Modest Monday and a Link Up!

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Black maternity Skirt with a blue pink blush maternity top.

This outfit would probably look more flattering with a belt, but I just felt like wearing a scarf today so did that instead. :) All my girls wore their red Christmas dresses to church Sunday, but instead of matching them I just added some red accents. I don’t wear lots of reds, so I decided not to buy a red top that I would be wearing mainly for christmas time while I’m pregnant.

December Flexi Clip from Lilla Rose!

I wore my mini December Crimson Joy flexi clip today! These are sold out online, but I do have a couple in stock myself if you really wanted one and missed out. :)

Almost third trimester, and I'm picking out outfits that are comfortable!

I love my scarf because my son gave it to me for Mother’s Day.  My shoes are so comfortable, and I got them for a really good deal on Zulily!

I’m excited that this is Christmas week!! I am baking cut out cookies with the children today. Last night we went to a live nativity and drove around looking at Christmas lights. Christmas break from school started Friday, so I’m just mom to my children for a week, instead of mom and teacher. ;)

What are you looking forward to the most this week?

What I Wore

Skirt – We used to sell it at Deborah & Co.

Top – Pink Blush Maternity top that I found gently used from ThredUP.

(I have had really good success getting a lot of maternity clothes, and almost all my children’s clothes from ThredUP! If you are a new customer, you can get a free $10 credit when you sign up through this link!)

Scarf- Cejon brand, from Marshalls.

Shoes – Zulily

Flexi Clip -Mini Crimson Joy from Lilla Rose 

Link Up Time!

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Makeup Tutorial for the Busy Mom {A Vlog!}

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Makeup Tutorial for Busy Moms!

I’m wrapping up the three part makeup series today with a tutorial for you!

A common argument I hear against wearing makeup is that it takes time to put on, and as a busy mom we just don’t feel we have any extra time to spare.

I get it. I really do. Yesterday I had a birthday party for our daughter who turns 5 today, and I never took the time to put makeup on before family came over. I was doing good to get the food cooked, and the house cleaned. If you are dealing with major fatigue, or you just had a baby, makeup is not going to be a high priority for you. And that’s ok.

I want to suggest though that a huge part of the problem is possibly just our routine. If we don’t generally wear makeup, we might make the thought of putting makeup on in the morning much bigger than it really needs to be.

I keep my makeup really simple. It really takes me about 5 minutes to put it on. I don’t do fancy techniques, just put the basics on and call it good. I made a makeup tutorial video to share with you, where I start from scratch (that means a face without makeup on, and a tired, pregnant mama face!) and show you how I put my makeup on.

Products I use

L'BRI Skincare Set has the first ingredient of Aloe Leaf, and is so healing and nourishing for your face! | themodestmomblog.com

 L’BRI Pure and Natural Skincare – You can use all the makeup out there, but the most important step before that is having a clean, healthy face! Some women have totally given up wearing makeup after finding the perfect skincare product that has done wonders for their face! I really have enjoyed using L’BRI, and like that it really is natural.

Here is some more info on the L’BRI skincare line:

In all L’BRI PURE n’ NATURAL skin care, health & wellness, hair, and body care products:

  • Aloe Barbadensis Miller, instead of water, is the first ingredient 
  • Natural, pharmaceutical-grade ingredients are used
  • Advanced Alpha Hydroxy fruit acids (10%) are released in a special, slow delivery system, which is proven to reduce wrinkles and improve skin clarity
  • An abundance of deep ocean seaweed and other anti-oxidants protect the skin from free radical damage
  • A blend of natural essential oils and synergistic herbal extracts are significant ingredients

L’BRI PURE n’ NATURAL skin care, health & wellness, hair, and body care products:

  • Are paraben free
  • Never use (SLS) sodium lauryl sulfate or propylene glycol
  • Never use mineral oil, lanolins, or waxes
  • Never use artificial colors or fragrances
  • Are never tested on animals
  • Effective for all skin types: normal, oily, dry, men, and women.
  • Backed by the L’BRI PURE n’ NATURAL 100% Satisfaction Guarantee

The bottles shown above last me for months, so the cost is very affordable when you break it down by 3-4 months! If you are on a really tight budget, I would choose the cleanser and the lotion only and see how that works for you.

I really like that you can order a sample skincare set, based on your skin type and only pay the shipping through L’BRI. You just click on the Free Samples button on the main page of the website. They have sample sets for Combination skin, extra dry, gentle (normal skin), deep pore, and oily. The samples last you 2-3 weeks!

You can order free samples through L'BRI and just pay for shipping!

Makeup

I use the L’BRI makeup line for quite a few of my products. I really love the dual action foundation, it works perfect for my skin. The Vitamin E lip stick is great for keeping my dry lips moisturized, and I like the lip gloss and makeup. I also use the mascara and eye shadows.

However I do like trying other products as well…which is why I love my monthly Ipsy subscription!

For $10 a month (shipping included) I have a bag sent to me of high quality makeup, and sometimes skincare products. I’ve been able to discover new products that work really well for me, and since I don’t wear makeup every day the smaller size products last longer than normal for me.

I’m a person who loves change. I think that’s why I like the monthly Ipsy bags so much. It gives me a chance to change up what I’m doing a little bit, without spending a lot of money each month on new makeup.  It is just a splurge I allow for myself. :) I’m not paid to share about Ipsy (I earn referral points but it is not cash!), I just think it is a neat concept and wanted to share more about it with you.

Makeup Tutorial for the Busy Mom - I love my monthly Ipsy bag subscription!

This is what I received in my December Ipsy bag. I’m really excited to try the tarte mascara, I’ve heard good things about it. I tried the Butter Lip Balm tonight and really like it. I was surprised at first that there was a color to it, but I ended up liking the color they sent! I haven’t had time to try anything else yet, it’s been a crazy month!

I have a few products I’ve been sent that I know won’t work for me. The Bumble and bumble hair product is not for my hair type (a first where I was sent something for curly hair when I have straight), and the other two products are just not something I’m going to use. So I thought I would do a fun giveaway, and include a sample set of the L’BRI skincare line and send a reader a fun little package in the mail!

(Please forgive the not so perfect picture, I had company coming and quickly snapped this picture before a birthday party started!). 

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Makeup and Heart Issues {Part 2}

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Makeup and Heart Issues

In my last post I talked about how important it is that we, as mothers, make an honest effort at avoiding the worn out mom look when we’re out and about. Not only do I feel better about myself when I tidy up my appearance I feel like I’m doing a little something towards putting the haggard homeschool mom persona to rest.

That said, I also tried to make it clear that I in no way believe that makeup is the magic bullet for feeling spent. No doubt, the pendulum can just as easily swing too far the other way to the point that makeup becomes a necessity that you can’t allow yourself to be seen without. Though I do wear makeup, here are a few things I keep in mind that help me balance it’s use.

My Heart Issue Check List

1. Do I feel so dependent on makeup that I can’t leave my house without it on? This is the biggest thing on my checklist. I don’t want to become so dependent on makeup that I can’t face someone without it. I want to be secure with my makeup on or off. The most important thing I want on my face is the countenance of the Lord, not the best, most natural makeup I can find.

The highest compliment I’ve ever been paid was by an older minister in our church who, when I was 13, told me that he could see the light of the Lord shining through my face. I’ve never forgotten that, and the feeling it gave me was far greater than a passing compliment on how pretty my makeup is. True beauty comes from within, and if I have to choose I want lasting beauty over external. However, I don’t feel like you have to pick one or the other. If your heart is in the right place I feel you can balance both properly.

Makeup and Heart Issues - A checklist of how I make sure wearing makeup is not becoming the most important thing to me.

2. Do I feel secure around my husband without makeup on? A few months ago I realized that I didn’t. My face was broke out, I was pregnant and hormonal and of course convinced myself that he didn’t like me as well when I didn’t have makeup on. I talked to him about it, and he assured me that was not the case. I purposefully cut back on how often I wore makeup until I felt myself secure again around my husband, no matter how I looked.

While I feel it is important to look nice for our husbands, they do see us in our best and worst times. We need to know they will be there for us no matter how we look, and just do our best to put on a good appearance when we can, and know that the love between us will carry us through the messy moments. :)

3. When people look at me, do they instantly think of how much makeup I have on? I don’t want the barbie doll, plastered on makeup look. Everyone has personal standards of what they feel is appropriate, but fake eyelashes and the dark makeup look is not for me. I want to compliment what God has given me, not put on a whole new face. I try to keep things as natural as I can, and carefully choose my colors.

Makeup and Heart Issues - A checklist of how I make sure wearing makeup is not becoming the most important thing to me.

4. Am I being a good example to my daughters? I have three young girls watching my every move. They ask me questions, and watch as I put makeup on. I always talk to them about how makeup is for mama’s, and how little girls don’t need it. They play with my makeup brushes, giggle about it, and run on their merry way. So far it has not been a huge issue in our house. They’re just delighted to use the EOS Chapstick I keep in my purse for them! :)

Tomorrow I’m going to share some practical tips on how I put makeup upon, and keep it super simple for a busy mom’s life! Bonus – I made a video for you all!

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Tiered Ruffle Maxi Skirts in 3 different colors!

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Makeup And The Face Of A Mother {Part 1}

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Makeup is a highly personal decision and there are a lot of heart issues involved in wearing it. Some women believe that all makeup turns the woman that’s wearing it into a painted face Jezebel of sorts. You weren’t born with makeup on your face, they reason, so why sully your natural countenance with such stuff?

Other women struggle with being so reliant on it that they can’t bring themselves to leave their house without some makeup on. Still others have grown accustomed to hardly wearing any at all and, as such, can do with or without it.

As for myself, I was well beyond my teens before I started wearing makeup with any regularity. I didn’t wear makeup in high school, though I definitely leaned towards wanting to wear it. The rules were pretty strict in our house so, outside of lip gloss, I just left it alone. As for my sister, she has pale skin, so she always wore blush to avoid looking like she just passed out. :)

The first time I started seriously wearing makeup was after I had my third child and the worn-out mom look began to creep onto my face. It was a huge help to boost my look as well as my mood during the day. I still don’t wear lots of makeup and things like eye liner are just not in my normal routine, but I have come to appreciate the positive effect it can have on the way I present myself to others.

Though I often feel weary (i.e. completely exhausted) I feel it is important to try and avoid projecting this to others. Sometimes exhaustion is unavoidable. However, not burdening others with how we feel (besides a few close friends) is, in many cases, a courtesy we owe to others. It’s really not their problem – why should we always come off as the haggard, run-down mom who looks as if she’s near the end of her rope?

Now don’t misunderstand me. I’m not suggesting that makeup is the cure-all for WOMF (worn-out mom face) (Haha! Made that one up!). Lipstick and mascara are not the cosmetic equivalent of downing a Red Bull. Nor am I suggesting that we constantly try to be something we’re not.

The truth is, if you truly feel as if you are constantly hanging on for dear life to the last few inches of your rope, you need a lot more than makeup. However, for the purposes of this post I want to suggest that a constant look of weariness on our face is not a badge of honor. Like it or not, few in this world know how to interpret it correctly. Sure, we’re tired and frazzled and there’s no sense in denying it, but we should be cautious of how we portray this precious life of mothering to those around us.

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When others see you, particularly non-believers, what do they see? It takes only a few seconds to form an opinion. They see your children – perhaps a larger number of them than they’re accustomed to seeing. “Got her hands full,” they whisper to themselves. Then they look at you. “How’s she holding up to all this?” they wonder as their eyes immediately turn to your face. And then, dear reader, comes the only fleeting moment you likely will be given to portray what manner of mother you are, and more importantly, if it’s all worth it. 

The last thing you want to convey to the onlooker is exasperation. That’s what they fully expect to see, and when they do it only confirms them in their derisive opinion of motherhood. Some mothers have given up trying to “put on a happy face” in public and by so doing they give motherhood a bad name. You don’t have to lie about how trying and tiresome your work can be, but at least you can make an effort tidy yourself up, perhaps put on a little makeup, fix you hair and go out into the incredulous world with a tired but satisfied smile on your face that says you have the best job in the world! Makeup doesn’t make you any less tired inside but it can certainly make you LOOK less tired and that can be something that you owe yourself as much as you owe those around you.

*I wrote the first draft of this post, and my husband added many of his thoughts to this post as well. Just an FYI if you are curious about a man’s perspective on all of this. Of course the most important man’s perspective is that of your husband or father. Part two is coming tomorrow!* 

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