Makeup and Heart Issues {Part 2}

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Makeup and Heart Issues

In my last post I talked about how important it is that we, as mothers, make an honest effort at avoiding the worn out mom look when we’re out and about. Not only do I feel better about myself when I tidy up my appearance I feel like I’m doing a little something towards putting the haggard homeschool mom persona to rest.

That said, I also tried to make it clear that I in no way believe that makeup is the magic bullet for feeling spent. No doubt, the pendulum can just as easily swing too far the other way to the point that makeup becomes a necessity that you can’t allow yourself to be seen without. Though I do wear makeup, here are a few things I keep in mind that help me balance it’s use.

My Heart Issue Check List

1. Do I feel so dependent on makeup that I can’t leave my house without it on? This is the biggest thing on my checklist. I don’t want to become so dependent on makeup that I can’t face someone without it. I want to be secure with my makeup on or off. The most important thing I want on my face is the countenance of the Lord, not the best, most natural makeup I can find.

The highest compliment I’ve ever been paid was by an older minister in our church who, when I was 13, told me that he could see the light of the Lord shining through my face. I’ve never forgotten that, and the feeling it gave me was far greater than a passing compliment on how pretty my makeup is. True beauty comes from within, and if I have to choose I want lasting beauty over external. However, I don’t feel like you have to pick one or the other. If your heart is in the right place I feel you can balance both properly.

Makeup and Heart Issues - A checklist of how I make sure wearing makeup is not becoming the most important thing to me.

2. Do I feel secure around my husband without makeup on? A few months ago I realized that I didn’t. My face was broke out, I was pregnant and hormonal and of course convinced myself that he didn’t like me as well when I didn’t have makeup on. I talked to him about it, and he assured me that was not the case. I purposefully cut back on how often I wore makeup until I felt myself secure again around my husband, no matter how I looked.

While I feel it is important to look nice for our husbands, they do see us in our best and worst times. We need to know they will be there for us no matter how we look, and just do our best to put on a good appearance when we can, and know that the love between us will carry us through the messy moments. :)

3. When people look at me, do they instantly think of how much makeup I have on? I don’t want the barbie doll, plastered on makeup look. Everyone has personal standards of what they feel is appropriate, but fake eyelashes and the dark makeup look is not for me. I want to compliment what God has given me, not put on a whole new face. I try to keep things as natural as I can, and carefully choose my colors.

Makeup and Heart Issues - A checklist of how I make sure wearing makeup is not becoming the most important thing to me.

4. Am I being a good example to my daughters? I have three young girls watching my every move. They ask me questions, and watch as I put makeup on. I always talk to them about how makeup is for mama’s, and how little girls don’t need it. They play with my makeup brushes, giggle about it, and run on their merry way. So far it has not been a huge issue in our house. They’re just delighted to use the EOS Chapstick I keep in my purse for them! :)

Tomorrow I’m going to share some practical tips on how I put makeup upon, and keep it super simple for a busy mom’s life! Bonus – I made a video for you all!

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We have two new items at Deborah & Co. 

Tiered Ruffle Maxi Skirts in 3 different colors!

Tiered Ruffle Maxi skirts in 3 different colors! The black and ivory has a lace look, but is actual fabric. These are available in limited quantity, so don’t delay if you want one!

Just released! Homemaking 201 DVD for encouragement to the wife, mother and homemaker!

Homemaking 201 is now available! I’m so excited to have a fantastic sequel to Homemaking 101. I’ve received so much encouragement from watching 101, and my six year old daughter just adores these DVD’s!

Makeup And The Face Of A Mother {Part 1}

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Makeup is a highly personal decision and there are a lot of heart issues involved in wearing it. Some women believe that all makeup turns the woman that’s wearing it into a painted face Jezebel of sorts. You weren’t born with makeup on your face, they reason, so why sully your natural countenance with such stuff?

Other women struggle with being so reliant on it that they can’t bring themselves to leave their house without some makeup on. Still others have grown accustomed to hardly wearing any at all and, as such, can do with or without it.

As for myself, I was well beyond my teens before I started wearing makeup with any regularity. I didn’t wear makeup in high school, though I definitely leaned towards wanting to wear it. The rules were pretty strict in our house so, outside of lip gloss, I just left it alone. As for my sister, she has pale skin, so she always wore blush to avoid looking like she just passed out. :)

The first time I started seriously wearing makeup was after I had my third child and the worn-out mom look began to creep onto my face. It was a huge help to boost my look as well as my mood during the day. I still don’t wear lots of makeup and things like eye liner are just not in my normal routine, but I have come to appreciate the positive effect it can have on the way I present myself to others.

Though I often feel weary (i.e. completely exhausted) I feel it is important to try and avoid projecting this to others. Sometimes exhaustion is unavoidable. However, not burdening others with how we feel (besides a few close friends) is, in many cases, a courtesy we owe to others. It’s really not their problem – why should we always come off as the haggard, run-down mom who looks as if she’s near the end of her rope?

Now don’t misunderstand me. I’m not suggesting that makeup is the cure-all for WOMF (worn-out mom face) (Haha! Made that one up!). Lipstick and mascara are not the cosmetic equivalent of downing a Red Bull. Nor am I suggesting that we constantly try to be something we’re not.

The truth is, if you truly feel as if you are constantly hanging on for dear life to the last few inches of your rope, you need a lot more than makeup. However, for the purposes of this post I want to suggest that a constant look of weariness on our face is not a badge of honor. Like it or not, few in this world know how to interpret it correctly. Sure, we’re tired and frazzled and there’s no sense in denying it, but we should be cautious of how we portray this precious life of mothering to those around us.

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When others see you, particularly non-believers, what do they see? It takes only a few seconds to form an opinion. They see your children – perhaps a larger number of them than they’re accustomed to seeing. “Got her hands full,” they whisper to themselves. Then they look at you. “How’s she holding up to all this?” they wonder as their eyes immediately turn to your face. And then, dear reader, comes the only fleeting moment you likely will be given to portray what manner of mother you are, and more importantly, if it’s all worth it. 

The last thing you want to convey to the onlooker is exasperation. That’s what they fully expect to see, and when they do it only confirms them in their derisive opinion of motherhood. Some mothers have given up trying to “put on a happy face” in public and by so doing they give motherhood a bad name. You don’t have to lie about how trying and tiresome your work can be, but at least you can make an effort tidy yourself up, perhaps put on a little makeup, fix you hair and go out into the incredulous world with a tired but satisfied smile on your face that says you have the best job in the world! Makeup doesn’t make you any less tired inside but it can certainly make you LOOK less tired and that can be something that you owe yourself as much as you owe those around you.

*I wrote the first draft of this post, and my husband added many of his thoughts to this post as well. Just an FYI if you are curious about a man’s perspective on all of this. Of course the most important man’s perspective is that of your husband or father. Part two is coming tomorrow!* 

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Modest Monday and a Link Up!

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You can still look feminine while you are pregnant! I found this dress in my bedroom Saturday night, and realized it had finally gotten washed and dried, and the children left it in my room for me. :) I had purchased this dress from Zulily during my last pregnancy, and I’m not sure why it took me so long to wear it this time around!

This is the ultimate in comfort as far as maxi dresses go. It never wrinkles, even after I found it wadded up on my floor. :) Since it is black, and how it is designed it seems to be more flattering than the last maternity maxi dress I wore.

A maternity maxi dress from Zulily, and a gap shirt and shoes from ThredUP! I love finding good deals for maternity clothes online!

The shoes and shirt came from ThredUP, a favorite place of mine to shop for gently used clothing. I was so excited to discover that they just added newborn-12 month size clothing! Perfect for shopping for the new baby! When you join as a new customer through this link you get a $10 credit, so you can get something almost free after shipping!

I curled my hair using Wrap Snap N Go rollers. They are so comfortable to sleep in, and take me about 5-10 minutes to put some mousse in my hair, and wrap my hair in them the night before I want curly hair. I’m not sure why I don’t take the time to do it more, I just need to get into the habit of it!

What I Wore

Maxi Dress – Zulily

(Greek Goddess Maternity Brand, I can’t seem to find it online anywhere now)

Shirt – Gap Maternity Long Sleeve Tee – ThredUP

Shoes – ThredUP

Headband – Pearl hair band from Lilla Rose

Earrings – Mialisa

Makeup – I was really tired, so the only thing I have on is some lip gloss from Cowgirl Dirt.

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Two Day Free Shipping Sale, Plus Cents Of Style State Necklaces!

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Free Shipping on all US orders of $20 or more at Deborah and Co! Last chance to save big and get your  Christmas shopping done!

Standard shipping for Christmas delivery is quickly coming to an end…but for two days only you can get free shipping on US orders of $20 or more at Deborah & Co. with the code: DECSHIPFREE. We don’t offer free shipping very often, so take advantage of this rare sale! You can grab a cami, skirt, or more with the free shipping sale!

The Heather Denim skirt is available to order again and will be shipping out sometime next week (We can’t guarantee Christmas delivery on that one item, as it might not ship until the end of next week. We will do our best though!).

Heather Denim Maxi Skirt with pockets!

 

On top of the free shipping sale, our Princess dress sale is still going on!

Buy two princess dresses and get a free coloring book!

Order any two princess play dresses and receive a free Family Treasury Coloring Book included in your package! No special code is needed – we will just add it in your order when it ships!

Brand new princess dresses at Deborah and Co! Scottish Princess and Winter Beauty. You can get one, or both of our new princess dresses for free shipping! The Scottish Princess and Winter Beauty are stunning dresses. One of my girls is getting the Winter Beauty dress for Christmas, but don’t tell her! ;)

If you are looking for a last minute, unique Christmas gift, Cents of Style is offering custom state necklaces on sale for $11.95 each, plus free shipping with the code: STATE.

State necklaces! If you love the state you live in, and have special memories there, this would be a neat necklace to have!

Cents of Style State Necklaces! I hope you all have a great weekend. I’ve been taking it easy the last two days and resting more. I seem to forget I’m really not a supermom, and can’t do everything while I’m pregnant! :)