week to focus on working while they are gone, and doing some school with my first grader alone. It’s amazing. I work as hard as I can, making a to do list and working through it while they are gone.
I’m finding that I’m more focused on the other days, because I know I have that one day a week set aside now for these other tasks, so I don’t have to worry about trying to cram them in. My older children will get the fun science experiments, my oldest will receive help in math that he needs, my middle two children are learning how to use a computer in ways that I never would have thought to teach them (does anyone else think to teach a 10 year old how to make a slideshow and set up a Google Document?).
Yesterday I throughly enjoyed homeschooling. At the end of the day I was tired, but happy with what we got done.
Are you struggling in finding balance in life? What could be changed about your life to slow things down?
Struggling with fixing meals? How about creating a very simple 7 day meal plan that you use over and over again. Stop trying to think through what you are going to make each night, and just keep it some basic, favorite meals that your family likes!
Is it hard to keep your house clean? Box up extra toys, and just put them away for awhile if you don’t want to actually get rid of them. Leave out only a few toys and see if the house stays cleaner.
Are your children fighting all the time? Stop and pray with them, talk to them about how God wants them to love each other, and consider getting a set of Character Badges to encourage them in good behavior!
Does your marriage need a pick me up? Don’t merely survive for years on end, make it a priority to get away for a weekend if at all possible. Even though Sean and I went to California recently for a business trip and not a marriage getaway, it was the best thing every for our marriage! Just a few days away where we could actually talk without getting interrupted, and plan out where we were going with our business and family.
Are you struggling through that first year with the baby, feeling like you can’t get up one more night with the baby? There isn’t an easy solution to this one, besides letting go of a lot of expectations. Make it a priority to get an afternoon nap in, something easier said than done with a larger family! I always give myself more grace that first year, to let them watch a DVD while if I desperately need a nap.
Do you feel like you have nothing to wear that you like? Create a simple wardrobe (use this Modest Clothing Checklist post for ideas) and have a few core pieces that you like. Save up to purchase some basic items that you will use over and over again, and hit the thrift store as well!
Or maybe you just need a boost of encouragement? The 2016 Homemaking Ministries Online Conference is offering a flash sale for tickets for 5 days only, and they have some pretty awesome bonus offers! I’m really looking forward to hearing these ladies talk about finding balance in your home! I’ll be speaking on finding balance as a work at home homemaker!
If you grab an early bird ticket, here is what you receive.
- Full access to the conference (Normally $29.95)
- A bonus course on Goal Setting (has 6 video sessions that are PACKED with info) – by Jami
- A bonus “Goal Setting Workbook For Greater Balance & Purpose in Your Home” which includes 19 pages to walk them through making and creating smart goals.
- A bonus pack of items including: laminated bookmarks, a lamented to do list, several Scripture art prints, goal planning sheets, etc.
- Digital: they will receive access to the conference in October (which includes the private FB group), the bonus video course which they can access immediately, digital versions of the workbook and bonus items to print again and again!
- Physical: You will physically be mailed an amazing pack of resources including: A Christian tote bag, printed and spiral bound conference notebook with bonus articles, the workbook printed out on premium cardstock in a binder, and the bonus items printed and lamented.
- These bonus packages are set to ship out the first week in October so that all attendees will have the pack in hand by the conference.